21 years old with ED and no morning wood! Is this physical or psychological?

[psychonaut5 Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close psychonaut5]

Greetings to you all! Forgive me if I am posting this in the wrong forum as I am quite new here.

About three months ago I got in to a relationships with an incredible new woman. Everything was going great until it came time for our first moment to be intimate. Everything seemed to be functioning normally until the moment of penetration, then all systems abruptly failed on my end. I admit that we had had quite a bit to drink that night so at the time I simply chalked it up to whisky dick.

This has happened three more times since then, to make matters worse I rarely wake up with morning erections anymore, and when I do they seem less rigid than usual and also seem to fade rather quickly. I also get zero, and I mean ZERO spontaneous erections during the day. Masturbation still works fine, though it takes a bit longer for me to get it up than it used to and still seems less rigid even in that instance. I also haven't even watched porn since I started dating my current girlfriend (about three months ago now) so I don't think porn would be the cause anymore at this point.

I went to a urologist, had a cholesterol and testosterone test done, as well as an ultrasound on my testicles (which seemed strange to me, considering the problem is with my erection, not my testicles).

Went for a follow-up appointment with the urologist yesterday and he said that all of my tests came back completely normal. He said if I really wanted to go in for further testing (such as for venous leak) that I would need to go to a specialized clinic hours away. My urologist seemed to think it was more of a psychological issue than anything else and recommend that I start seeing a psychologist, though I could go to the specialized clinic and have further testing done if I so chose.

I admit I am prone to anxiety and depression, and this erectile dysfunction issue has impacted every aspect of my life. I can't focus on school, I am terrified my girlfriend is going to leave me over this, I find it incredibly difficult to think of anything else. I fear that at only 21 years old I will never again be able to fully enjoy love or a sexual relationship ever again.

I would not be surprised at all if this issue was psychological, I am basically always a massive ball of stress, but this issue has never been a problem in any of my other sexual relationships and the near-complete lack of morning wood/spontaneous erections really concerns me. I'm really just looking for some peace of mind because I am honestly at my wits end here.

Based on what I've told you guys do any of you have any idea on what my next steps should be? Should I go in for further testing, or is this problem all in my head? Am I ever going to function as a normal 21 year old man should ever again? I'm scared to death and am desperate for some kind of solution

*Edit* I also feel it important to add that there has been one (Literally one time out of the four times that we've tried) where I was indeed able to have sex with my girlfriend without losing my erection. A bit of random info I know, but if it helps you guys to make a determination on whether or not this is physical or psychological then it would be a great help.

[Dress Sock Member Find all posts View Profile Close Dress Sock]

If it's psychological, meeting with a therapist might be a good idea.

[NOWHARD Banned Find all posts View Profile Close NOWHARD]

Hi It could what called First Night Frights and what its done is thrown your whole system out of whack, I think you need to get back in bed with your women after telling what you want to do, go through lots of foreplay with her, get a good erection going and if your using condoms get her to put it on for you as a part of foreplay, now let her be the one who decides when its time for sex and let her ride you.

This will switch you back on, you have been stressing over this, stress is a great erection killer and could be what's behind the loss of your morning woods, if you really think about your past few weeks, this is just p[laying on your mind, see its called stressing.

So with your women and her help time to undo your stress and get back in the game, just doing that once will cure your problems a packet of condoms and a nice warm bed will be far cheaper for you in the end, your end up.

NOWHARD

[Cavalier Retired Super Moderator Member of the Month Feb 2015PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Cavalier]

At the point of penetration and just before you loose your erection what is running through your mind at this point?
Is it WOW, look at this beautiful girl I'm about to have sex with and it's going to feel so good? Or is it will I be able to keep my erection, will I be able to perform to her expectations, will I be able to this or that? Obviously if you start to worry about all this other stuff you are going to loose focus on what has made you hard in the first place loose your erecction.

[Sticke Senior Member Member of the Month March 2018 Find all posts View Profile Close Sticke]

Greetings to you all! Forgive me if I am posting this in the wrong forum as I am quite new here.

