Thoughts while edging

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Hey everyone! This is my first post on PE Gym. Good to be here.

I've been considering starting a PE regimen for a while now, but I don't have a lot of free time these days (busy doing a Master's degree) so I want to start with something simple that will give me the biggest improvement in sexual performance for time invested. I'm decently happy with my un-enhanced size (6.5 x 5.4 inches measured from the fat pad), so improving endurance is a bigger priority for me. And if I could someday learn to dry-orgasm, that would be awesome. So I've decided to start with a simple edging+kegels routine.

In the last week I've begun edging in 20 minute sessions every other day. I had read that the best thing to do is to focus mentally on my penis and the sensations coming from it while doing this. The problem is, if I really focus this way, I find it very difficult to reach the PONR or get close to it - it might happen just 1-3 times over the 20-minute session. On the other hand, if I partly think sexy thoughts while I edge (picturing sexual fantasies etc.) I can reach/get close to the PONR very quickly and thus do it ~10-15 times during the session. But then I'm not fully focused on the sensations.

Can anyone tell me if it's better to partially fantasize while edging to get close to the PONR more often, or if it's better to focus entirely on the sensations, even if it means not reaching the "edge" as often?

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Hey everyone! This is my first post on PE Gym. Good to be here.

I've been considering starting a PE regimen for a while now, but I don't have a lot of free time these days (busy doing a Master's degree) so I want to start with something simple that will give me the biggest improvement in sexual performance for time invested. I'm decently happy with my un-enhanced size (6.5 x 5.4 inches measured from the fat pad), so improving endurance is a bigger priority for me. And if I could someday learn to dry-orgasm, that would be awesome. So I've decided to start with a simple edging+kegels routine.

In the last week I've begun edging in 20 minute sessions every other day. I had read that the best thing to do is to focus mentally on my penis and the sensations coming from it while doing this. The problem is, if I really focus this way, I find it very difficult to reach the PONR or get close to it - it might happen just 1-3 times over the 20-minute session. On the other hand, if I partly think sexy thoughts while I edge (picturing sexual fantasies etc.) I can reach/get close to the PONR very quickly and thus do it ~10-15 times during the session. But then I'm not fully focused on the sensations.

Can anyone tell me if it's better to partially fantasize while edging to get close to the PONR more often, or if it's better to focus entirely on the sensations, even if it means not reaching the "edge" as often?

It's great that you're taking up the challenge of the Stop and Start exercise, but it's important that you approach this exercise with an objective mindset. My advice- don't worry about the difficulties in transitioning without fantasizing or porn use. As long as you refrain from porn use and frivolous masturbation- and leave your ejaculations for training and live sexual activity only, you should make a rapid adjustment.

[kickinthemebs Senior Member Member of the Month Feb 2014 Find all posts View Profile Close kickinthemebs]

Vary between both imo. When you get good at edging you will need to rely less on fantasisation.

[dmizzle Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close dmizzle]

Start with fantasies if that works. I use porn to edge unless my penis is sensitive enough to use my thoughts. Whatever works is how you work it.

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It's great that you're taking up the challenge of the Stop and Start exercise, but it's important that you approach this exercise with an objective mindset. My advice- don't worry about the difficulties in transitioning without fantasizing or porn use. As long as you refrain from porn use and frivolous masturbation- and leave your ejaculations for training and live sexual activity only, you should make a rapid adjustment.

Thanks for the advice. I gave up porn a few years ago, but haven't consistently given up masturbation except for a few month-long challenges and one three-month period earlier this year. I haven't masturbated since I began my edging routine about a week ago though, and I plan to do as you say by leaving ejaculations for actual sex. Today's edging session I focused entirely on the sensations and didn't allow myself to fantasize (thoughts and images would pop up, but I'd dismiss them rather than focusing on them), and already I noticed I was much more responsive without fantasizing. Another thing that seemed to help was that I did it lying down, whereas previous sessions I was sitting or standing. This allowed me to more fully relax and release tension from my muscles while edging, which seemed to make the sensations considerably more intense.

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Thanks for the advice. I gave up porn a few years ago, but haven't consistently given up masturbation except for a few month-long challenges and one three-month period earlier this year. I haven't masturbated since I began my edging routine about a week ago though, and I plan to do as you say by leaving ejaculations for actual sex. Today's edging session I focused entirely on the sensations and didn't allow myself to fantasize (thoughts and images would pop up, but I'd dismiss them rather than focusing on them), and already I noticed I was much more responsive without fantasizing. Another thing that seemed to help was that I did it lying down, whereas previous sessions I was sitting or standing. This allowed me to more fully relax and release tension from my muscles while edging, which seemed to make the sensations considerably more intense.

Give the process some time Look at it as a positive challenge and make sure you mote your progress in detail in your journal.

You can channel your desire to masturbate into your training so that you get the most out of it AND you temper your libido.

Lying down would be the most performed option for this movement. Perform the movement as you would expect a sexual encounter to go.