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[someone_like_u Retired ModeratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close someone_like_u]

That is cool that you were able to get on the same page as your partner and enjoy this. My wife and I are discussing this lately andIt seems as if we are heading down the same path.
I think that before I was maybe a bit too pushy about it but not meaning to br. This thread is helpingalot and my wife has actually read some of it. I think that all the advice here is well thought out and needed for many who wish to make anal as enjoyable as it should be.

Good for you guys BigO. I think my biggest hangup years ago, was me being uptight, dead set against it, you know? I grew up in a house where relationships/sex wasn't talked about, no sex before marriage(oops), that kind of stuff, so I just had in my head that anal sex was a definite no no. I've definitely loosened up over the years and have learned to enjoy everything about sex and my partner.

There is a taboo about anal sex that keeps some from exploring it with your partner, but in my opinion, if both partners are willing, go for it, there's nothing wrong with it and it can be quite enjoyable

[Total_Honesty Banned Find all posts View Profile Close Total_Honesty]

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Whoa, why the hell? Why was mistydawn's posts censored? Isn't that a little harsh?


I mean, if she doesn't like anal sex, then we should all be able to understand. I've known woman who don't like anal sex and they don't get chastised. Misty posts on here and she gets degraded. No, I don't agree with her stance, but it is what it is and she deserves more respect than she gets.


Props to you, mistydawn. Do what you got to do.

[someone_like_u Retired ModeratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close someone_like_u]

Whoa, why the hell? Why was mistydawn's posts censored? Isn't that a little harsh?


I mean, if she doesn't like anal sex, then we should all be able to understand. I've known woman who don't like anal sex and they don't get chastised. Misty posts on here and she gets degraded. No, I don't agree with her stance, but it is what it is and she deserves more respect than she gets.


Props to you, mistydawn. Do what you got to do.

I don't know if Misty will respond to this thread again, but I think she censored her own posts because she feels she can't honestly state why she doesn't like anal and her experience with it, why some women don't like/let along enjoy it. She has very valid points and I appreciate her sharing them with us.

We're all here to learn and grow as people/lovers/humans. We all come from all over the world and I enjoy reading all of your different outlooks, and although I don't agree with Misty's viewpoint on anal, I respect it. Many women feel the way she does. Is it wrong, no, just a different take on the subject.

I think, we, as adults, should be able to post our opinions, open and honestly, without getting into pissing matches with other members.

Just remember, opinions are like ass holes, everyone has one! And some don't like their's to be penetrated, but I happen to enjoy it

[Batwoman Moderator ReservePEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Batwoman]

Yes, misty censored her own posts. I asked her to either remove some or let me move them to another thread since they had nothing to do with anal sex, and the debate they were causing was getting in the way of the central discussion. She chose to remove them. She is more than welcome to post about anal sex here (and she knows that)..... but I do want to keep this thread on topic. I think is fine for people to disagree -- we do that all the time here -- but it makes it really hard to read threads when they get involved in heated exchanges that are far beyond the topic at hand.

[someone_like_u Retired ModeratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close someone_like_u]

I mentioned earlier that I love having my prostate massaged and being anally fucked by a girl with a strapon (and I'm straight, go figure). I also like to use hands free prostate massagers and just focus on different sensations. Anyway, if I focus really intensely on the feelings in my sphincter, right where the toy is entering me I can get a mini-orgasm out of it. There are tons of nerve endings and I believe that part of the anatomy is identical for men and women so theoretically I think it should be possible for women as well. It is probably difficult to achieve during anal sex for women, I could only do it a couple times by myself when I'm able to intensely concentrate. The payoff isn't that great, the orgasm isn't huge or anything, but it's a weird and different feeling, so maybe it's worth it to try.

Ok, let's get this thread going again. Rando, since you have great experience with anal/as a guy, what do you suggest as a first anal toy/prostate massager for us to use on my guy?

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I hear Black and Decker has some good products! Ace hardware is having a sale this weekend and I HAVE COUPON!

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I hear Black and Decker has some good products! Ace hardware is having a sale this weekend and I HAVE COUPON!

The hardware section is that way. <_<

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I hear Black and Decker has some good products! Ace hardware is having a sale this weekend and I HAVE COUPON!

Great idea Cusp. I worked at Ace in high school so maybe my old boss could hook me up with a 8-12 inch piece of 1/2" pvc (or maybe cpvc to start out with) with two caps glued on both ends. Or was you thinking something maybe a little more hard core, like perhaps a drill bit or something?

I'll head there first thing in the am. Thanks again Cusp

[sweetie52 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close sweetie52]

I have a great relationship with my gyno. Spoke with him about having anal. Told him that my pfl and I had been discussing the "position". He frowned upon it explaining that the anus is a pushing out muscle and not a taking in muscle. What do you all think of that?

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I hear Black and Decker has some good products! Ace hardware is having a sale this weekend and I HAVE COUPON!

Cusp, I've noticed you have some avoidance techniques. Really, Ace hardware? Which products are you thinking, talking about?

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I have a great relationship with my gyno. Spoke with him about having anal. Told him that my pfl and I had been discussing the "position". He frowned upon it explaining that the anus is a pushing out muscle and not a taking in muscle. What do you all think of that?

Hey Sweetie....

