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MONTGOMERY'S LOG beginning 11/29/14 - MinuteMan, LLN, JamesMon-- Everyone Chime in!
What’s Up Guys,
Monty here. I’m here mostly to put it on record that I WILL NOT stop solving this issue until I drop DEAD. I am using this site as a confessional and spilling it all because I know once it’s fully out there I MUST do everything I possibly can about it. I, like many members on here, want to be the guy 6 months, 1 year, 2 years from now instructing people on what to do in their situation. It’s giving back to an issue that’s underdiagnosed, misunderstood, and about as frustrating as they come…cum. I had to. Comedy is sometimes life's lubrication. One thing that constantly keeps me enthusiastic and dogged is, “Imagine the day you’re on the other side of this. Sex will MEAN more to me. WOMEN will mean more. LIFE will mean more.” Because of the hole I climbed out of. So, here’s to a lifetime of being a champion.
I have been a 10+ obsesser over Premature Ejaculation. I remember my ex-girlfriend first giving me a hand-job and pretty much as soon as she touched my penis I came. We just sat there and watched the rest of “10 Things I Hate about You” and it was never discussed. I have pretty much been obsessively reading articles, kegeling, edging, browsing the web, creams, SSRIs, blah blah. It wasn’t until this past year that I’ve really gotten serious about DOING something about it. And doing it CONSISTENTLY. And by doing, I mean doing the WORK.
The closest I ever came to finishing something was a guy named Deon Black’s 47 Premature Ejaculation Cure. I finished the program and I got to say – it didn’t work. I was so pumped to finish it, it just didn’t work. I still felt sensitive, I still felt Involuntary Kegels. And I felt no control.
I grew up Catholic and would use every opportunity to masturbate really fast. “I’m going to the store be back in 3 minutes” my mom would ssay. Got to get one in! I started to get creative. Banana peels, humping pillows, the bed, watching lovely scrambled porn or that one scene in Titanic. I even got into the habit of renting art books from the local library with pictures of nude women for the purpose of sketching the human body and would jerk it to that. I would put my penis by the jets in my family pool (right on the sweet spot on the underside of my glans) and cum in the pool. All these experiences were 3 stages Horny – Erect – Cum. There was no enjoyment in the process, just in the finishing of it.
Most of my sexual experiences have been versions of this coming fast scenario. Sometimes I could last with handjobs and blowjobs, sometimes I couldn’t. Usually this happened when I got a little bit more used to or comfortable with the girl I was with. But I almost always (with the exception of being REALLY hungover a few times) couldn’t last during sex. I am a very perfectionistic person and am horny and desirous – it’ s strange when you have a scenario where it feels like your body has been pitted against you. All systems are a go – but so much so that it goes too fast.
-- I COME TO THIS FORUM HAVING MESSED AROUND WITH A GIRL LAST NIGHT. I was fingering her and my dick was THROBBING. I could feel it in my jeans IKing like a motherfucker. While I fingered her, I figured I would go into my pants and play with myself “priming” my dick for her hand to touch it so it wasn’t so foreign. I was so INSANELY sensitive. And I can’t even call it “turned on” because I didn’t “feel positive”. I felt horny and upset because I knew what would happen. So, I started playing with myself and her at the same time. NEEDLESS TO say, I decided I’d try to make myself cum in my pants so that by the time she would touch me I wouldn’t be so sensitive. I came in my pants but couldn’t get it back up and the situation pretty much fizzled out from there. This is NOT the first time something like this has happened and I’m absolutely positively utterly fucking sick of it. I’m willing to put in the work I just need a little guidance and support because the battle with this condition can become very hidden and very lonely.
I am a 27 year old male, in shape, pretty damn good diet, and plenty of women are interested in me. But I can tell they get “off-put” because they can feel that I get apprehensive in sexual situations. Some women have even called me “gay” behind my back because of my avoidance of these situations.
