ED or not?

[Broncosforlife1997 Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Broncosforlife1997]

Hi everyone, first of all I would like to thank you for taking the time to read my post, and I hope everyone has a merry Christmas!

My problem: I really need some advice on whether I have ED or not. I can't get a erection unless I'm stimulated by a hand/ oral. I think part of that problem might be physiological, because sometimes when I'm making out with my girl friend I get one however it subsides pretty quickly. I think it's a little weird I don't get a erection when my girlfriends naked in front of me, because I am attracted to her. The second issue, and the main problem I have, is that I cannot maintain a erection. When I get one after some foreplay with my gf it subsides pretty fast, like by the time I put the condom on and try to have intercourse it's not hard enough for penetration. I've managed to have sex a couple times before but I know my erections not at 100%. I've noticed when I masterbate my erections subside fast too, which causes me to think this part of the issue isn't psychological. I got my blood tested, and everything's okay. When I went to the doctor he prescribed me to viagra and I've tried it a few times, when I use it I can get a erection immediately by just making out with my girlfriend and we have great sex. So basically I need some advice on whether I have ED, and if I should just start using viagra everytime. I'd personally not want to have to result to viagra. Thank you for the help!

[closed224 Senior Member Member of the Month Dec 2014, Feb 2017 Find all posts View Profile Close closed224]

Welcome, thanks for joining us.
How old are you?
Do you watch porn?
How often do you masturbate?

[Broncosforlife1997 Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Broncosforlife1997]

I'm 19, I used to watch porn but now I read erotic fiction. I used to masterbate once a day, however I'm trying to stop completely to see if that will help with my issue.

[closed224 Senior Member Member of the Month Dec 2014, Feb 2017 Find all posts View Profile Close closed224]

That is a good start. Avoid even erotic literature and masturbation for a month or two. Try resetting everything. Don't worry and relax when with your partner.

[Broncosforlife1997 Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Broncosforlife1997]

so do you think it's all psychological? The only thing that makes me think it's a physical issue is that when I get a erection masterbating it subsides too.. I'm just trying to figure everything out

[closed224 Senior Member Member of the Month Dec 2014, Feb 2017 Find all posts View Profile Close closed224]

Porn induced Ed will cause your penis not to work ever. The brain decided it's feel good chemicals without wasting the energy to run the penis. For the brain it is much more efficient. By stopping all those rewards to the brain your system will reset and natural stimulation will work again. It seems impossible when thinking about it. It does work however. Many of us have reset and reaped good rewards.

[Cavalier Retired Super Moderator Member of the Month Feb 2015PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Cavalier]

I can see from your posts that you are having some anxiety over this. That can be a major issue contributing to your problem. Once you start worrying and focusing on the problem you start to loose focus on what has aroused you in the first place, the amazing enjoyment of sex with your partner. I have experienced this myself. It won't be easy, but you will need to retrain your mind from the anxiety to just enjoying sex and most importantly, your partner.

[HansTwilight Retired ModeratorPE Gym Editor Member of the Month Jan 2017PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close HansTwilight]

I've got a similar problem. I struggle to maintain erections and they subside quickly, i also have weak erections. I've struggled with porn addiction but have been clean for a little over a month and a half. I was continuing to masturbate however. I sincerely suggest abstaining from porn, masturbation and most importantly, Viagra. if you form a dependency to that stuff it could be almost impossible to kick. Hopefully after 2 weeks of absorbance things should improve for the both of us. I did for me 6 months ago.
To answer your initial question, technically, this is considered ED, FYI.

[Broncosforlife1997 Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Broncosforlife1997]

Thanks for all the replies guys, I really appreciate it! So is it okay to continue to have sex with my partner while I stop masterbation? It'll be hard but I know I can do it if I think it'll fix these problems. Luckily my partner is very understanding so I'll just discuss this with her and I think that'll help take off some of the anxiety.

[closed224 Senior Member Member of the Month Dec 2014, Feb 2017 Find all posts View Profile Close closed224]

Absolutely, you want to get back to normal reactions during sex. Let her help retrain yourself. That is awesome.

[HansTwilight Retired ModeratorPE Gym Editor Member of the Month Jan 2017PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close HansTwilight]

Thanks for all the replies guys, I really appreciate it! So is it okay to continue to have sex with my partner while I stop masterbation? It'll be hard but I know I can do it if I think it'll fix these problems. Luckily my partner is very understanding so I'll just discuss this with her and I think that'll help take off some of the anxiety.

I'm glad to hear that she is understanding, I wish I could find one that would be. Sex is fine, IMO a vagina is the only thing that should stimulate a penis. Have her get you erect, like use her mouth or something, just don't stroke to get hard. Good luck.

[BigGuy91b Member Find all posts View Profile Close BigGuy91b]

So you have to reset your mind and body from watching porn and masterbating? I have a similar problem. I can only get a erection when I stimulate it myself. after that if u get in it quick enough I'm good. But my problem is that I have to get myself hard. I watch porn a couple times a week same with masturbating.

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so do you think it's all psychological? The only thing that makes me think it's a physical issue is that when I get a erection masterbating it subsides too.. I'm just trying to figure everything out

Performance issues most often manifest during sexual encounters, but when the concern over performance is enough to counteract your arousal it can be seen during other instances.

[NOWHARD Banned Find all posts View Profile Close NOWHARD]

Hi Bronco,I think your problem is now stress and anxiety, as you have been going through this problem yourn stressing and this is killing your erections.

There is a really good way to help you, its meditation, get this working for you could solve your problem, its all down quite relaxation and breathing, so you can see where meditation comes into play, just google stress, anxiety and meditation your find help there.

But also look local to see if there is a local group who could also help you. OK

NOWHARD

[NOWHARD Banned Find all posts View Profile Close NOWHARD]

So you have to reset your mind and body from watching porn and masterbating? I have a similar problem. I can only get a erection when I stimulate it myself. after that if u get in it quick enough I'm good. But my problem is that I have to get myself hard. I watch porn a couple times a week same with masturbating.

The thing to do is watch porn and not masturbate, porn is bad but porn is a great libido lifter, just carry images in your brain for help with sex and masturbating. OK

NOWHARD