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Hi guys, this is probably a question for a uroligist but since I work at sea and won't be able to see a specialist for several more months, maybe you can help.
I recently realized that I can't achieve and maintain an erection without flexing my PC muscles. If I masturbate and stop kegeling/flexing my PC muscles, I'll stay at most 50% hard. I've had sex a handful of times with a total of three women and have never come even close to orgasming from vaginal penetration. I've only ever finished by jerking off into her face. The last time I had sex - about 2 months ago - we fucked on and off for 5 hours and keeping my dick hard was a chore the whole time. It made it hard to try different positions because my boner would wilt by the time I managed to penetrate. I had a sexy, horny girlfriend for a while who I was rarely able to fuck because of my problems. I have been on Wellbutrin (for depression) and am now off it (I am no longer depressed and am generally happy and fulfilled) and couldn't perceive a difference in sex drive. I regularly take Adderall, and it has no positive or negative effect on my libido.
My sex drive is really low. I NEVER have morning wood, night wood, or spontaneous erections. If it wasn't for porn, I probably would rarely masturbate. I often go long periods without looking porn, and I still have no sex drive, so I don't think porn is the problem. I'm 23 years old, am a paragon of physical fitness, eat healthy, and have no other medical problems.
I guess this started off as a question about PC muscles and boners, but of course my problem is bigger than that. I can't remember how long I've been like this, but I do know that for most of my post-pubescent life, getting boners was no problem. I vaguely remember the sensation of having a genuine hard-on, one that I didn't have to labor to maintain. I mean... that's how boners should be... right? What do I have to do for a good-old-fashioned, no-nonsense, stiffy? I'm pretty sure I used to get those.
I maintain a positive attitude in all areas of life. Nothing is hopeless. But this shit sure if frustrating. The worst part is that I spent a long time thinking I didn't have the social skills, confidence, etc. to ever experience sex or a relationship. It took a lot of struggle to transform myself into a more succesful and confident person. Finally my dreams started to come true... only to find that I couldn't actually enjoy them. The worst part was when I was with my fucking-sexy girlfriend. She'd lay there all perfect and naked with me on top of her and whisper in my ear "Fuck me. Rape me. My body is yours. Do whatever you want with it." I really wished I could. I wanted to satisfy her. But my worthless, retarded, broken cock wouldn't let me. All I could do was try to console her as she turned her head and closed her eyes - thinking I didn't want her. What a cruel fucking joke. I just wanted to smash something and to scream at nature for ruining me. I wasn't even human being - not even an animal. At least animals can fuck each other. This last paragraph was unessecary but I just had to express my frustration. Maybe someone can relate. Fuck it... things will get better because I believe they will. Thanks for the help.
I recently realized that I can't achieve and maintain an erection without flexing my PC muscles. If I masturbate and stop kegeling/flexing my PC muscles, I'll stay at most 50% hard. I've had sex a handful of times with a total of three women and have never come even close to orgasming from vaginal penetration. I've only ever finished by jerking off into her face. The last time I had sex - about 2 months ago - we fucked on and off for 5 hours and keeping my dick hard was a chore the whole time. It made it hard to try different positions because my boner would wilt by the time I managed to penetrate. I had a sexy, horny girlfriend for a while who I was rarely able to fuck because of my problems. I have been on Wellbutrin (for depression) and am now off it (I am no longer depressed and am generally happy and fulfilled) and couldn't perceive a difference in sex drive. I regularly take Adderall, and it has no positive or negative effect on my libido.
My sex drive is really low. I NEVER have morning wood, night wood, or spontaneous erections. If it wasn't for porn, I probably would rarely masturbate. I often go long periods without looking porn, and I still have no sex drive, so I don't think porn is the problem. I'm 23 years old, am a paragon of physical fitness, eat healthy, and have no other medical problems.
I guess this started off as a question about PC muscles and boners, but of course my problem is bigger than that. I can't remember how long I've been like this, but I do know that for most of my post-pubescent life, getting boners was no problem. I vaguely remember the sensation of having a genuine hard-on, one that I didn't have to labor to maintain. I mean... that's how boners should be... right? What do I have to do for a good-old-fashioned, no-nonsense, stiffy? I'm pretty sure I used to get those.
I maintain a positive attitude in all areas of life. Nothing is hopeless. But this shit sure if frustrating. The worst part is that I spent a long time thinking I didn't have the social skills, confidence, etc. to ever experience sex or a relationship. It took a lot of struggle to transform myself into a more succesful and confident person. Finally my dreams started to come true... only to find that I couldn't actually enjoy them. The worst part was when I was with my fucking-sexy girlfriend. She'd lay there all perfect and naked with me on top of her and whisper in my ear "Fuck me. Rape me. My body is yours. Do whatever you want with it." I really wished I could. I wanted to satisfy her. But my worthless, retarded, broken cock wouldn't let me. All I could do was try to console her as she turned her head and closed her eyes - thinking I didn't want her. What a cruel fucking joke. I just wanted to smash something and to scream at nature for ruining me. I wasn't even human being - not even an animal. At least animals can fuck each other. This last paragraph was unessecary but I just had to express my frustration. Maybe someone can relate. Fuck it... things will get better because I believe they will. Thanks for the help.
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