What's going on with me?

[Punabi Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Punabi]

I'm 22 years old, physically fit at 150 lbs 5'9 and active, vegetarian (and get enough vitamins), and don't smoke or drink (occasionally a drink once in a blue moon.)

I'll start this by saying that I was just recently treated for prostatitis, but I wasn't really having these problems during that time.

I have never had any problems getting or maintaining an erection. I have had some issues in the past with anxiety though. When I was very little I had a sexual encounter that I think may haven given me PTSD, and I would get sick to my stomach before getting with a girl, but never had any issues with erections.

I was with one girl for three years in high school and another for five years during high school and college. I never had any problem with either of them. I then met another girl and we started dating. I didn't have any issues getting hard with her, until it came time to have sex. I got very nervous because I wasn't ready and felt pressured to do it, and it was a little hard to get up, but I eventually got it. I had the same issue the second time and was good after that. Now I'm with a girl that I absolutely love, and had no problems getting it up the first couple times I was with her. However, I had a problem once, and now I can't stop thinking about it. It's to the point where I can't even get an erection while I'm alone. I think about it constantly because I just want to please her and it's embarrassing. She keeps telling me that it doesn't matter to her, but it matters to me. I have no clue where this came from. It started where I would be hard and then lose it once we started to strip, but now it's a constant thing. This is killing me. What can I do to fix this? Is there something physically wrong with me? Could the prostatitis have done anything to me, or is it just coincidence? I do notice a small bump just under the head and what looks like a blue dot or something. I would assume this is a vein, but I'm not 100%. I think it has always been there :/. It isn't large or anything like that, just figured I would mention it.

I was getting hard easily a few days ago. We had great sex, but the morning after had morning sex and it took a while and I couldn't get a full erection. Then, a couple nights ago we were cuddling and figured we would go find a quiet spot to fool around. We found a bathroom in the basement of her dorm and started to fool around there and I just couldn't get it up. She gave me a bj and I just couldn't do it. I was very nervous and worried about how it was hard that one time during morning sex and people coming in. Since then I can't stop thinking about it. I wake up feeling stressed and like I'm less of a man.

My libido is also less that it normally is. I usually would get excited constantly, but now I just don't get excited the way I used to. This just started happening too. I also noticed that I don't really wake up with the morning wood that I used to either. I was with the girl that this started with for about a month and a half and we started dating last November. I have been with this new girl for about two months now and things are going fantastic except for this.

Sorry this is such a long read, but it's really bugging me. Any advice would be great. Thanks a lot.

[CUSP82 Administrator Admin of the Month Dec 2014PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close CUSP82]

You're currently thinking with the wrong head. Stop using the one on top of your shoulders and start using the one about a foot below your belly button. You're young, go out and have fun!

[GTO Retired ModeratorPEGym EditorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close GTO]

You're currently thinking with the wrong head. Stop using the one on top of your shoulders and start using the one about a foot below your belly button. You're young, go out and have fun!

Cusp pretty much nailed it. You're to young to have anxiety over that stuff. Next time, just go with it and watch how your body responds.

[Punabi Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Punabi]

I'll try to stop worrying about it and focus on just her then. It's tough when I'm with a beautiful girl and all I can think of is whether or not I can get it up. Anxiety problems run in my family, so I'm hopeful that is the only problem. I'm also a bit of a hypochondriac, so I automatically go from "omg this could be anxiety" to "I have a testosterone deficiency and diabetes." If these issues don't go away, would you recommend seeing a sex therapist, a normal therapist, and/or a urologist?

[CUSP82 Administrator Admin of the Month Dec 2014PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close CUSP82]

Okay, now sit down on your couch, hold a hammer in your right hand, and now quickly hit yourself in the head! You're with a beautiful girl and you're thinking of your dick? How about thinking how damn sexy she looks and how you'd love to take your tongue and..... well you get the idea. How about thinking of her and use other parts of your anatomy. Trust me while you're doing something real good with your tongue and you're really getting into I think the guy downstairs will take care of himself.

[steve123 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close steve123]

Punabi,

Sounds to me like you have some anxiety. The anxiety is probably causing your decreased libido too. Just take a few deep breaths and relax for a bit. I know it's a tough time for you, but it sounds like nothing is wrong physically.

It's tough to determine exactly when the prostatitis occurred in relation to your symptoms starting as you didn't make it clear. And while it is possible prostatitis can cause some ED, i don't think its the case here. I'd feel confident saying you have an anxiety issue here.

I think if these issues dont go away, Probably best to see your primary care physician, who will then tell refer you to a urologist or psychiatrist depending on which head he thinks the issue comes from.

Steve

[Punabi Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Punabi]

That's the thing though. I'll be "doing something real good" with my tongue and lately I just can't seem to get it up or keep it up. I never had these problems before, but now I go into it thinking "I need to fix this. I hope I'm better this time around." and while I'm doing something real good with my tongue that's what I focus on. I just can't seem to stop thinking about it.

But now I'm also having these problems during masturbation. I used to masturbate just about every day, but now I just don't feel like I want/need to. I'll sit there and get about half way up, but that's it. After trying I'll feel like I need to finish and I will but I won't even get hard when I do now. Granted, I am even worrying about this during that.

Maybe a hammer is what I need I was fine in November. It probably is just a mental thing, but I can't help but worry that my prostatitis did something to me.

Edit: Steve123: I had the prostatitis problem in early march, and was off antibiotics for it a few weeks ago. It was causing pain while ejaculating and the consistency of my semen was different than usual. After the meds the pain was gone and the consistency was back to normal. I was wicked happy and it seemed like I was back to normal for a little while, but after that one time during morning sex, I was back to my decreased libido and inability to get it up. I was nervous to have sex while having the issue because I didn't know what the problem was, and now I'm nervous because I have another issue. I just want things to be back to normal and it's really getting to me at this point.

[CUSP82 Administrator Admin of the Month Dec 2014PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close CUSP82]

No it didn't . Stop making excuses and just do the best you can to enjoy yourself. It will pass if you allow it to.

[DemOne Banned Find all posts View Profile Close DemOne]

I was fine in November. It probably is just a mental thing, but I can't help but worry that my prostatitis did something to me.

And you just confirmed that your issue is 100% psychological. If you really think otherwise, go back and talk to a Urologist and see what they have to see.

[Punabi Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Punabi]

Yeah, it seems like that is most likely the problem. Thanks a lot everyone. I'll try to relax from now on and see a therapist if I can't.

[DemOne Banned Find all posts View Profile Close DemOne]

No need to see a therapist. Just keep a hammer close by and give yourself a whack everytime the issue happens. You'll learn, you'll learn quick, and it's mostly free.