Here is my plan of attack moving forward:
Kegels – Reverse ONLY (for now). I can feel those strong IKs happening in my pants and I want to STOP THEM. 30-50 reps 2 or 3 times per day.
Penis Stretching – This seemed to work for me before. When I was doing this I had a girl give me head (about a year ago) and I lasted 8 to 10 min. This seems to reduce IKs.
Edging – 3 Day Routine. Also, combined with plateau edging with ballooning. When sensitivity goes down I will introduce the Fleshlight STU which I have had for the past 3 years but don't use that much because i cum fast EVEN IN THAT. I also may incorporate JamesMonroe's technique every third time because I need some desensitization. I have used "Promescent" in the past and it worked. My penis was a little numb but I was so turned on by the situation that it was all GREAT. I want to get there without having to use dick-cream and ruining the moment by running to the restroom to spray my cock, then running back 10 minutes later to rub it off, all the while coming up with lies as to why I'm doing all of this. That's not very sexy.
My Question to Last Longer Noob and MinuteMan and anyone else who wants to chime in is…should I be working toward DO and MMO now? Or should I wait until I get my sex up to 7-10 minutes THEN work on that? I know that sometimes they say too strong Kegels will cause PremE. My question is: should I work to better stop my ejaculations in their tracks with HARD KEGELS. Or should I work on prolonging my ejaculation time. It seems to me that doing both of these simultaneously Is impossible? Because all of the strong Kegeling involved in DO and MMO would hinder progress in building up stamina for PremE. Anyone have a comment on this?
I have noticed that I can only maintain a nice erection (meaning "round 2") after I cum if I am stimulated for awhile. Like, last night I prematurely came and my dick went down RIGHT AWAY. And I didn’t get hard again until I left that girls apartment and came home. Something tells me the psychological aspect of embarrassment doesn’t allow me to get hard again. I know that a lot of this stuff has to be learned in action (meaning with a girl) but if I’m too embarrassed to go there I’ll never get to train myself.
Do you think arousal control is important for someone in my situation?
Any other suggestions?
I am so grateful a place like this exists. I look forward to beating this thing with everyone’s help!
Monty here. I’m here mostly to put it on record that I WILL NOT stop solving this issue until I drop DEAD. I am using this site as a confessional and spilling it all because I know once it’s fully out there I MUST do everything I possibly can about it. I, like many members on here, want to be the guy 6 months, 1 year, 2 years from now instructing people on what to do in their situation. It’s giving back to an issue that’s underdiagnosed, misunderstood, and about as frustrating as they come…cum. I had to. Comedy is sometimes life's lubrication. One thing that constantly keeps me enthusiastic and dogged is, “Imagine the day you’re on the other side of this. Sex will MEAN more to me. WOMEN will mean more. LIFE will mean more.” Because of the hole I climbed out of. So, here’s to a lifetime of being a champion.
I have been a 10+ obsesser over Premature Ejaculation. I remember my ex-girlfriend first giving me a hand-job and pretty much as soon as she touched my penis I came. We just sat there and watched the rest of “10 Things I Hate about You” and it was never discussed. I have pretty much been obsessively reading articles, kegeling, edging, browsing the web, creams, SSRIs, blah blah. It wasn’t until this past year that I’ve really gotten serious about DOING something about it. And doing it CONSISTENTLY. And by doing, I mean doing the WORK.
The closest I ever came to finishing something was a guy named Deon Black’s 47 Premature Ejaculation Cure. I finished the program and I got to say – it didn’t work. I was so pumped to finish it, it just didn’t work. I still felt sensitive, I still felt Involuntary Kegels. And I felt no control.
I grew up Catholic and would use every opportunity to masturbate really fast. “I’m going to the store be back in 3 minutes” my mom would ssay. Got to get one in! I started to get creative. Banana peels, humping pillows, the bed, watching lovely scrambled porn or that one scene in Titanic. I even got into the habit of renting art books from the local library with pictures of nude women for the purpose of sketching the human body and would jerk it to that. I would put my penis by the jets in my family pool (right on the sweet spot on the underside of my glans) and cum in the pool. All these experiences were 3 stages Horny – Erect – Cum. There was no enjoyment in the process, just in the finishing of it.
