Need help to know what ED/ normal working penis is

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hey there,

so I am a bit confused to separate ED with a normal working penis. Because I am reading stuff like loosing an erection during forplay. Well, when I go down on my girl I do not keep the whole time a full boner, It seems it is going to a semi and when I am finished I need some stimulation to get it back ready for penetration.

At the start I can get a proper boner which lasts maybe 10 or more minutes without the need to stimulation etc..

So how it comes? I also feel like when I change positions I can not keep it hard long without stimulation, maybe 30 seconds (I usually hold my penis with my hand to adjust it for entering again), I don't know, I never had problems during it but it feel like when it would take longer it would be semi erect or sth. Whereas before just arousal alone was enough to keep it for a long time without stimulation. Like once I was searching for a condom and when i wanted to put it on I was semi erect and needed some strokes.

Reading the forum it is hard for me to see what ED is and what normal is. I asked my gf and she said it is totally normal to go soft(er) during cunnilingus for example, when afterwards you can get it back up.

During sex I feel fine and it feels like a solid erection, maybe when she is on top my boner is tiny bit flexible, I don't now hard to tell

I just want to enjoy a longer forplay with the confidence that it is not bad or ED when my penis will soften during it when not receiving some attention.


I can last long enough so I guess my pelvic floor is balanced and I am not doing kegels, just some squats at home, gym and crossfit

Appreciate your opinion

[turtler Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close turtler]

I never had problems during

I asked my gf and she said it is totally normal

During sex I feel fine and it feels like a solid erection

You're absolutely fine. My suggestion would be to stop worrying about problems you don't have and focus on enjoying the sex you have with your girlfriend.

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You're absolutely fine. My suggestion would be to stop worrying about problems you don't have and focus on enjoying the sex you have with your girlfriend.

thanks for that quick answer yea it seems to me that I am fine but somehow when I came across this posts I start to think what is his problem for example :

What might be reason that i get strong errected when woman touches me and stimulates, during foreplay i am always hard but OFTEN when i need penetrate or change position i loose erection and hardness. Until i get stimulated i am hard erected, during 69 or handjob its not problem.

you see then I start thinking but me too ,when I change positions too long my boner will soften at some point and during cunnilingus I soften too, which confuses me of course , I can get it up with some stimulation afterwards but still I wish I could have a boner forever ( I know that is not realistic hahah)


Also when reading about venous leak and stuff, but I can exclude that cause I am getting morning wood almost every day, and 50-75% boners during the day and can have a what it feels a full boner without stimulation for 10 minutes with my gf ..

1. Is it normal if your penis begins to loose it's erection if you stop the manual stimulation completely? Let's say it starts going down in like minute of no manual stimulation?

alone when i just masturbate after 20-30 seconds I am semi erect

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Same as this post here:
https://www.pegym.com/forums/beginne...tercourse.html

As I understood he was told he has mental ED ? But why if he can have sex, I mean as I wrote before after cunnilingus I also need some stimulation for penetration and I can not change positions forever

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yea it seems to me that I am fine but somehow when I came across this posts I start to think

That's just the thing. Once you start reading about symptoms, you'll pretty much always find a few that you have. If, for example, you feel a bit lethargic at times, then you fit one part of the description of hundreds of diseases and illnesses and syndroms.

Now, of course, you don't have all these conditions. Likely you don't even have a single one. It's only when you're actually feeling unwell AND you match *several* symptoms that you should consider checking things with a doctor.

Erections will tend to go up and down during cunnilingus, because at some times licking her will be very arousing and at other times it will be more relaxing. It's not a bad thing for your dick to get a break, either, as being rock hard all the time would be taxing for it.

Also when reading about venous leak and stuff, but I can exclude that cause I am getting morning wood almost every day, and 50-75% boners during the day and can have a what it feels a full boner without stimulation for 10 minutes with my gf ..


alone when i just masturbate after 20-30 seconds I am semi erect

If you can have 10 minutes of full erection without stimulation with your GF, then you're a stud! This is basically the only symptom you should care about, because it shows that you have a very healthy dick.

