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  • 30 and healthy: wits end -- advice sought and appreciated

    Hi everyone -- first time poster. I've been lurking and researching the past few weeks here. Really glad a forum like this exists.

    I am a 30 yr old who has had ED on and off for as long as I can remember. At age 24 it got exponentially worse.

    I've tried an assortment of different things the past few years, all with little or no success. I can always get an erection, but my penis just powers down systems less than two minutes after starting vaginal intercourse. Every time. I am not being hyperbolic. Regardless of time of day or how attractive my partner is or if I am sober/drunk or how much foreplay we do or anything else. It has cost me relationships. It has cost me a degree of happiness, sad to say.

    Last year I was 6'8 250. I lost weight down to 215 in just under six months after reading about weight loss and ED. Tried above, at, and below ideal BMI levels. No success. I don't think being tall is tied with ED, right?

    Physical always comes back OK. Vitamin levels and everything else within normal parameters.

    I've tried well-reviewed testosterone supplements for over six months. No success.

    I've tried every pump in the book. No success.

    I've tried kegels. No success.

    I've tried cold-turkeying pornography and masturbation. The only difference being that I climax way faster than before, if I last more than a minute or two then I go soft. No success.

    I've tried stimulating the rectum to get erection to last. No success.

    I've tried going on anxiety medication. No success, worse even.

    However, in the mornings when I wake up I have a stronger erection than I've ever, ever had with a partner. For more than ten minutes!

    I can maintain an erection during oral sex consistently, but never during vaginal. Duration of oral sex has no correlation with duration of erection during vaginal sex.

    I've tried my father's cialis and it works like a miracle. Only tried it a few times the past few years. I really, really don't want to go down that route. At 30? Making matters worse, my health insurance is terrible and I would only be able to afford 2 a month at most. Worst case, I wouldn't know where to go about starting to find quality pills online.

    Open to any suggestions.

    Cheers,

    L
    Luther
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    Last edited by Luther; 12-16-2016, 05:01 PM.

  • #2
    Sounds anxiety related in that you get morn wood fine etc .

    What do the docs say ?

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    • #3
      If you are loosing an erection during intercourse the I have to ask how much you are worrying about maintaining an erection during intercourse? The distraction from enjoying sex to worry can be a big erection killer.
      To totally satisfy a woman sexually is not about having a large penis, it's about being a good lover.

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      • #4
        From the details it's safe to assume there's likely no organic component to your problem. The lack of being able to maintain an erection during vaginal intercourse suggests a potential emotional block.

        You mentioned being sexually active. Are you currently in a relationship with a trusted partner? Having someone assist you with these specific types of issues can be invaluable.
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        • #5
          Thank you to everyone for the replies.

          Originally posted by Big Al View Post
          From the details it's safe to assume there's likely no organic component to your problem. The lack of being able to maintain an erection during vaginal intercourse suggests a potential emotional block.

          You mentioned being sexually active. Are you currently in a relationship with a trusted partner? Having someone assist you with these specific types of issues can be invaluable.
          I had a long-term girlfriend who for a very long time was very open and amazing about this. We tried every thing in the book. Gave it so many tries with foreplay and everything else. Same damn thing. Oral sex? No issue. Vaginal? 0 MPH in less than two minutes. After many months it got too frustrating and frankly I did not blame her.

          Docs have said that it might be anxiety related, but I don't really have any other anxiety symptoms in other aspects of my life e.g., job, family etc. And they suggest ED or they suggest organic things like getting more sleep etc (this hasn't been an issue). I cannot afford ED pills under my current insurance, which doesn't cover.

          Wits. End.

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          • #6
            Oh by the way you are at high risk of dependency of you go the drug route.

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            • #7
              I understand that, Pegasus. That's why I am so desperate to avoid it!

              Another note:

              If I am on the bottom during sex, the erection will die almost immediately. It lasts 30 secondsish longer if I am on top or behind.

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              • #8
                I found this site also while searching for solutions to my ED problems. The reason I asked if you were worried and focused on maintaining an erection during intercourse is because that was also a huge part of my ED. The psychological part can go far beyond what you may think it is right now. I just want you to take a look within and asses all the potential problems, it may not just be one.
                To totally satisfy a woman sexually is not about having a large penis, it's about being a good lover.

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                • #9
                  Morning wood happens when you sleep, especially your brain. You wake up to it. Screwing takes place while your brain is wide awake. So where do you think the problem lies?
                  The world's still a toy if you just stay a boy!

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                  • #10
                    This is clearly not organic if oral makes you stay hard. Do you masturbate with a death grip?

                    Try a penis ring to see how that goes?

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                    • #11
                      Ha! Death grip masturbator. If only it were that simple.

                      Looks like the problem is definitely psychological. Maybe try yoga?

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                      • #12
                        Originally posted by Luther View Post
                        Ha! Death grip masturbator. If only it were that simple.

                        Looks like the problem is definitely psychological. Maybe try yoga?
                        Meditation might be your answer!

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                        • #13
                          Have you had a heart stress test? You may have circulatory issues that pull blood from the erection when strenuously having intercourse. This would explain why things work better during unstrenuous activities.
                          ALL THE WAY WITH GOOD OLE JAY!

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                          • #14
                            Originally posted by Luther View Post
                            Thank you to everyone for the replies.



                            I had a long-term girlfriend who for a very long time was very open and amazing about this. We tried every thing in the book. Gave it so many tries with foreplay and everything else. Same damn thing. Oral sex? No issue. Vaginal? 0 MPH in less than two minutes. After many months it got too frustrating and frankly I did not blame her.

                            Docs have said that it might be anxiety related, but I don't really have any other anxiety symptoms in other aspects of my life e.g., job, family etc. And they suggest ED or they suggest organic things like getting more sleep etc (this hasn't been an issue). I cannot afford ED pills under my current insurance, which doesn't cover.

                            Wits. End.
                            From what you describe the impact seems to hit you most with vaginal intercourse. Other sexual activity is typically seen as "foreplay" in comparison to penile/vaginal sex.

                            Even if there's no immediately apparent emotional issue, there might be a deeper seated psychological cause.

                            You can attempt to condition yourself through training and reductive exposure, but if the issue stands you'll need to delve deeper into your psyche to resolve it.

                            In the meanwhile you can attempt to reserve all of our ejaculations for penile/vaginal sex to see what happens. Build your libido enough through abstinence to make the transition easier.
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                            • #15
                              yeah, the fact you have morning erections makes it obvious to us that your problem isn't organic or physical.

                              if you had low testosterone, the chances of having strong morning erections would not be likely.

                              i have low test & when my test is low, I do not have morning erections.

                              anxiety will cause your problem. are you attracted to your partner?
                              Life struggle with extreme erectile dysfunction since I was 15. Diagnosed with venous leak. When I turned 30-years old, I found out I had hypogonadism (low testosterone) and sub-clinical hypothyroidism. TRT can be a cure for venous leak if you are hypogonadal.

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