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[snuffy Member Find all posts View Profile Close snuffy]

Well, we have moved closer to the act. The anal lube worked great and I was able to use my fingers than a medium size toy on my gf. She was able to have a orgasm but experienced some pain when I removed the toy. I think the orgasm caused her anus to tighten up, and she was quick to ask me to remove it. So after I decided to count this as a huge step forward for her. And wait until next time to push forward with my tool. She was very pleased with how this went and looks forward to our next step closer to full on anal sex with me. Another note, she was pretty much sober. She only had one beer with dinner.

My starting eg was 5.5 and I am about 5.6 now so that is why I'm trying to move slow. Had she not experienced that pain I would have tried to enter her. But choose to wait. No need to push the envelope and myself in the foot at the same time.

Anal lube.. A must!

[Ivor Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Ivor]

Yep, patience is key, well done - remember you're asking her body to do something it doesn't naturally want to do (which, of course, is half the fun! ).

Anal lube.. A must!

Indeed - can't believe how long I spent buggering about (pun intended) with vaseline, when there's much better lubes out there...

[funflyer Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close funflyer]

She was able to have a orgasm but experienced some pain when I removed the toy. I think the orgasm caused her anus to tighten up, and she was quick to ask me to remove it. So after I decided to count this as a huge step forward for her.
Anal lube.. A must!

A plus side of using your tool is after you cum your tool will get smaller and softer in size by design so this won't be such an issue.

Keep being patient. You will get there soon enough. Just remember patience and making this enjoyable is the key to success!

[Ivor Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Ivor]

That reminds me of another point - if she tells you to get out, don't just pull straight out of her, withdraw slowly and smoothly over the course of several seconds, especially if you're still hard. Having something rapidly pulled out of one's arsehole can hurt more than having it pushed up there in the first place (as I've found myself, with my girlfriend's fingers - I can only imagine it'd be much worse with a cock).

[snuffy Member Find all posts View Profile Close snuffy]

Both very good points! Thanks for the help guys!

[Batwoman Moderator ReservePEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Batwoman]

You guys raise some good points -- what you do when withdrawing after anal sex is just as important as what you do going in. Particularly after an orgasm, I tend to clamp down and tighten up. Pulling right out is NOT what I want my partner to do! I much prefer a bit of rest time with him still inside. This doesn't need to be along time -- a minute or two will do -- but it both lets me relax physically and enjoy the afterglow a bit. One advantage of real anal sex over a sex toy is just what funflyer pointed out: when we are done, his cock softens and gets smaller on its own which makes it feel nicer when he pulls out. The very last thing that a lady wants is to have you pull out fast when you are hard after she has just cum! Much better to wait a bit and take your time.

And if you are partway in, or all the way in, and your partner starts to feel pain and wants you out -- take it slow. Ivor is completely correct. Don't just yank out, pause for a moment, then go slowly and smoothly. If you pull out too fast it will shock her into clamping down even tighter, which will cause her more discomfort. Much better to go slowly. You can reassure your partner by saying "OK baby, I'm stopping now, let's just go slow while I pull out...." so they will know that you are taking their request seriously and backing off. So much of anal sex is about trust and relaxation, it is great if you keep talking through it until you gain some experience and both partners can really let go and enjoy it fully.

[danvers Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close danvers]

My wife and I have been slowly moving in this direction.

She goes wild when I press up against here ass. She love have the area rubbed and stimulated. However, any penetration beyond the first nuckle is a little strange for her and she withdraws.

I think over time she is getting more and more curious and will eventual want to give it a go. It does seem as she is getting older she is more into rough play and adventurous sex.

[snuffy Member Find all posts View Profile Close snuffy]

I think I will suggest tonight be another anal exploration night. :-)

I'll let you guys know how things go.

[Ivor Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Ivor]

I think I will suggest tonight be another anal exploration night. :-)

I'll let you guys know how things go.

Whatever you do, don't come insider her, withdraw and then go "BRB, gotta boast on the internet".

Or you will not get the chance again.

Edit: oh, the post about mobile phones has disappeared. Shame, I thought it was quite funny. Never mind.

[Batwoman Moderator ReservePEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Batwoman]

I had a fantastic anal experience recently, just made me want more.

[CUSP82 Administrator Admin of the Month Dec 2014PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close CUSP82]

Oh my!

[someone_like_u Retired ModeratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close someone_like_u]

I had a fantastic anal experience recently, just made me want more.

I'm with you on this one BW! If it's done right, you do want more. It's still new to me/hubby so we're enjoying it I guess it's like when we first started having sex all those years ago, just couldn't get enough, you know? Whew....anyway

snuffy, maybe tonight should be anal exploration night for everyone Hope all goes well

[CUSP82 Administrator Admin of the Month Dec 2014PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close CUSP82]

No tonight is Monday Night football!

[TheSnitch Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close TheSnitch]

maybe tonight should be anal exploration night for everyone Hope all goes well

Hell yeah! I'm gonna head down to the bar right now and explain this to the first girl I see, hopefully she'll understand and be into it.

[Closed039 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Closed039]

Hell yeah! I'm gonna head down to the bar right now and explain this to the first girl I see, hopefully she'll understand and be into it.

Aw shucks the bar is too expensive. Just go to Penn State, but don't forget to bring your children!