Most of my sexual experiences have been versions of this coming fast scenario. Sometimes I could last with handjobs and blowjobs, sometimes I couldn’t. Usually this happened when I got a little bit more used to or comfortable with the girl I was with. But I almost always (with the exception of being REALLY hungover a few times) couldn’t last during sex. I am a very perfectionistic person and am horny and desirous – it’ s strange when you have a scenario where it feels like your body has been pitted against you. All systems are a go – but so much so that it goes too fast.
-- I COME TO THIS FORUM HAVING MESSED AROUND WITH A GIRL LAST NIGHT. I was fingering her and my dick was THROBBING. I could feel it in my jeans IKing like a motherfucker. While I fingered her, I figured I would go into my pants and play with myself “priming” my dick for her hand to touch it so it wasn’t so foreign. I was so INSANELY sensitive. And I can’t even call it “turned on” because I didn’t “feel positive”. I felt horny and upset because I knew what would happen. So, I started playing with myself and her at the same time. NEEDLESS TO say, I decided I’d try to make myself cum in my pants so that by the time she would touch me I wouldn’t be so sensitive. I came in my pants but couldn’t get it back up and the situation pretty much fizzled out from there. This is NOT the first time something like this has happened and I’m absolutely positively utterly fucking sick of it. I’m willing to put in the work I just need a little guidance and support because the battle with this condition can become very hidden and very lonely.
I am a 27 year old male, in shape, pretty damn good diet, and plenty of women are interested in me. But I can tell they get “off-put” because they can feel that I get apprehensive in sexual situations. Some women have even called me “gay” behind my back because of my avoidance of these situations.
Here is my plan of attack moving forward:
Kegels – Reverse ONLY (for now). I can feel those strong IKs happening in my pants and I want to STOP THEM. 30-50 reps 2 or 3 times per day.
Penis Stretching – This seemed to work for me before. When I was doing this I had a girl give me head (about a year ago) and I lasted 8 to 10 min. This seems to reduce IKs.
Edging – 3 Day Routine. Also, combined with plateau edging with ballooning. When sensitivity goes down I will introduce the Fleshlight STU which I have had for the past 3 years but don't use that much because i cum fast EVEN IN THAT. I also may incorporate JamesMonroe's technique every third time because I need some desensitization. I have used "Promescent" in the past and it worked. My penis was a little numb but I was so turned on by the situation that it was all GREAT. I want to get there without having to use dick-cream and ruining the moment by running to the restroom to spray my cock, then running back 10 minutes later to rub it off, all the while coming up with lies as to why I'm doing all of this. That's not very sexy.
My Question to Last Longer Noob and MinuteMan and anyone else who wants to chime in is…should I be working toward DO and MMO now? Or should I wait until I get my sex up to 7-10 minutes THEN work on that? I know that sometimes they say too strong Kegels will cause PremE. My question is: should I work to better stop my ejaculations in their tracks with HARD KEGELS. Or should I work on prolonging my ejaculation time. It seems to me that doing both of these simultaneously Is impossible? Because all of the strong Kegeling involved in DO and MMO would hinder progress in building up stamina for PremE. Anyone have a comment on this?
I have noticed that I can only maintain a nice erection (meaning "round 2") after I cum if I am stimulated for awhile. Like, last night I prematurely came and my dick went down RIGHT AWAY. And I didn’t get hard again until I left that girls apartment and came home. Something tells me the psychological aspect of embarrassment doesn’t allow me to get hard again. I know that a lot of this stuff has to be learned in action (meaning with a girl) but if I’m too embarrassed to go there I’ll never get to train myself.
Do you think arousal control is important for someone in my situation?
Any other suggestions?
I am so grateful a place like this exists. I look forward to beating this thing with everyone’s help!
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