Hi, hello.

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Hey guys, been a lurker for about a year. Thought I'd finally start posting since I'm actually getting somewhere in my gains. Big shout out to JonPop and Kingpole, thank you so much for the tomes of advice you guys have on here. I'm a slow-gainer (is that a term?), and I'm hoping to give some much needed motivation and advice (and learn for myself to of course) to others like myself.

More on myself and progress in the the appropriate thread(s).


Peace.

Joe

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Well damn, I could have sworn I did this in the Introduction section, damn ADD. I might as well talk about my beginner experiences now.

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Well I have been PE'ing on and off for about a year with no gains and completely stopped, thinking it was all bullshit. Until a bout 3 months ago (seriously), I decided to change up how I approached PE rather than look for a different method. I am currently using JonPop's 90 day routine again but this time I'm doing it right...but first let me talk about how I did it WRONG. I feel very obligated to share this with people like myself who have struggled with staying motivated in continuing PE.

Part I
When I first started (2010-2011):
-I had deep insecurities about my body (tall and skinny) and lack of sexual prowess (I was very timid) and of course was very insecure about the size of my penis
-I had an unhealthy mentality about sex. I was not very experienced with women (was only in one relationship at this point) and most of my ideas, expectations and fantasies came from porn.
-Focused way too much on the routine, while disregarding everything else (will elaborate on...)
-Addicted to porn. Sure there's nothing wrong in porn, but I was so upset and obsessed with the lack of a sex life that I tried to fill that with porn. It got so bad, I'd skip classes, stay home all day and even avoid interactions with real women (I was always paranoid of being awkward or being perceived as weird)
-I would avoid sex at all costs just because I was scared that my penis didn't look like a porn cock, and that I wasn't sexy or man enough (EVEN IF girls were hitting on me)
From all that, I learned an important lesson: You have to know what the bottom feels like to grow

I was pathetic, alone and a god damn pussy. I let the size of my dick define my masculinity and I let it fester and grow into something dark and unhealthy to the point I missed out on relationships and personal development. I did the JonPop routine very sluggishly and still hoped to put on gains while my exercise level was minimal and my diet was garbage (fast food, junk food, sodas and microwaveable food).


Part II
NOW and how it's different

-I have matured, I got on with my life and took great steps in catching up in areas I disregarded previously. I started making serious progress towards my degree, got more in tune with myself and started focusing more on attaining knowledge (at university and self study), got back into recording music (taught myself music theory), and improved my physique and health (started strength training and then moved onto powerlifting)
-Went cold turkey on porn and started meeting women. I'm not sure why, but once I stopped watching porn, some of my confidence came back: I didn't feel shallow, I didn't prioritize sex and I stopped objectifying women and stopped viewing sex as some kind of circus. Before, the only connection I had with women was just behind a screen but after I decided to grow up, my social skills improved and I don't feel socially awkward around women anymore.
-In short: I got a handle on myself first, improved MYSELF first before I started thinking about improving my dick. I am a happier person now, in a great relationship, almost done with school with plenty of opportunities ahead of my and I feel like I'm at my best both physically and mentally (with plenty of room to improve!). I think that's what I'm trying to tell young adults like myself, get a grip on your own life before you start throwing everything you got at PE'ing.


So after a period of growing I decided to give PE'ing another try.

My routine is still the JonPop 90 day routine (this time I keep my health in check, I eat healthy and working out is now my favorite hobby next to writing music and reading)
I purchased a ROP, I'm sure some of the vets here are groaning about it and how it's old news but I still am pretty thankful to SUPRA and of his posts I stumbled across. I wear the ROP all day (except during sex, showering, swimming, and other situations in which common sense tells me not to wear it) and because of the slight improvement in flaccid size it has given me, I thought it'd be great to wrap a tensor bandage around my penis after my PE sessions to avoid turtling and to maintain a decent flaccid steretch

I started with 5.5 (BPEL) x4.5 (EG)

And that was almost 3 months ago, my erections were alright but I'd sometimes lose my erection during sex.

Now, I'm at 6.5 (BPEL) x 5 (EG) and I'm just a little more than 2 months into the program and I gained an inch in length and half an inch in girth. My erections have improved tremendously and the quality of the sex has gone up like I wouldn't believe! This was more than enough for me to keep going. My girlfriend doesn't really (I say really because she's found my ROP in my clothing, and I told her I mainly got it for the testosterone increasing benefits, which is mostly true) know about my PE'ing since we don't live together yet and I'm not doing this to feel manlier; the sex keeps getting better and better so why stop right?

I want to put on at least another inch in length and an inch in girth.

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Welcome to the Gym ESP.
Thanks for such a great post. Very motivating! So glad you shared that because there are so many guys that need to hear exactly what you just said. I look forward to more of your input. Thanks again.

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Welcome to the Gym ESP.
Thanks for such a great post. Very motivating! So glad you shared that because there are so many guys that need to hear exactly what you just said. I look forward to more of your input. Thanks again.

for sure, thank you for the welcome. For the longest time I felt like I didn't have much to say or contribute on these forums till now.

Good luck on your gains.