No libido - what is it like for you?

[needingalift Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close needingalift]

My sex drive vanished overnight several years ago, having previously been sky-high!

What I noticed was that my ability to fantasise thereafter was greatly reduced and nothing erotic now ever comes into my head. Try as I might, my sexual imagination is zero and I just cannot produce those images in my mind that used to get me so fired up.

I know we have a few other members with low libido and I'm wondering if it's the same for them, or whether this just applies to me. I should point out that I suffer from various degrees of ongoing depression, but I believe this to be a result of my lost sexual urge rather than the cause.

I've never previously thought of asking anyone else what they feel with no libido but if anyone could tell me what it's like for them I'm sure this would be useful for me to know.

Thanks in advance!

[Pegasus AdministratorPE Gym EditorPEGym Hero ☺ Admin of the Month Mar 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close Pegasus]

Can you still get erections etc.?

What were the numbers on the hormone test ?

[CUSP82 Administrator Admin of the Month Dec 2014PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close CUSP82]

Well when was the last time you had blood work done?

[marksanchez397 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close marksanchez397]

My sex drive vanished overnight several years ago, having previously been sky-high!

What I noticed was that my ability to fantasise thereafter was greatly reduced and nothing erotic now ever comes into my head. Try as I might, my sexual imagination is zero and I just cannot produce those images in my mind that used to get me so fired up.

I know we have a few other members with low libido and I'm wondering if it's the same for them, or whether this just applies to me. I should point out that I suffer from various degrees of ongoing depression, but I believe this to be a result of my lost sexual urge rather than the cause.

I've never previously thought of asking anyone else what they feel with no libido but if anyone could tell me what it's like for them I'm sure this would be useful for me to know.

Thanks in advance!

I think hora problems are due to the past use of Antidepressants (SSRI). I have readed posts when you say that you have los libido and genital numbness. These are the most important synthoms on PSSD (post SSRI sexual dysfunction) sufferers.

[Pegasus AdministratorPE Gym EditorPEGym Hero ☺ Admin of the Month Mar 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close Pegasus]

So when my testosterone level was below 500 it had a bad effect on my sex drive . I was still able to have erections and sex . I still had and enjoyed sex just had no drive to seek it out . I did seek it out though as I knew I would enjoy it when it happened.
I suspect anxiety etc had an effect to lower test level .

[needingalift Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close needingalift]

My testosterone level 5 years ago (aged 54) was 573.

[Pegasus AdministratorPE Gym EditorPEGym Hero ☺ Admin of the Month Mar 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close Pegasus]

The test level then was ok . So depression and ssri.

[marksanchez397 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close marksanchez397]

When did you take SSRI and when did your problems start?

[needingalift Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close needingalift]

Marksanchez, I was prescribed some Prozac during the mid/late 1990’s. Haven’t taken any since though because they were ineffective and caused some side effects when I quit (..I fainted once!)

Pegasus, I can get occasional erections so I know the mechanics are still in working order. You may recall I started a thread about an erection I got (..can’t find it now but it was around 6 weeks ago) that lasted for over an hour. Well, I haven’t had another one since then.

This whole saga began with me catching thrush from a girlfriend, which apparently spread to my prostate (these issues are now resolved) and left me with penile numbness. The numbness and lack of libido came on simultaneously so I’m convinced they’re linked in some way, and whilst I can cope with the former the latter really crushes me!

The thing is, I’m unable to get any erotic thoughts into my head. Were you to ask me, for example, to imagine a sunny beach with the waves coming in off the sea I’d have no trouble picturing this in my mind, but then if I was told to think of a beautiful woman naked on the beach I'd just get a blank screen ... nothing!!!

As soon as anything sexual is involved it's like there's some kind of mental block, and I was just wondering if other members with low/no libido recognise this problem?

[marksanchez397 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close marksanchez397]

So your problems started round time you took ssri. I think your problems are totally due to SSRI. If you Google "PSSD forum", "Yahoo SSRI sex", "Survivingantidepressants", "rxisk.org", etc... you can find hundreds of people with genital anesthesia (it's a rare synthom except if you took these meds) and low libido for years just for taking some pills for some weeks...

[marksanchez397 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close marksanchez397]

Where you sexualy ok ever after taking these pills?

[needingalift Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close needingalift]

No, but I wasn't sexually okay before taking them either.

From memory, I'd already been suffering from low libido and penile numbness a good 5 years prior to being prescribed Prozac. It was either a 'last resort' attempt by the docs to cure these problems or it was to treat the depression brought on by them, I don't recall which, but these SSRI's didn't actually cause the sexual problems in my case.

