How to sustain erection?

[nightowl85 Member Find all posts View Profile Close nightowl85]

Lately I've noticed I've been having trouble with sustaining an erection. It's not as dramatic as I'm making it out to be, I can get it up but if it's not stimulated I usually loose it within 90 seconds or so. The worst part is I'm getting flat even during sex, which has never happened to me before. My head becomes insensitive after 10 minutes of humping, and I can't really stop for longer period of time with my dick inside of her because even that would make me go limp after a while. It's not always like this, but it's getting more frequent!

However, there are certain other elements to take into consideration, like the relationship I'm in right now and have been for a couple of years, well I'm just not as much into it anymore. I love the girl but I'm not IN LOVE with her. When we first started dating I could get it up 2 times in one session WITH CONDOM, these days I can hardly keep an erection WITHOUT the condom. And that's starting to freak me out. Obviousely much of it has to do with this relationship thing, but the fact that my dick gets insensitive during intercourse is not something I can blame on anything else but myself.

Has anyone experienced this before?

[pe_ZEN Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close pe_ZEN]

Yes, it is most likely your relationship that is the cause. I was in a relationship once but the sex was boring. You simply may not be that turned on by this girl.

What if you tried a new position?
What if you used toys - girls can really enjoy those Hold a vibrator on her while you do her
You should try to mix it up more.

-It could be your diet and/or lack of exercise

-do you masturbate on the side? and what is your PE routine?

-do you watch porn?

also being engaged in your mind during the act of sex can REALLY change your arousal level and distract your attention.

[nightowl85 Member Find all posts View Profile Close nightowl85]

Yes we are actually more like best friends than sex partners, so there are some inhibitions that weren't there before we got to know eachother this well. The sex is more like pressure relase most of the time and not really what I would call an intresting sex life at all. It feels like I'm doing my best (girl) friend ... and that's only hot if you start off as friends and then go on to banging eachothers brains out, and not if you become friends by doing so. Either way, I'm gonna start doing kegels regulary and drinking that tea all of you keep talking about.. that'll maybe put things in perspective

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[pe_ZEN Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close pe_ZEN]

Yes we are actually more like best friends than sex partners, so there are some inhibitions that weren't there before we got to know eachother this well. The sex is more like pressure relase most of the time and not really what I would call an intresting sex life at all. It feels like I'm doing my best (girl) friend ... and that's only hot if you start off as friends and then go on to banging eachothers brains out, and not if you become friends by doing so. Either way, I'm gonna start doing kegels regulary and drinking that tea all of you keep talking about.. that'll maybe put things in perspective

well good luck to you One thing that I learned works for me is "being able to do what I want to do". A girl that can respect your power and authority during sex is a turn on! Therefore take charge...Put her into positions without saying a word. If you have a free hand stimulate her clit while you do her. She would most likely be willing to go along with it, as long as you are the one that initiates. I've learned that some girls don't like feeling like the one who initiates things, although some girls are different. The ball is in your court, dude.