No Erection Confidence

[JohnDoe4 Member Find all posts View Profile Close JohnDoe4]

So I have no trouble getting hard with my partner, usually just making out is enough to get to 100%. I have no confidence in keeping it though. As soon as I get an erection I start wondering whether it's hard enough and if it will last and it makes me reluctant to initiate sex. I get morning wood most mornings but not as hard as it could be. Libido is generally low but i've come to realise this is probably due to a deeply ingrained aversion to sex for performance anxiety and low erection confidence.

How do you get around this issue?

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Many guys suffer with this malady. It’s called performance anxiety. It happens a lot when you try to rush to the desired conclusion. To overcome this you need to perform under ideal conditions - no distraction, no time limits, best to spend time with lots of touchy-feely, and be patient and let the progress lead to the ultimate conclusion.

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It sure sounds like performance anxiety Big Al does a lot of work in this area .

Just for interest it would be worth doing a hormone test and posting the results here .

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So I have no trouble getting hard with my partner, usually just making out is enough to get to 100%. I have no confidence in keeping it though. As soon as I get an erection I start wondering whether it's hard enough and if it will last and it makes me reluctant to initiate sex. I get morning wood most mornings but not as hard as it could be. Libido is generally low but i've come to realise this is probably due to a deeply ingrained aversion to sex for performance anxiety and low erection confidence.

How do you get around this issue?

You seem to need a front end alignment, your brain vehicle is tending to veer off sharply, to the negative side of life's road.

Begin practicing 'Equal Opportunity Balanced Thinking'( EOBT ).
When you catch yourself creating a negative thought,
“what if I can’t get hard, what if I can’t please another ??"

I start wondering whether it's hard enough and if it will last

Then counter balance that with an opposing positive thought,
"I can and will get hard, we are going to Rock it !"

I now think I am going to get & stay rock hard, and I will Last!

(or whatever you prefer to think positive)
You owe it to yourself to practice balance in your thinking !

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You seem to need a front end alignment, your brain vehicle is tending to veer off sharply, to the negative side of life's road.

Begin practicing 'Equal Opportunity Balanced Thinking'( EOBT ).
When you catch yourself creating a negative thought,
“what if I can’t get hard, what if I can’t please another ??"


Then counter balance that with an opposing positive thought,
"I can and will get hard, we are going to Rock it !"

(or whatever you prefer to think positive)
You owe it to yourself to practice balance in your thinking !

I love this. Thanks for sharing

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So I have no trouble getting hard with my partner, usually just making out is enough to get to 100%. I have no confidence in keeping it though. As soon as I get an erection I start wondering whether it's hard enough and if it will last and it makes me reluctant to initiate sex. I get morning wood most mornings but not as hard as it could be. Libido is generally low but i've come to realise this is probably due to a deeply ingrained aversion to sex for performance anxiety and low erection confidence.

How do you get around this issue?

I get it. I was just posting this on another thread, but it has implications here:

Urologists have a saying: “Erections make erections.”
In other words, sex is not unlike sports. If you want to be a good tennis player, play lots of tennis; if you want to have a good erection, have lots of erections.

I used to have periodic performance anxiety induced ED, but now if the wife says "Do you want to..." you can feel the breeze from how fast I get hard. And I mean "hard", not 75%, 100% won't bend hard. It impresses her.

I did this by getting lots of erections. 2~3 per day for PE and often another one (or two) for sex.
When ballooning or edging I sometimes take time, like 2 minutes, to get fully erect, but in foreplay it happens in seconds.