About three months ago I got in to a relationships with an incredible new woman. Everything was going great until it came time for our first moment to be intimate. Everything seemed to be functioning normally until the moment of penetration, then all systems abruptly failed on my end. I admit that we had had quite a bit to drink that night so at the time I simply chalked it up to whisky dick.

This has happened three more times since then, to make matters worse I rarely wake up with morning erections anymore, and when I do they seem less rigid than usual and also seem to fade rather quickly. I also get zero, and I mean ZERO spontaneous erections during the day. Masturbation still works fine, though it takes a bit longer for me to get it up than it used to and still seems less rigid even in that instance. I also haven't even watched porn since I started dating my current girlfriend (about three months ago now) so I don't think porn would be the cause anymore at this point.

I went to a urologist, had a cholesterol and testosterone test done, as well as an ultrasound on my testicles (which seemed strange to me, considering the problem is with my erection, not my testicles).

Went for a follow-up appointment with the urologist yesterday and he said that all of my tests came back completely normal. He said if I really wanted to go in for further testing (such as for venous leak) that I would need to go to a specialized clinic hours away. My urologist seemed to think it was more of a psychological issue than anything else and recommend that I start seeing a psychologist, though I could go to the specialized clinic and have further testing done if I so chose.

I admit I am prone to anxiety and depression, and this erectile dysfunction issue has impacted every aspect of my life. I can't focus on school, I am terrified my girlfriend is going to leave me over this, I find it incredibly difficult to think of anything else. I fear that at only 21 years old I will never again be able to fully enjoy love or a sexual relationship ever again.

I would not be surprised at all if this issue was psychological, I am basically always a massive ball of stress, but this issue has never been a problem in any of my other sexual relationships and the near-complete lack of morning wood/spontaneous erections really concerns me. I'm really just looking for some peace of mind because I am honestly at my wits end here.

Based on what I've told you guys do any of you have any idea on what my next steps should be? Should I go in for further testing, or is this problem all in my head? Am I ever going to function as a normal 21 year old man should ever again? I'm scared to death and am desperate for some kind of solution

I've been in your shoes. When I started being with my girlfriend I would lose erection when it came to the act! It's completely normal if you feel like you have to perform. Also I've been extremely prone to anxiety and when I got anxious over a pill I took for once (finasteride) I had ED, no morning erections and no spontanous erections for 2 weeks. When I relaxed I was rock hard again (I am 19). Try starting some light jelqing to increase blood flow and some kegels. Mind is the most powerful sex organ. You really need to relax if your hormones are fine then you have nothing to worry about. Enjoy your relationship and talk to a therapist, it will help you a lot. Take care of yourself, stress kills erections, and don't try antidepressants they will make matters worse. Just talk to somebody that can help you feel better and things will be great again.
Cheers,
Sticke ^_^

[psychonaut5 Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close psychonaut5]

Beginning to lose hope...

Hey guys.

I made my first post on here about a month ago to explain some of my erectile dysfunction issues, I guess I’m just looking to provide an update (as well as get some support).

I’m a 21 year old man who can barely get erections at all anymore. I first noticed the problem after failing to have sex with my current girlfriend for the first time back in January.

In all this time we have only had sex twice (and one of those times was with the use of viagra). This issue is absolutely destroying me.

Went to one urologist who ran my testosterone levels and also did an ultrasound of my testicles (both tests came back normal, urologist pretty much blew it off as a psychological issue and sent me on my way).

I went and saw a new urologist recently who believes I may have prostititis and prescribed me ciproflaxacin to hopefully clear the infection (didn’t run any tests or examinations, basically just took a shot in the dark and told me to come back in a month).

This problem has progressively gotten worse over the course of the last few months. In the beginning I couldn’t have sex, but I was still able to get hard enough for my girlfriend to pleasure me with her hand, which was something at least. Now there is nothing. I could be laying in bed cuddling with her for HOURS, not even so much as a twitch down there, she could actively be trying to turn me on and there is absolutely nothing.

I never, NEVER get morning wood or spontaneous erections despite the fact that I am taking multiple supplements associated with EQ (l-arginine, 60% icariin horny goat weed, and ginko biloba). It’s getting to the point where even masturbation is becoming difficult (I can only get to about 60%-70% EQ before orgasm, and my ejaculations are becoming very weak as well).

