Too hard?

[selfgrowth Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close selfgrowth]

Has anybody had any complaints from a female partner about being too hard after improving eq? My girlfriend seemed uncomfortable lastnight when we were having sex. When I asked her if she was alright, she said it felt too hard. This isn't a size thing, as I haven't seen an increase in that department yet. Not to mention she has had bigger. As a result of my pe and decrease in porn and masterbation I hVe gone from a 5-6 to and 8-9 in eq though.

I also wonder if the angle of my dangle has in impact. Mine is parallel to the floor when erect and has no curve. Do I just have a skewer that isn't shaped to hit the right spots and avoid the wrong ones?

[Waylander Retired ModeratorPEGym EditorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Waylander]

I've never heard of too hard, normally the opposite is the negative.

[selfgrowth Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close selfgrowth]

I have experienced the opposite problem briefly with a past girlfriend and that was tough. The too hard comment did baffle me though. I'm certainly not planning on trying to soften it up, but would like to hear if anybody else has come across this and how it may have worked out.

[mustbcrazy Member Find all posts View Profile Close mustbcrazy]

I dont think it can be too hard. It is most likely the way you are doing it. Try a lot of different things and positions. Get verbal, ask her what she wants and any recommendations that she has. I'm older now but was extremely sexually active in my younger days, especially in the Army (girls love a man in uniform). Anyhow, I found that girls like different things and I was constantly experimenting with positions, speeds, dirty talk, angles, and moves. Remember this though, because it is most important. Girls have to be turned on emotionally, it makes the whole experience for them. If you can find out what gets them hot, before or during sex, you will be their king.

[Medium_size_Al Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Medium_size_Al]

Remember this though, because it is most important. Girls have to be turned on emotionally, it makes the whole experience for them. If you can find out what gets them hot, before or during sex, you will be their king.

wise words... anyone can fuck - women want passion... not just pounding

...hahaha that will be my moto from now on 'passion not pounding'

[selfgrowth Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close selfgrowth]

Mustbecrazy, I think you are on to something there. I do think there is a good posibility I made her uncomfortable by putting her hands over her head. We have been in the gentle mode because of some past experiences she has had. She has been getting more comfortable being more "free" with me, but perhaps this is the issue. I mean, I noticed she wasn't participating much and asked if she felt alright. She admitted feeling tense and cited erection hardness as the possible cause. Reading your response made me reevaluate.

I took her explanation at face value, partly because she has felt pain on top like the wrong spot is being hit. She also says it doesn't feel good when I try to use the "screw" technique on her. In other words, there is some precedent for jabbing the wrong spot.

If I honestly assess, I would say the emotional side of the relationship has been well attended to along side the physical. I may need to double back with her to see if maybe she did have an emotional trigger lastnight. On another side note, she had already orgasmed from foreplay before the sex, so that helps rule out likelyhood of physical discomfort (good lord I hope I am right about that much).

Thanks for raining down some advice from the "older and experienced" cloud!

cheers.