So what do you guys think? (Physical or Psychological)?

[psychonaut5 Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close psychonaut5]

Hey guys

So I went to ANOTHER urologist last week (University of Iowa Hospitals Urology clinic, one of the best in the country). And seeing as that I don’t have diabetes, I don’t have low testosterone, and viagra works for me (essentially ruling out venous leak) my doctor, without running any physical tests aside from a quick physical exam, determined my problem to be psychological in nature and recommend I take viagra in the short-term (to rebuild confidence) and also to see a psychologist about this issue.

I’m still not entirely convinced this is psychological in nature. I occassionally wake up with morning erections, and I can still masturbate, but I absolutely never get random erections throughout my day, and when I am with my partner my penis might as well be dead (I am only 21, for those who don’t know me yet).

I really need to get this sorted out guys, this is starting to cause a huge strain on my relationship. I’ve been dating this woman for over six months and have had this issue the ENTIRE time! It has completely decimated the sexual aspect of our relationship (as well as both of our self confidences). I really love this woman, and it would absolutely destroy me to lose her because I can’t get it up at only 21 years of age! She thinks I’m not attracted to her and that couldn’t be further from the truth but how the hell can I blame her when my junk doesn’t function as it should?

This is like the third or fourth doctor that has told me this is probably psychological, but I just find it hard to believe that my mind could have such a relentless death grip over my penis literally every time I am with my girlfriend (and also throughout the day in general, like I said, unless I’m masterbating, or if I’m lucky enough to wake up with an erection, I seriously won’t get a single erection all day).

I was almost hoping it was a physical problem, because then at least I could have a legitimate explanation for my girlfriend and she could stop feeling so terrible about herself. Someone please just tell me what to do. I’m a 21 year old college student with an absolutely beautiful girlfriend and erectile dysfunction is ruining everything for me. I need to get control over this problem. Any advice would really be helpful. I’m feeling really scared and lost right now.

[Stevo5795 Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Stevo5795]

Hey man I’m right there with ya . I’m 29 healthy and have been dealing with performance anxiety for a few years now. I am also dating someone going on 6 months who I also love and care deeply about but feel like I have so much pressure and stress to perform that it’s killong my libido and making me want to avoid sex . I’m fine before intercourse but when that happens I go soft . I started taking cialis just to get the edge off and it works from time to time only problem is I don’t want to rely on this for the rest of my life . I heard that meditation is great so been doing that every morning and every evening beforehand bed . I guess I’m just going to keep taking the cialis until i figure out a better solution . I also stopped watching porn and masturbating. Going on 5 months now .

[Pegasus AdministratorPE Gym EditorPEGym Hero ☺ Admin of the Month Mar 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close Pegasus]

Many docs are halfwits I know the overpaid uro i went to was .

Post the numbers on the hormone test . ALWAYS THE NUMBERS..

It could also be pelvic floor related docs are notably slow on that . So how is your general flexibility?

[Big Al AdministratorPEGym EditorMale Enhancement Coach Rep.PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Big Al]

...but I just find it hard to believe that my mind could have such a relentless death grip over my penis literally every time I am with my girlfriend (and also throughout the day in general, like I said, unless I’m masterbating, or if I’m lucky enough to wake up with an erection, I seriously won’t get a single erection all day)...

Your complaint is a common one.

Understand how the penis works- if a negative emotional correlation has been made- and strengthened through conditioning- to performance and sexual activity, there's going to be issues. Unless the mindset is changed, the problem will persist.

When was the last time you were able to think about sex without anticipating any negative issues?

[psychonaut5 Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close psychonaut5]

Your complaint is a common one.

Understand how the penis works- if a negative emotional correlation has been made- and strengthened through conditioning- to performance and sexual activity, there's going to be issues. Unless the mindset is changed, the problem will persist.

When was the last time you were able to think about sex without anticipating any negative issues?

I would say it’s been about six months. Ever since this problem began I haven’t even been able to so much as cuddle with my girlfriend without being preoccupied about how inadequate I have become as a lover and as a man. It is really awful, sex and intimacy used to be enjoyable, something I looked forward too, now it is just stressful and heartbreaking.

[psychonaut5 Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close psychonaut5]

Many docs are halfwits I know the overpaid uro i went to was .

Post the numbers on the hormone test . ALWAYS THE NUMBERS..

It could also be pelvic floor related docs are notably slow on that . So how is your general flexibility?

Yeah, I have a bit of a trust issue with doctors, I feel like I’ve been largely just blown off with this since I am so young (I mean, most guys my age have to struggle just to keep the damn thing down, oh how I wish that was my issue).

