Low Libido / ED

[Webbo87 Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Webbo87]

Hi people, a quick overview of my reason for posting and the help I need, now just over 2 years ago my marriage broke down and I seperated from the ex this hit me hard for about a year and a bit but things settled down and I battled my depression and stress and feel I'm on a much better level with these problems without taking any medication etc. Moving forward to the present day I've got myself back into the dating game and getting a few dates and numbers from various women and want to get back out there and feel the love again for life. When I was with the wife etc my sex drive/libido was through the roof all the time and I had no problem at all with erections throughout the day and in the morning, I could see someone I fancied on TV etc and I'd be horny there and then but now days I just don't get this feeling anymore at all I see mates talking about being horny all the time and worry myself sick I don't get this feeling anymore, I don't even have morning wood (I have done the tape and paper test and it does break so I'm assuming I'm getting something during the night at least just not when waking up) or spontaneous erection. I've since had to rent my house out and move back home with parents for the past year and a half to get myself sorted financially so masterbation is never on my mind or do I feel the need to do it nomore when it was a regular thing for me to do. I workout regular and my diet and supplements are on point. Getting really fed up I visited the doctors to check anything physical that could be wrong and my T levels came back at 32 nmol/l which when converted is up in the 900s which is really high so it can't be t levels. I've slept with 2 women since my split and both times I used cialis as a boost incase but I just want that horny and libido thinking back. My question is could this problem still be down to mental issues or something else I just want to be able to date and feel the urge for sex again and lust after women it plays on my mind all the time that I have ED now and its driving my mental health downwards big time.

Sorry about the long story any help or similar stories will be welcomed

Kind regards

[not2big Senior Super ModeratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close not2big]

Most ED is mental. How much Cialis did you use and how was your performance. Cialis is sometimes prescribed to build up your confidence in your ability to perform.

[Ash_the_Finder Member Find all posts View Profile Close Ash_the_Finder]

First of all:

CALM THE HELL DOWN MAN!

You are not helping your situation by worrying about "what all your mates are doing"

Next. Factors that affect your libido and penis.

Lack of sleep:

I don't give a damn what anyone says, I'm 40 years old and when I sleep less than 8 hours a night, my penis is soft as a t-shirt on a clothesline.

Hydration:
Drink. More. Water! If you aren't peeing clear, you're dehydrated.

Cardio:
Your penis is a balloon that inflates because of pressure. Having terrible bloodflow because you don't get your heart pumping means you're gonna have a bad time. Get yourself doing at least 1 hour of long steady state cardio per day, 3 days per week. It doesn't matter what you do, cycle, run, dance whatever, but keep your heart above 130bpm while you're doing it. There's a big relation between low red blood cell count and libido/erection/stamina issued.

Cardio will also boost your mood.

Finally, get some damn sunlight and smile every once in a while. It'll all be good soon brother.

[Webbo87 Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Webbo87]

Cheers for the replies lads really appreciate it!! When I spoke to the doctor about the troubles and seeing my test results she firmly said it was all mental as far as she was concerned as I had no problems at all with the ex wife and its suddenly come on. When I used cialis I took 50mg (tablets was 100mg halved) and it kept it up for aslong as I needed and I wasn't worried about staying hard. I'm naturally a worrier and I think I'm confusing my brain with expecting arousal at every thought or every women I see and this could be the problem. I'm regular in the gym but mainly weight based apart from swimming but I might start to throw in some cycling to get the heart going as you suggested and sleep is another I need to brush up on. I suppose il not truly know if my arousal levels will return untill I get myself into a new relationship then it may all come flooding back but untill then il try to forget all worries and calm down

Appreciate it once again guys this forum has been a help for years and more so now I need it properly

Cheers

[Webbo87 Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Webbo87]

Just after a quick bit of advice if anyone has any on it.. Its to do with the morning wood situation with my T levels being OK does anyone know if depression can be a killer of morning wood which I thought could not be as its mental not physical which you can't control when asleep? Quick update on my situation I have been out on a 3rd date with a women I'm really getting into and we had sex for the first time but I still felt I needed to take the cialis even on this occasion, her body was smoking hot and she's as beautiful as they come but I could still see me not getting aroused enough to produce an erection, needless to say the cialis did its job all be it not super hard but I'm working through stuff to get my life and sexual life back on track

Thanks again people

[djmotion Senior Member Member of the Month March 2019 Find all posts View Profile Close djmotion]

Yeah, depression can directly affect libido and in fact is one of the main causes for it. Then the lack of libido just makes you more depressed so you end up in a vicious cycle. Antidepressants can make the impact on libido worse so I don't know if you're taking these. Otherwise, get down to the core problems on why you feel depressed and begin working on them.

[Pegasus AdministratorPE Gym EditorPEGym Hero ☺ Admin of the Month Mar 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close Pegasus]

Sounds like you are addicted to Cialis.

[Webbo87 Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Webbo87]

Yeah, depression can directly affect libido and in fact is one of the main causes for it. Then the lack of libido just makes you more depressed so you end up in a vicious cycle. Antidepressants can make the impact on libido worse so I don't know if you're taking these. Otherwise, get down to the core problems on why you feel depressed and begin working on them.

Many thanks mate like you say its a vicious cycle I sit at home with no libido or urges I find myself a top top women to date and the mind basically says that ain't going to work which sets of thoughts and worries. I'm starting to look into all different avenues now to get my life back on track once and for all and become the man I was before.

Thanks again