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Good day, fellow PE’ers,
So, it appears that the ugly head of ED has reared itself again. (TLDR version, Tried having sex again after 5 yrs of no sex, couldn't keep it hard enough to enter)
A brief history of my issue. I joined this site several years ago after I had issues keeping an erection during intercourse with my now ex-wife. On my best days, I could penetrate her and my erection would last maybe 8-10 min, but then inevitably get soft again. That was the best-case scenario and I considered the few times it happened to be lucky. Other times I would be hard until I attempted to push my dick inside (which was always a rather difficult endeavor in the first place that seemed to require her being in the perfect position and even and trying to open it a bit more) and if I did manage to get it in, it wouldn’t last long. I would also like to mention I’ve NEVER been able to cum inside, ofc. Also, interesting side note..I’ve only been with ONE woman.
That was several years ago, when I was in my mid-30’s. Since that time I've had phases where I've had really good EQ and longer lasting, easier to obtain erections. I've had periods where I was working out a lot and eating really healthy, but l feel like I lack consistency. Now I’m 42 and I haven’t really had the opportunity to have sex. The main reason for this is that the effort needed to find someone that I want to be with and I’m attracted to hasn’t been super high on my priority list. There have been times when I really did try to meet someone through online dating, but most girls I met I just wasn’t that attracted to, or they didn’t seem to want a second date.
That all changed recently, however. I met a girl on OKC. She was from Ghana and despite some very mediocre profile pics, she ended up being pretty damn attractive; amazing body, great curves, hourglass figure, decently fit. We had several dates that lasted almost 8 hrs each. (I could go into more detail, if needed). The second date ended with us getting soaked in the rain and we went back to her place. I didn’t have a change of clothes, so I took my wet shirt off and was shirtless while we watched T.V. at her house. Long story short, as we got more comfortable, we started feeling each other up, her shirt/bra came off and she ended up dry-humping me on the couch as we made out. She also gave me 2 hickies on my neck, which were later noticed by my family.
Shortly after this, she decided that we should slow things down and get to know each other better. She was also religious (7th day Adventist) and admitted that while she “physically” wants me, she really wants to find the right person with the intention of potentially marrying them. We agreed to be friends and try to get to know each other better before trying for a relationship. I thought that was the end of that, and I tried a few times to meet up with her, but she always seemed busy (she does work 2 jobs) and she also noted that during wintertime she goes into hibernation mode.
Recently, though after I got back from vacation and got a new phone, she texts me and seems interested in hanging out again (I was also in the mood to see her again) and made mention of needing a “Man-heater”. The next day while at work, she asked what I when I got off work and invited to come over to her place to “cuddle”. Initially, I didn’t feel comfortable with the idea, since I was caught a bit off-guard, I would’ve preferred to be more prepared, cleaned-up, made sure my breath smelled good and all that. However, I felt this was probably a rare opportunity, so I stopped by a CVS to grab a travel-sized toothbrush/mouthwash and headed over to her place.
When I arrived, she had the lights dimmed down, candles lit and she was dressed in some skimpy nightwear/lingerie. We cuddled for awhile and it ended up escalating to foreplay and went down on her. However, I tried to enter and it just wasn’t happening. I only managed about 75% EQ, even though I felt really turned on. She tried to reassure my by saying "Maybe it's not ready yet, don't force it".
The good news is, I still enjoyed the encounter very much, and I'm sure she did too. It also woke me up to the fact that I still might be able to get laid and there are attractive women out there that want me.
So, the reason I created this post was to get any advice on increasing my EQ and maintaining it. I know exercise/Cardio and diet are super important. I'm interested in hearing any advice on Supplements, Diet, Exercise and PE routines that have helped others with their EQ/ED issues.
So, it appears that the ugly head of ED has reared itself again. (TLDR version, Tried having sex again after 5 yrs of no sex, couldn't keep it hard enough to enter)
A brief history of my issue. I joined this site several years ago after I had issues keeping an erection during intercourse with my now ex-wife. On my best days, I could penetrate her and my erection would last maybe 8-10 min, but then inevitably get soft again. That was the best-case scenario and I considered the few times it happened to be lucky. Other times I would be hard until I attempted to push my dick inside (which was always a rather difficult endeavor in the first place that seemed to require her being in the perfect position and even and trying to open it a bit more) and if I did manage to get it in, it wouldn’t last long. I would also like to mention I’ve NEVER been able to cum inside, ofc. Also, interesting side note..I’ve only been with ONE woman.
That was several years ago, when I was in my mid-30’s. Since that time I've had phases where I've had really good EQ and longer lasting, easier to obtain erections. I've had periods where I was working out a lot and eating really healthy, but l feel like I lack consistency. Now I’m 42 and I haven’t really had the opportunity to have sex. The main reason for this is that the effort needed to find someone that I want to be with and I’m attracted to hasn’t been super high on my priority list. There have been times when I really did try to meet someone through online dating, but most girls I met I just wasn’t that attracted to, or they didn’t seem to want a second date.
That all changed recently, however. I met a girl on OKC. She was from Ghana and despite some very mediocre profile pics, she ended up being pretty damn attractive; amazing body, great curves, hourglass figure, decently fit. We had several dates that lasted almost 8 hrs each. (I could go into more detail, if needed). The second date ended with us getting soaked in the rain and we went back to her place. I didn’t have a change of clothes, so I took my wet shirt off and was shirtless while we watched T.V. at her house. Long story short, as we got more comfortable, we started feeling each other up, her shirt/bra came off and she ended up dry-humping me on the couch as we made out. She also gave me 2 hickies on my neck, which were later noticed by my family.
Shortly after this, she decided that we should slow things down and get to know each other better. She was also religious (7th day Adventist) and admitted that while she “physically” wants me, she really wants to find the right person with the intention of potentially marrying them. We agreed to be friends and try to get to know each other better before trying for a relationship. I thought that was the end of that, and I tried a few times to meet up with her, but she always seemed busy (she does work 2 jobs) and she also noted that during wintertime she goes into hibernation mode.
Recently, though after I got back from vacation and got a new phone, she texts me and seems interested in hanging out again (I was also in the mood to see her again) and made mention of needing a “Man-heater”. The next day while at work, she asked what I when I got off work and invited to come over to her place to “cuddle”. Initially, I didn’t feel comfortable with the idea, since I was caught a bit off-guard, I would’ve preferred to be more prepared, cleaned-up, made sure my breath smelled good and all that. However, I felt this was probably a rare opportunity, so I stopped by a CVS to grab a travel-sized toothbrush/mouthwash and headed over to her place.
When I arrived, she had the lights dimmed down, candles lit and she was dressed in some skimpy nightwear/lingerie. We cuddled for awhile and it ended up escalating to foreplay and went down on her. However, I tried to enter and it just wasn’t happening. I only managed about 75% EQ, even though I felt really turned on. She tried to reassure my by saying "Maybe it's not ready yet, don't force it".
The good news is, I still enjoyed the encounter very much, and I'm sure she did too. It also woke me up to the fact that I still might be able to get laid and there are attractive women out there that want me.
So, the reason I created this post was to get any advice on increasing my EQ and maintaining it. I know exercise/Cardio and diet are super important. I'm interested in hearing any advice on Supplements, Diet, Exercise and PE routines that have helped others with their EQ/ED issues.
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