The reason why it isn't the same with solo masturbation is that solo masturbation simpy isn't as arousing as being with a real partner in the flesh. (Not that it can't be, but if you want strong erections during solo play it might require more effort.) There's literally thousands of posts on this forum from people about this, but it's just the way nature works. Either you give your penis something to actually be excited about, or the erection will fade once you stop touching it. Now, back when I was a kid the erections came about easier and stayed longer, but it simply doesn't work that way now that childhood is over and there's nothing problematic about that.

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If you can have 10 minutes of full erection without stimulation with your GF, then you're a stud! This is basically the only symptom you should care about, because it shows that you have very healthy dick.

guess so, those boners are very easy to achieve with kissing, touching her or sometimes even looking at her they even can be that solid that I can go one floor down change my pants because they were too tight and come back with the same boner.

I am not sure if it is 10 minutes maybe more or even less, I am not timing them but they feel very great.

I would be very grateful if you could answer my last three question so I can easy my mind and focus on my studies

-so you said it is not a bad thing when my dick will do a break during cunnilingus. So I can do even a longer forplay with focussing only on her massage etc with the confidence that it is normal? Even my boner will be ready again after just with hand/ mouth stimulation, but not automatically like at the start?

- I know you wrote about not comparing symptoms but I am still curious what this guys "issue" is /was.
https://www.pegym.com/forums/beginne...tercourse.html
EDIT: maby understood his bone fluctuates duiring a bj ? T

This erection rollercoaster is quite annoying, considering she wants to play with my penis and it can be unsatisfying for both of us during fellatio.

but I am usually hard during bj maybe some % fluctuations sometimes

- Why it is harder to keep a boner for some time when changing positions? With arousal alone it can stay way longer as said before, is it bad when I hod it with my hand when I do the change?

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-so you said it is not a bad thing when my dick will do a break during cunnilingus. So I can do even a longer forplay with focussing only on her massage etc with the confidence that it is normal? Even my boner will be ready again after just with hand/ mouth stimulation, but not automatically like at the start?

Yup. Normal. Erection level typically varies during sex.

- I know you wrote about not comparing symptoms but I am still curious what this guys "issue" is /was.
https://www.pegym.com/forums/beginne...tercourse.html

Sounds to me like he needs to adjust to real life sex. These days guys often come to their first sexual encounters armed with a lot of expectations gotten from watching porn, and it takes time to learn how the real thing works. Doing it sober can also be very different from doing it drunk. Just my opinion, though.

- Why it is harder to keep a boner for some time when changing positions? With arousal alone it can stay way longer as said before, is it bad when I hod it with my hand when I do the change?

Don't know if there is a "text book" answer to this, but I always figured it's because changing position tends to take you out of the moment a little bit. If your body was in a static position, maybe you feel like you have to stretch out. If you were very active, maybe you feel the need to catch your breath. Stuff like that. Again, it's normal for erections to fluctuate somewhat, so I wouldn't pay it no mind.

Hope this helps.

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Hope this helps.

thank you, I maybe should stay away from reading too many posts and just enjoy sex, because as you said then I start to compare / missinterprate etc...

like in the post I sent you I could not figure out what exactly the problem was when he could have sex, maybe it was the changing postions thing and that he was not hard during oral ,,, who knows .

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thank you, I maybe should stay away from reading too many posts and just enjoy sex, because as you said then I start to compare / missinterprate etc...

Excellent idea Not much point in reading those posts if they upset you. That time will be much better spent having fun with your gf

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I also lose erection when eating pussy. If I'm just warming her up I can keep it. But when I go 100% to make her cum I lose my erection. I also lose in some positions like girl on top. But otherwise as long as Im in control, no problems with EQ.

You sound normal. Its funny. When I was younger I was always hard as a rock but I would cum in 10 seconds. Now I can last all night but usually dont habe 100% EQ. During sex it goes from 70-100%. I think that is normal.

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Excellent idea Not much point in reading those posts if they upset you. That time will be much better spent having fun with your gf

indeed, but still it is now in my head somehow hahaha I could not understand if he is now complaining like me about that a boner can fluctuate during forlpaly ( which is normal) or does he has a deeper issue

You sound normal. Its funny. When I was younger I was always hard as a rock but I would cum in 10 seconds. Now I can last all night but usually dont habe 100% EQ. During sex it goes from 70-100%. I think that is normal.

I am something in between have a solid erection with very small fluctuations during intercourse can last a long time and fluctuations in forplay