I’m getting really scared. This problem has plagued me for the entire duration of 2018. I am beginning to fear it will never get better. I find it incredibly hard to believe that a purely psychological issue could virtually castrate me in ALL instances that involve getting and maintaining an erection. I’m only 21 years old and I fear I will live the rest of my life a shell of the man I once was. I can’t even watch or hear about sex anymore without getting upset because the whole ordeal has just brought me so much shame.

Does any one have any words of wisdom for me? Any positive affirmations? Any flicker of hope that I might one day return to the virility that every young man deserves? I am becoming so depressed and insecure. I have a BEAUTIFUL girlfriend and I can’t even have a full relationship with her. I feel like I am failing her, I feel like I am failing myself. I don’t know what to do to make this better any more and as the title says I am losing hope...

[Dr Nemo Senior Member Member of the Month May 2018 Find all posts View Profile Close Dr Nemo]

Have you ever taken propecia?

[psychonaut5 Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close psychonaut5]

No sir.

[Dr Nemo Senior Member Member of the Month May 2018 Find all posts View Profile Close Dr Nemo]

Okay, well the fact that you never get morning wood tells me that you have something off with your hormones. This issue can be exceedingly complex and I advise you to seek out a doctor who focuses on male hormone dysfunction. This does not mean your run-of-the-mill Endo. This means a specialist who has been focusing on this for at least a decade. There aren't many of them; they are not easy to find. I suggest first asking around your area; and if you're having problems I can give you names but you may have to travel. I do NOT advise putting this off; this has to be a major priority. This is no joke and any doctor who brushes you off like that ought to be put before a review board.



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[EDtreatment Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close EDtreatment]

One of the things that I hear consistently is that guys are not satisfied with the care they get from their doctors. At your age, this is not 'normal.' If your doctor doesn't give you clear answers, find another doctor. Don't give up!

[Dr Nemo Senior Member Member of the Month May 2018 Find all posts View Profile Close Dr Nemo]

One of the things that I hear consistently is that guys are not satisfied with the care they get from their doctors. At your age, this is not 'normal.' If your doctor doesn't give you clear answers, find another doctor. Don't give up!

We've discussed this in PMS a bit and I've given him some very good leads. It's up to him now.





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[Holm Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Holm]

Do you manage to get erect from porn?

[Big Al AdministratorPEGym EditorMale Enhancement Coach Rep.PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Big Al]

Hey guys.

I made my first post on here about a month ago to explain some of my erectile dysfunction issues, I guess I’m just looking to provide an update (as well as get some support)...

Threads merged.

For future reference please post updates to existing threads instead of creating new ones.

[NOWHARD Banned Find all posts View Profile Close NOWHARD]

Hi So just how much exercise do you get? Are you a big fan of fast and junk foods? drink lots of sodas? smoke heavy? drink heavy? have you O Deed on porn? Have you ever been on antidepressants? or any over long term meds? some meds have bad side effect for our sex lives, been over masturbating? like 5 to 8 times a day.

There are so many things out there that will stop your sex life, even some supplements can do that as well.

So anymore info you have please tell all, its only from this that we can help you. OK

NOWHARD

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Hi OK see if this helps you, now your getting stressed and probably with some anxiety, just to add to that all from your constant thoughts which I think is now pilling on depression, stress, anxiety and depression are all sex killers, if your not on meds for any of them?

Then now you should get into doing meditation, doing that will help you get over these problems and get you back on track, now is you google depression and meditation it your covers all 3, lots to read and take in, but for your best help have a look round and see if you can find a local group, to teach you the art of meditation, get this working for you and see how your sex life is going then.

Now I'm an ED survivor, if you go on the health and exercise forum your find NOWHARDS MIX its what got me back in the saddle along with the supplements your see, plus a good cock ring really dose help to get some good boners.

Nocturnal erections and morning woods I have been getting sometimes daily since I have been on the mix, give it a read and give it the 12 week trail see how your feeling then.

NOWHARD