[Marriedman Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Marriedman]

Only after writing this I understood, that this could be to much, but anyway...

I am still not sure if I have low libido only or ED only or both at the same time. If both, then I can not tell which came first. To sum up, I am lost here, but I can tell you how I feel towards sex.
I am 32. Married. Two years ago I was horny as hell. I was ready to have sex whenever my wife needed me and I was able to do that whenever I wanted and wherever I wanted. I was able to get rock hard just by thinking about sex. When I was getting to bed, I was solid hard before even going under the blanket, even if my wife was still in the bathroom. If I was going into bedroom and saw my wife there waiting for me naked with her ass turned at me in doggystyle, I was faster than a bullet to burry my face down there. When she was on her period, each night I was falling to sleep with a steel solid cock. I was waking up each morning with a raging morning wood and peeing in the morning was a hell. I had to bend over more than 90 degrees down. If I tried to bend my penis even 1 degree, the pee stopped. It would have been easier to pee standing on my head to be honest. When I wasn’t around my wife and I started to imagine sex, I was instantly with an erection. If my thoughts got more kinky, my penis was already beating my belly with a rhythm of a heart. Needles to say, if deflected my thoughts anywhere else (fishing, stuff I had to buy, my bike, my photography), erection wouldn’t go away for 5 minutes. I was masturbating a lot. With porn, without porn. With lube, without lube. Sometimes just a quicky to rub one out, sometimes a half an hour or longer session… I would say, I was a sex freak.
Fast forward to today.
My erections started to fade. At the same time I was not into sex anymore. I’ve noticed that I’ve started masturbating not because of being horny, but because this became some kind of routine. “Something that has to be done”. I was able to get hard, but masturbation wasn’t feeling the same. Sex wasn’t feeling the same. My wife is far from being kinky compared to me. So when one day she called me to our bedroom and I saw her standing doggystyle with her ass turned to me in her new lingerie with a see through panties, with all the stockings and those straps (my penis would have ripped the zipper two years ago in a matter of seconds), my mind just went “meh…”. I came to her and I said that I am sorry, but I don’t want to… This was the breaking point. After this I’ve noticed that I have to force myself into fantasies. I was on a vacation few weeks ago. There were a lot of ladies in bikinis that came here straight from a playboy magazine cover. Looking at them I was feeling nothing. And I was pissed over myself. It’s like my mind understands, that this hot girl is sexy, that I would want to do her, but at the same time there is no feeling of being horny at all. No “inner drive” for this. This was scaring the shit out of me. I was even trying to play with those girls in my mind (those bikinis looked like 3 sizes smaller than they needed to be. I was able to “read” the nipples, see the silhouette of all those pussy lips and so on). Nothing. Not a shit. I was running back to the hotel. Forcing myself to masturbate just to check if I am ok. Interesting to mention, but I was able to get very hard (not as hard as few years ago, but something near). However, it still didn’t feel the same. It felt just like a techincal drain. Without any emotional rush and things. I’ve even catched myself where I was praying in my mind for my wife not to initiate today just because I didn’t wanted to turn her down. If I come across some sexy pic in social media (which would have led me to masturbation few years ago with a raging boner even before thinking about it), I don’t feel a shit. I look at it, try to force myself into fantasy but nothing. Not a shit. I come across some naked woman in the same social media, but looking at her feels the same as looking at a shit that doesn’t interst me (a cat, a flower, a rock, scissors, you name it). I don’t give a shit anymore in these kind of situations even when I understand that it should be arousing me as hell…
This is how I feel. And it’s just a fraction of all the shit going on. LOL. I hope you feel better than me.

[needingalift Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close needingalift]

I was on a vacation few weeks ago. There were a lot of ladies in bikinis that came here straight from a playboy magazine cover. Looking at them I was feeling nothing. And I was pissed over myself. It’s like my mind understands, that this hot girl is sexy, that I would want to do her, but at the same time there is no feeling of being horny at all. No “inner drive” for this. This was scaring the shit out of me. I was even trying to play with those girls in my mind (those bikinis looked like 3 sizes smaller than they needed to be. I was able to “read” the nipples, see the silhouette of all those pussy lips and so on). Nothing. Not a shit.

Same here! I just know that if the 'drive' came back the erections would follow but there's some kind of brain-penis connection that's been lost :-(

[Pegasus AdministratorPE Gym EditorPEGym Hero ☺ Admin of the Month Mar 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close Pegasus]

My testosterone level 5 years ago (aged 54) was 573.

Umm wasn't your libido good 5 years ago?

So a comparison to what it is now is required .

Look guys a first thing , THE FIRST THING is a hormone check . If your current level is below 500 it is the likely cause of the issue .