I agree, it is a pushing out muscle, but it really does feel wonderful to take in There's so many different sensations to experience with anal. It was such an erotic full feeling that made my whole body get so hot and I had this tingling feeling(like when I have a squirting O) all over my body. I guess no one can imagine/understand that until they've tried it.

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Whoa, why the hell? Why was mistydawn's posts censored? Isn't that a little harsh?


I mean, if she doesn't like anal sex, then we should all be able to understand. I've known woman who don't like anal sex and they don't get chastised. Misty posts on here and she gets degraded. No, I don't agree with her stance, but it is what it is and she deserves more respect than she gets.


Props to you, mistydawn. Do what you got to do.

In this case it is basically like this: Say anything you want as long as we agree with you! Debate is said to be allowed as long as it is civil. More and more I am having my doubts. PEGym is a great place but s*** like this really makes me wonder..... Please don't take this as "contempt of moderator" but as a little constructive criticism.

[Steve23 Retired ModeratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Steve23]

It wasn't about agreeing or disagreeing with someone. The person could of stated their opinion about anal sex and left it at that. But that wasn't the case.

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I have a great relationship with my gyno. Spoke with him about having anal. Told him that my pfl and I had been discussing the "position". He frowned upon it explaining that the anus is a pushing out muscle and not a taking in muscle. What do you all think of that?

I have my doubts about your gyno, Sweetie. The anus is NOT a "pushing out" muscle. It is a ring of muscles that form a sphincter -- a "closing and opening" structure. When contracted, it closes. That is all it does. When it relaxes, it opens. It is ring of muscle, that's it. The "pushing out" that you feel is the result of longitudinal muscles that contract in waves (starting higher up inside your abdomen) to help move things down. When those muscles contract, they just shorten the tube, that's all. If they contracted from bottom to top, they would move stuff the other way!

Anyway, the anatomical design is certainly not adverse to taking things in.... like your lover's penis. Think about it -- it's probably just about the same size as what comes out, right? No anatomical reasons not to enjoy anal sex, if done properly.

(Sorry if that was too graphic but I just hate inaccurate descriptions of anatomy)

[Rando Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Rando]

Ok, let's get this thread going again. Rando, since you have great experience with anal/as a guy, what do you suggest as a first anal toy/prostate massager for us to use on my guy?

Good question, but I'm afraid I don't have a great answer b/c a lot of my progression happened on my own.

I'm in my mid-20s now, but basically at about 16 I started exploring that area a bit more. I noticed that running a figure across my anus felt very good, so naturally I tried to finger myself, then moving it in and out and so on. Eventually I tried stuff like old toothbrush or hairbrush handles. At this time I didn't even know about the prostate mind you, just that this felt good and led to more intense ejaculatory orgasms.

About 3 years ago I came across some material that suggested you could have prostate orgasms, which were way more intense and completely separate from traditional ejaculatory orgasms. So naturally I was intrigued. I bought 2 hands free prostate massagers (name omitted b/c I was called a shill for mentioning it last time) and began practicing with those. For the first couple sessions nothing great happened, but I could tell my prostate was starting to feel awakened and something good was probably just around the corner. Somewhere around my 12th session with the massager I had a pretty intense prostate orgasm which lasted for about 30 minutes. Ever since then and for the past year or so I usually have about an 80% success rate achieving prostate "super" orgasms, in a lot of these sessions I can basically get myself in a perpetual state of orgasm. I'm not sure how long they could possibly last b/c usually after about 30 minutes I elect to stop them myself b/c it is just so intense.

So basically that is my journey on my own. Along the way I would have the occasional female partner who might be adventurous enough to finger my anus and I would let her, but none seemed that interested in going much farther. About half a year ago, I had a partner who wanted to strapon fuck me, so I agreed. By that time I had already had so much experience on my own with anal play, that I didn't really need to be "broken in" much so to speak. We used a pretty small strapon girth wise, and I felt a little stretched and the feeling was a bit odd during the first session. I could see a lot of guys having second thoughts about strapons at that point, but it is definitely worth it. I only had 2 more strapon sessions with that girl, but the 2nd and 3rd felt great. I was never actually able to achieve any kind of prostate orgasm with her, but I was starting to get more and more used to the sensation of being "fucked" and I'm sure I could achieve great things if I ever find another partner who is willing to use a strapon on me.

Sorry if that was long winded and maybe a bit graphic, but that is the condensed version of my story. So to answer your initial question, maybe get you partner a hands-free massager that he can work with on his own a bit. The prostate is something you can't just turn on overnight, you have to get used to the sensations and learn how to relax and let them build. This will make his sessions where he allows you to play with him anally that much more intense. As far as toys you can use on him, I'm not too sure b/c every girl I've been with has either used a finger or a strapon, but I believe there are skinny wand type things (some that vibrate) which are about a finger around that would probably be a lot of fun to play with. Then you can see if he's enjoying the experience, and if he is, I'm sure he'll start suggesting more intense toys to use.

From a guy's perspective, it's about being open to the experience, a lot think it's "gay" or "feminine" (I am 100% straight btw) and that can be a big hurdle to overcome. Once they give it a shot, many will want to give up if the first try or two don't produce good results, but you have to give the anatomy time to adapt and also get used to the new sensations. At this point, I can't honestly see how any guy who's willing to give this a shot and progress slowly and with patience wouldn't absolutely love it.