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Let's be honest for a sec: 97% of the guys here searched for "how to get my dick bigger", "how to gain back my erections" or "how to last long". And 99% of those guys had, or have, some insecurities that developed with their problems. So let's make an exercise of honesty and recognize that we had, or have, insecurities about our sexual power, about our dick size. Now let's expand it, some of us might be fat, others bald, others perhaps are kind of ugly, or you might not have much financial power.
ENOUGH OF THE BAD STUFF. Do you want to know something that makes all those things insignificant? I bet you want to. Well, get ready, because it's awesome.
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YOU ARE A MAN.
You have exactly the same nature that Julius Cesar, Plato, Charles Magne, Leonardo DaVinci, Bruce Lee, The Arnold, you name your idol. You are a man, as they were/are. What does being a man mean? Think about it. These guys I mention had some gift that nature give them: maybe it was an awesome intellegence, maybe they were born in a family of power, maybe they had perfect muscle proportions or an strategic mind. Those things are not the thing I'm talking about, those things were their personal circunstances, but without that very thing we're searching it would have mean nothing. We all know gifted guys that never amount to nothing in life. So let's say it clear: THEY HAD AN EXTREMLY POWERFUL CONFIDENCE IN THEIR CAPACITIES.
Confidence. They never surrendered, they always kept on fighting for their personal dreams, for excelling at whatever thing nature gifted them with.
"But I don't have confidence 2hung4life! How can I develop it?"
You fake it till you make it. At whatever you are doing. You might suck at it, but if you are believe in yourself, you will never stop, even if you fail one thousand times. If you are keep on trying, in the end, you will win. And you will have win a little confidence. "Hey! Look at this! I did it!" And you will want to try new things to test yourself. And you will gain new confidence. Soon enough you will be a confident monster, people will call you arrogant, but they will love you more than ever. Just look at Donald Trump. Hear, I don't care if you like the guy, this is not a political post, but don't tell me that people don't love his OVERCONFIDENCE. And this is his secret to success. The guy doesn't give a fuck about what anybody thinks, he believes in himself and never stops. That is the attitude you want to have in life, OVERCONFIDENCE.
So what are you going to do about your penile problems? You are going to implement whatever routine is fit to your sexual health problem, and you are going to get that insecurity out of your mind. You will be confident with your penis, with your sexual stamina, with your sexual power. What are you going to do about that belly? You will start educating yourself about nutrition and exercise, and to apply that knowledge into your life. Are you balding? Grow a motherfukin beard! Are you kind of ugly? You will love this. Hear this: girls don't care as much as we guys do about looks, they dig CONFIDENCE. Yes! Confidence is key to gaining women into your life, they are wired to like confidence guys just the same you are wired to like beautiful women.
Start small, grow HUGE (pun intended). Remeber: CONFIDENCE IS KEY!
Now, I have another way of increasing confidence - as dmizzle said and this is totally the case for me:
Work on yourself!
Lets take a normal dummy-type of guy who we will work on for over 5 years (simulation):
- our dude first finds out his passion (might be anything)
-- if its something that needs academical work (such as becoming a computer scientist since he actually has potential and truly loves working with computers), then he goes and gets a degree that is necessary to practice it.
-- in any case, he makes his passion the center of his life
- our dude transforms his body to his ideal whatever it is (if muscular/fit, then working out, if fat, than eating up to it, .. whatever the case)
- our dude finds out what type of personality he is drawn to/admires/ likes to be and works towards it. this is a bit weird but I think this type of thing can be practised and learnt. Others might disagree.
At first, our guy will not have any special feelings towards him. After 5 years accomplishing all of that and more (stuff that didnt come to my mind), he reflects upon himself and realizes that he actually loves himself.
I think that is a major part of confidence.
If you can truly take a step back, more or less get out of your body and look at yourself from a distance and evaluate yourself and love what you see, confidence will be there.
The thing is, you should not have to think about confidence.. Its not something one should aspire to get.
It is something that is supposed to be the result of a.. hmm.. lets say a strong foundation you build for yourself.
What Im saying is, work on yourself, make yourself the strongest/most ideal version of yourself. This will inevitably lead in you loving yourself and that will automatically make you shine confidence.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SkTHEVhZXtQ
This dude pretty much sums it all up... He says some fundamental things that I mostly agree with.
Personally I had extremely low confidence and depression in highschool. That stemmed from having no girls interested in me, taking the most rigorous courses and being somewhat of a quiet/shy student as well as a very rough homelife with a manic depressive/alcoholic mother and no father. Even if girls were into me i'd never have wanted to bring them back to my home, which created a mindtrip in its own.
When I say low confidence I specifically mean with girls, socializing and speaking publicly. By a combination of being rejected when I tried and my life/situation at home I started to feel like I shouldnt even bother trying.
Anyways I'm still working on my confidence, I've started exercising, being more social, ect but I still have a ways to go.
All I can say is my situation did mess me up a bit emotionally, I wish I had a dad that had sat me down encouraged me to meet some girls and gave me some advice. Instead it was the opposite, my mom didn't want me meeting girls even if I somehow was able to.
And you are right about the porn pages, lol. I suppose we can't talk about these things on PEGym, but you SURE are right. It still won't give you the score, but gives a head head-start .