Cant finish when having sex...is it because of PE?

[Hitme Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Hitme]

Hey forum, i have been doing PE for about a month now with steady gains but for the past 2 weeks i cant seem to finish when having sex with my girlfriend. it feels great and all but i just cant finish anymore and this happened the last 4 times....could it be because of PE?...i finish fine when i watch porn though :S.. i don't think iv been over training because i have nice gains.

Id really appreciate any help, thanks

[Bjorn89 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Bjorn89]

You might be trying too hard to cum

[Brucey Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Brucey]

I agree with Bjorn. Are you focusing only solely on finishing? Or maybe you have it in your head that since you haven't finished the last few times, you are fearing you won't finish again?

The last girl I was with I had a few problems, from not getting up sometimes, to getting soft mid session, to worrying that I wouldnt finish. This is all before PE mind you, not much longer before though. Thinking back on it, not getting up was because of anxiety and wanting to be able to perform well for her and wanting to pleasure her. We all know people have been with others before us, but this girl would sometimes talk about other guys etc. I felt I had to par up to these other guys (can anyone slap me and scream the quote I've read on here numerous times now "you are not the other guy" thanks lol. Knowing some of them were bigger than me didn't help my anxiety. Mind you, this girl wasn't so normal in the head. Anyways, fixed that problem by just relaxing, going with the flow and knowing that with her and others girls in the past I did get them to go without me worrying, in essence being worry free actually will get you to get them where you want. I've read it in a thread on here already talking about ED, just the anxiety about not getting it up, performing etc is enough to cause ED itself without anything else.

As for not finishing or going soft mid session, fixed that one by going with what felt good to me and focusing on what I liked. I was so into doing what she wanted or what I thought made her feel really good (and would get her to cum) that when I felt and wanted to go slow I would go fast, or vice versa. Sometimes I would just go really fast becuase I know it would bring me closer to climax so I could finish, even if I wasn't as big as I could have been. I'm to nice sometimes lol. But that was a poisonus relationship, it's amazing how other people can affect you mentally if you stay to long, staying just for sex if not a good thing.

But seriously though, take your time for yourself, and do what feels good for you. Do what YOU wanna do. Take for yourself, take care of yourself first, in doing so ironically you will give them just what they want to. Anways, explore your thoughts, you might be mentally blocking yourself. You'll work it out.

have a goodie.

[Hitme Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Hitme]

Thanks a lot Brucey i will definitely take that into consideration..for the most part i think im doing what i want..but i guess i will try to relax more and try not to worry about giving her pleasure as much...im glad to know its not from PE :P

[Neppert Member Find all posts View Profile Close Neppert]

Brucey is right. Focus on yourself. Don't worry or think about other things, just relax and enjoy! Just do you. Like when you're masturbating or something.
I've had the same problem and it may take some time to figure it out. But you'll get there! Hell, I got there so anyone can get there, lol.

(can anyone slap me and scream the quote I've read on here numerous times now "you are not the other guy" thanks lol.

*Slaps Brucey* You are not the other guy!

[Brucey Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Brucey]

Np buddy let me know how it goes. and thanks Neppert lol

[blink2000 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close blink2000]

"i finish fine when i watch porn though :S"

You might need a porn detox.

[Pegasus AdministratorPE Gym EditorPEGym Hero ☺ Admin of the Month Mar 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close Pegasus]

This is called delayed ejaculation and is more common than most realise, how is it going?