My last testosterone test (I’ve had two) came back as 513 ng/dl. That’s at least if I’m interpreting the results correctly.

My general flexibility I’m not so sure about, I have a job that requires a lot of physical movement and heavy lifting but other than that I don’t really excercise or stretch at all.

[Pegasus AdministratorPE Gym EditorPEGym Hero ☺ Admin of the Month Mar 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close Pegasus]

Yeah, I have a bit of a trust issue with doctors, I feel like I’ve been largely just blown off with this since I am so young (I mean, most guys my age have to struggle just to keep the damn thing down, oh how I wish that was my issue).

My last testosterone test (I’ve had two) came back as 513 ng/dl. That’s at least if I’m interpreting the results correctly.

My general flexibility I’m not so sure about, I have a job that requires a lot of physical movement and heavy lifting but other than that I don’t really excercise or stretch at all.

Get the full results and post them.

This level of total testosterone is very marginal for a guy your age. Some lifestyle improvement should increase it enough to function better. Not saying there isnt also head issues to correct.

Some stretches are good for general health and can also improve pelvic blood flow and this test level and or penis function.
I will post a link with stretches in start with Hindi squat.

[psychonaut5 Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close psychonaut5]

Thank you Pegasus. I am willing to try anything to begin to feel like myself again....

[Pegasus AdministratorPE Gym EditorPEGym Hero ☺ Admin of the Month Mar 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close Pegasus]

Well my advice is to work on the stress thing and the physical side concurrently.

Here is a link to stretches .

How is your sleep/exercise /bodyweight /nutrition?

https://www.pegym.com/forums/prematu...ber-input.html

[Pegasus AdministratorPE Gym EditorPEGym Hero ☺ Admin of the Month Mar 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close Pegasus]

This is a good starting point a article from this site.

https://www.pegym.com/articles/10-wa...rone-naturally

[TheZZMan Moderator Member of the Month Sept 2018PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close TheZZMan]

Well, I'll chime in.... What are your porn habits? Are you on any medications and if so, which ones?

If you enter a sexual encounter with the belief you will fail (as that is what happened last time) then you will most defiantly fail. Been there, done that, still have issues at times. Never underestimate the power your brain has over your erections. It needs to be in sync with the moment or it won't happen.

Experiment, try a spontaneous encounter where sex results. Nothing planned where you think about it in advance, just a raw moment and let us know what happened.

[Stevo5795 Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Stevo5795]

So in regards to your guys post about how you need to have a positive mindset going in, do you have any tips and pointers and how to help change your mental attitude?

[Big Al AdministratorPEGym EditorMale Enhancement Coach Rep.PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Big Al]

Learn self-affirmation techniques and meditation. Both of these can be extremely helpful.

You must make sure you approach your training and sexual activity with at least a neutral mindset.

When you begin the exercise or feel feelings of anxiety coming on, clear your mind. Sometimes, picturing something neutral or a field of white light can be useful. Focus solely on the tactile sensations you're inducing. At the same time. attempt to emote a feeling of confidence and being unencumbered. if your mind starts to drift then take a deep breath and re-center yourself.

This is something which may take some getting used to, but once you turn the corner with this procedure you'll realize there's great benefits to be had.

[TheZZMan Moderator Member of the Month Sept 2018PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close TheZZMan]

I sometimes get into a deep kissing session with her. While there, I try to time my inhales to when she exhales. It is similar to breathing into a paper bag to take care of hiccups. You take in somewhat less oxygen and it has a calming effect. Plus the kissing adds a spark to what we were going to do anyway and she likes it.

[psychonaut5 Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close psychonaut5]

Well my advice is to work on the stress thing and the physical side concurrently.

Here is a link to stretches .

How is your sleep/exercise /bodyweight /nutrition?

https://www.pegym.com/forums/prematu...ber-input.html

My sleep schedule is a bit erratic, I sleep at weird times throughout the day, though I think I still get a decent amount of sleep. My nutrition is great! At least, more health-conscious than many my age I think. I’m a vegetarian and I try to minimize junk food. I don’t drink any soda, I try to make at least one fruit smoothie a day, with a protein supplement, I keep up on my vitamins and things I might be lacking by not eating meat.

One thing I should say is that I am a smoker. Have been for about five years. I quit for almost two months when this problem first began (in the hopes that quitting my nicotine habit would be enough to turn this around), but after seeing zero improvement and with how stressed out this issue has made me I went back to the nicotine. Currently trying to quit again without much luck.