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Drunken Anal Mess... Well not really...

I have had anal sex with a couple girls who told me anal was a favorite of theirs and each one told me my patience and technique was perfect. So now my new girlfriend of 4 months has mentioned wanting to try anal. Her quote was (get me drunk, be patient and use lots of lube). I was like... Ummm I am not sure I want to perform a sexual act that your need to be drunk to participate in. I just dont think that's the smart thing to do. Note I figure she has had anal sex before, by the way she talks, but I haven't asked her outright. So the next opportunity we were together itimately I lubes up a finger and did the normal rim play, and worked that into shallow entance. I did this for awhile just seeing if she enjoyed it. She seemed to... Than I went a little deeper and her moans got deeper, and after a short time she told me that she needed to stop. Note she was completely sober. So I kind of figured that anal wouldn't happen. But she still speaks about wanting to try it. I ended up buying a couple enema's as she mentioned she worried about being clean. But she still insists that I need to attempted the anal feat while she is drunk... And that concerns me... So I am still on the fence about how to proceed with her requests for wanting to try anal with me... Any advise? I'm all ears.

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I'll wait for the video with Spanky! Sounds funny; waiting with a guy named Spanky for an anal video!

No no no.
Videos are not nearly as much fun as actually doing it (at least in my opinion).

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I have had anal sex with a couple girls who told me anal was a favorite of theirs and each one told me my patience and technique was perfect. So now my new girlfriend of 4 months has mentioned wanting to try anal. Her quote was (get me drunk, be patient and use lots of lube). I was like... Ummm I am not sure I want to perform a sexual act that your need to be drunk to participate in. I just dont think that's the smart thing to do. Note I figure she has had anal sex before, by the way she talks, but I haven't asked her outright. So the next opportunity we were together itimately I lubes up a finger and did the normal rim play, and worked that into shallow entance. I did this for awhile just seeing if she enjoyed it. She seemed to... Than I went a little deeper and her moans got deeper, and after a short time she told me that she needed to stop. Note she was completely sober. So I kind of figured that anal wouldn't happen. But she still speaks about wanting to try it. I ended up buying a couple enema's as she mentioned she worried about being clean. But she still insists that I need to attempted the anal feat while she is drunk... And that concerns me... So I am still on the fence about how to proceed with her requests for wanting to try anal with me... Any advise? I'm all ears.

If she insists on being drunk, then don't do it. That's never a good way to enhanced intimacy. If she's really interested and inquisitive about anal sex, talk about it, and plan it. You should be under no time pressure and she should know with 100% certainty that (A) she can set the pace, (B) she can call it off anytime during, and (C) you won't mind. It should all be about exploration and pleasure, no pressure.

The first few times for me we just explored the feelings with anal play, no full penetration, moving on to more standard sex once we got really worked up. When we finally decided to try full penetration anal sex, we did it first with me on my back with my legs up, so he could see my face and I could see his, so we were totally connected. He could read what I wanted, we could talk, and it made me feel safe and in control. I was surprised how easy and pleasurable it was. But I wasn't feeling afraid or pressured, just totally relaxed and enjoying intimacy and new feelings with my trusted partner.

Final tip: buy some good anal lube, too. It is very much worth it, and will make it much easier for both of you.

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Drunk may not be a good idea, if she means a few drinks that might be different. The times me and my wife did it she had a couple of drinks and she said it is easier for her then because she can relax better. My wife never drinks to the point of being drunk. I think a few drinks would be ok, as long as its enough to take the edge off kinda thing.

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Drunk may not be a good idea, if she means a few drinks that might be different. The times me and my wife did it she had a couple of drinks and she said it is easier for her then because she can relax better. My wife never drinks to the point of being drunk. I think a few drinks would be ok, as long as its enough to take the edge off kinda thing.

Agree completely.

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I have had anal sex with a couple girls who told me anal was a favorite of theirs and each one told me my patience and technique was perfect. So now my new girlfriend of 4 months has mentioned wanting to try anal. Her quote was (get me drunk, be patient and use lots of lube). I was like... Ummm I am not sure I want to perform a sexual act that your need to be drunk to participate in. I just dont think that's the smart thing to do. Note I figure she has had anal sex before, by the way she talks, but I haven't asked her outright. So the next opportunity we were together itimately I lubes up a finger and did the normal rim play, and worked that into shallow entance. I did this for awhile just seeing if she enjoyed it. She seemed to... Than I went a little deeper and her moans got deeper, and after a short time she told me that she needed to stop. Note she was completely sober. So I kind of figured that anal wouldn't happen. But she still speaks about wanting to try it. I ended up buying a couple enema's as she mentioned she worried about being clean. But she still insists that I need to attempted the anal feat while she is drunk... And that concerns me... So I am still on the fence about how to proceed with her requests for wanting to try anal with me... Any advise? I'm all ears.

Dude. Man up. She will do it with a different dude drunk if you don't.

