Announcement

Collapse
No announcement yet.

Couldn't get an erection when I needed To. Why?

Collapse
X
Collapse
 
  • Page of 1
  • Filter
  • Time
  • Show
Clear All
new posts
Previous template Next
  • #1

    Couldn't get an erection when I needed To. Why?

    I thought everything was going fine. I've been doing the jelqing routines, I''m eating well, taking arginine, and waking up with good super hard morning erections. Then two nights ago I was at this girls house. I knew her for about an hour and as soon as we reached her bedroom I failed to get hard. It's just depressing. My penis had no life in at all. It shrivelled up and looked like it was trying to hide. It was exactly how it is when i step out the shower. Helicopter shakes always help me to give erections quickly at home, but they didn't work with her. At one point I did get about 25% hard, but I never got further then that. It just went limp and stayed limp. Then when I got home that night and went to bed to sleep I started to get hard for no reason. Wtf? It just randomly happened. I only ever seem to get erections when it's not necessary, and as soon as it's time to do the job I fail.

    I really don't know what to do from here. This isn't the first time either. I'm close to just giving up. I can't buy any drugs because that will make me dependent on it, plus I'm broke anyway. I can easily get an erection on my own whenever I want to and even when i speak to a girl on the phone it gets hard, but for the last two years every time I'm about to have sex it just doesn't happen. Why could I not get hard? If it is a mental thing I don't even know how to cure it. It might be a physical thing after all. I really did believe all this jelqing and kegeling would solve the problem.
    Tags: None
  • #2
    Anxiety, stress etc. Performance anxiety.

    This is mental, not physical, no amount of jelqing or kegeling will fix it.
    My progress log

    Comment

    • #3
      How would I cure performance anxiety? I bought a hypnosis set for Sexual performance Anxiety and used it for 6 weeks. i tried all the positive affirmations, mental movies and repeat phrases, and it hasn't helped. I don't even know what to do.

      Comment

      • #4
        Originally posted by ItWasWritten View Post
        How would I cure performance anxiety? I bought a hypnosis set for Sexual performance Anxiety and used it for 6 weeks. i tried all the positive affirmations, mental movies and repeat phrases, and it hasn't helped. I don't even know what to do.
        It sounds like performance anxiety to me too. Unfortunately the only help is therapy and relaxation techniques. After it happens a couple times, even if we don't feel like it is affecting us, our brain starts to get anxious in that situation and it just self perpetuates. There is another route too, which is to use medication to assure the erection. If you do that a few times and begin regaining the confidence, often the whole process reverses and you no longer need the drugs. You may want to contact a sex therapist. It happened to me a couple times and I started getting really anxious about it, and my new girlfriend wasn't all that happy about it either. I called and just spoke briefly with a sex therapist who asked me over the phone to try two things before I even came to see him. It was just a relaxation breathing technique when I was alone and then something to do with my girlfriend for a week without having sex, and it ended up working out the anxiety and I was fine after. The hard part is that if you aren't with someone at the time, or dont have a partner that will help you through it, I don't really know what to do.

        Comment

        • #5
          Try this. Instead the goal being to to get it up with the girl. Give each other full body massages. The goal is relaxation first, erection is secondary.
          Often times one's need for physical strokes/nurturing/cuddling etc., is confused with the need for sex....or rather that's the way some men get their physical strokes, sex first then the cuddling. REVERSE IT. Massage the entire body first. The more relaxed you are the sooner your body will
          respond with a spontaneous erection. Also don't jerk off for a week. Good luck. HTH

          Comment

          Previous template Next
          Working...
          X