Here is a little technique which can help train the brain for plateau. It is also useful for those who are less advanced and want to know what plateau feels like. On top of all that, it should be good for hardness as well!
First, you need to get yourself in the mood; get an erection. Close your eyes and try and do it without touching yourself though, do it only with imagination. Imagine someone you really love or someone who is very attractive to you. Once you manage to get it up, slowly begin edging, while still imagining sexy things about this pereon. Try not to let your mind wander. When it starts to feel good, completely stop edging. However, continue your imagination. See if you can still get good feelings even though you aren't touching yourself.
*IMPORTANT*- when you aren't touching yourself DON'T do kegels to make it feel good. This is a very bad habit. In fact, don't kegel at any time during this exercise.
If the feelings start going away, then slowly begin edging again until you start to feel good again. Then repeat with the imagination. Again if the feelings go away, go back to edging. Keep repeating these steps of alternating edging and stopping.
For me atleast, doing this was very effective when I was first trying to get to plateau. I personally need imagination to get into plateau it doesn't work otherwise. This was a way of using imagination without losing control.
Also, it is very relaxing when you are just using imagination, and this is also beneficial to getting into plateau.
Lastly, you aren't going to ejaculate from imagination alone and no touching. This helps separate the connection which I believe all premature ejaculators have of pleasure=orgasm. If you can manage to get good feelings just from the imagination, it will teach your body that it can feel good without ejacultion. This seperation of pleasure and orgasm is the most important thing in getting into plateau, since that's what the plateau phase is- pleasure without orgasm.
The idea then is that your start decreasing the amount of time you stop for and increasing the amount of time you edge for, while still maintaining the same pleasure level. Hopefully by practicing this your body will learn firstly to get into plateau, and secondly to stay there, so that when you do begin getting rid of the stopping time, your body will stay in plateau and not speed of to orgasm.
Again, all this wont happen over night because you're reprogramming many years of quick ejaculation reflexes. The idea is that this gradual change into lasting longer while still enjoying yourself, combined with a routine to fix any physical tension will, overtime reprogram your response so that it becomes natural to last long. If many years of poor habits can make you cum quickly, I don't see why many months (possibly even years) of good habits can't reverse this. However you do need to accept that it will take time- you aren't going to be able to change a lifetimes worth of habits overnight. I once read it takes 8000 repetitions of a movement to get it so your body can do it automatically (muscle memory) - so 8000 edging sessions later you'll be fixed .
Of course, it won't actually take this long since you'll be improving gradually all the time and will therefore be able to control yourself through various techniques, but it will take time before you have fixed it to a degree you don't even have to think about it any more. That is the final goal.
First, you need to get yourself in the mood; get an erection. Close your eyes and try and do it without touching yourself though, do it only with imagination. Imagine someone you really love or someone who is very attractive to you. Once you manage to get it up, slowly begin edging, while still imagining sexy things about this pereon. Try not to let your mind wander. When it starts to feel good, completely stop edging. However, continue your imagination. See if you can still get good feelings even though you aren't touching yourself.
*IMPORTANT*- when you aren't touching yourself DON'T do kegels to make it feel good. This is a very bad habit. In fact, don't kegel at any time during this exercise.
If the feelings start going away, then slowly begin edging again until you start to feel good again. Then repeat with the imagination. Again if the feelings go away, go back to edging. Keep repeating these steps of alternating edging and stopping.
For me atleast, doing this was very effective when I was first trying to get to plateau. I personally need imagination to get into plateau it doesn't work otherwise. This was a way of using imagination without losing control.
Also, it is very relaxing when you are just using imagination, and this is also beneficial to getting into plateau.
Lastly, you aren't going to ejaculate from imagination alone and no touching. This helps separate the connection which I believe all premature ejaculators have of pleasure=orgasm. If you can manage to get good feelings just from the imagination, it will teach your body that it can feel good without ejacultion. This seperation of pleasure and orgasm is the most important thing in getting into plateau, since that's what the plateau phase is- pleasure without orgasm.
The idea then is that your start decreasing the amount of time you stop for and increasing the amount of time you edge for, while still maintaining the same pleasure level. Hopefully by practicing this your body will learn firstly to get into plateau, and secondly to stay there, so that when you do begin getting rid of the stopping time, your body will stay in plateau and not speed of to orgasm.
Again, all this wont happen over night because you're reprogramming many years of quick ejaculation reflexes. The idea is that this gradual change into lasting longer while still enjoying yourself, combined with a routine to fix any physical tension will, overtime reprogram your response so that it becomes natural to last long. If many years of poor habits can make you cum quickly, I don't see why many months (possibly even years) of good habits can't reverse this. However you do need to accept that it will take time- you aren't going to be able to change a lifetimes worth of habits overnight. I once read it takes 8000 repetitions of a movement to get it so your body can do it automatically (muscle memory) - so 8000 edging sessions later you'll be fixed .
Of course, it won't actually take this long since you'll be improving gradually all the time and will therefore be able to control yourself through various techniques, but it will take time before you have fixed it to a degree you don't even have to think about it any more. That is the final goal.
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