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I think I have a little crush on Batwoman Hi I'm Murphy

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Dude. Man up. She will do it with a different dude drunk if you don't.

Don't be an ass, Jackxxx. He is handling this just right -- in a thoughtful way. Your macho manly comment is just plain mean-spirited. I guess if your plan is to make him question himself and his girl just so you can feel all good and superior, then you did the right thing. But to actually help him? Nope.

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I have never tried cowgirl or reverse cowgirl for anal. I confess that I am a bit nervous about those, mostly because I am not sure how well I could control my descent onto his cock.... and I don't want to go too fast because I fear that could hurt.

This position - I mean 'cowgirl', with you facing him - is fine as long as you trust your lover (and I hope you do!) to remain still, at least to start with, while you get him inside you and get comfortable. He can put his hands under your bum* to help support you if you're worried about sinking down too quickly; then, once you're 'into it', you've got the choice of either moving up and down, or kneeling still while he moves.

This position is amazing for so many reasons. I love eye contact during sex, and being able to see each other's expressions as it pops inside is just amazing. Also, if - like me - your partner is a massive visual pervert, you can arrange a large mirror behind you, so he can actually see it going inside you. It's like having sex and watching home-made porn at the same time! Also, you can lean forward so the two of you can kiss, which is especially incredible when you come. I have a theory that all the best sex happens at the precise intersection between XXX-grade porno filthiness and tender, doe-eyed soppiness - anal positions that allow for lots of eye contact, kissing and caressing are a great example of this.

*I'm British, so this means 'bottom' and does not imply you should involve a homeless man in your sex life - though I'm sure you knew this...

[hawkua Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close hawkua]

In my neighbourhood there is a trendy street Chapel St and lot of girls practically lie in the gutter at 2 or 3AM drunk (sloshed) enough for someone to do her assess in the street I saw it happening so I am not surprised of this girl wanting to be done this way. Their mothers come later checking the usual spots to pick them up and take them home.

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In my neighbourhood there is a trendy street Chapel St and lot of girls practically lie in the gutter at 2 or 3AM drunk (sloshed) enough for someone to do her assess in the street I saw it happening so I am not surprised of this girl wanting to be done this way. Their mothers come later checking the usual spots to pick them up and take them home.

They are prostitutes, street walkers or curb crawlers, Chapel St has a reputation for this, just as Kings cross does in Sydney...Its a red light district. Trendy shops and cafes during the day.. seedy haunt by night.

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I disagree with you on this you would probably refer to Carlile and Fitzroy Streets St Kilda yes Chapel is a bit more upmarket though I must admit in wee hours of the mornings especially weekend is open slather unfortunately young girls pay the consequences I see many desperate mothers looking for their daughters.

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Snuffy, I think your girlfriend of 4 months may be curious about anal, but is not sure -hence the reason she wants to get drunk. Is she afraid that she will tear or be uncomfortable ? Why don't you ask her why she wants to get drunk-that might clear things up a bit. For me, sex is something in which I want to feel everything-and be aware of my partner's feelings expressions as well. Do you think she may be wanting to please YOU? If so, I would wait until she is ready and sure. You sound to be a thoughtful lover.

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I disagree with you on this you would probably refer to Carlile and Fitzroy Streets St Kilda yes Chapel is a bit more upmarket though I must admit in wee hours of the mornings especially weekend is open slather unfortunately young girls pay the consequences I see many desperate mothers looking for their daughters.

As someone outside of Australia, Just saying what i have heard both while i was there(on chapel street) and not there .Chapel street is a well known street . I was told the further south you go on Chapel the worse it gets for prostitution,.

There will always be drunk girls in areas that have nightlife, but it doesn't mean they are asking to be taken in the ass because they are laying out in the gutter... And the ones who are seeking it in those areas and are on the street generally want to be paid for it.

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I have had anal sex with a couple girls who told me anal was a favorite of theirs and each one told me my patience and technique was perfect. So now my new girlfriend of 4 months has mentioned wanting to try anal. Her quote was (get me drunk, be patient and use lots of lube). I was like... Ummm I am not sure I want to perform a sexual act that your need to be drunk to participate in. I just dont think that's the smart thing to do. Note I figure she has had anal sex before, by the way she talks, but I haven't asked her outright. So the next opportunity we were together itimately I lubes up a finger and did the normal rim play, and worked that into shallow entance. I did this for awhile just seeing if she enjoyed it. She seemed to... Than I went a little deeper and her moans got deeper, and after a short time she told me that she needed to stop. Note she was completely sober. So I kind of figured that anal wouldn't happen. But she still speaks about wanting to try it. I ended up buying a couple enema's as she mentioned she worried about being clean. But she still insists that I need to attempted the anal feat while she is drunk... And that concerns me... So I am still on the fence about how to proceed with her requests for wanting to try anal with me... Any advise? I'm all ears.

As others have said, if she has to be actually drunk it's probably not a good idea, but there's a world of difference between being totally smashed and having a few drinks. Ask her if she feels like trying it after a couple of glasses of wine.