Lost Sensitivity

[wolverine16 Member Find all posts View Profile Close wolverine16]

hey everyone,

i would like to share that am going through a difficulty and just need your little time if you can help me out with this..

actually ii suffered through psychogenic erectile dysfunction around 6 months ago, and got some medications too.

actually i've been masturbating daily since 6 months and even used to watch porn. i used to masturbate sometimes 3-4 times a day.

now the problem am suffering from is that i have lost my penile sensitivity, can it be due to daily masturbation ? now when i get handjob from girls, i do not enjoy it so much and sometimes my penis starts getting soft. i can regain my erection but still. even the morning wood i get are not so strong now.

i feel my penis sensitivity got reduced due to which i feel less horny. i sometimes apply coconut oil while jelqing.

Can anyone please help me out ? how can i restore my penile sensitivity ?

am 18 years old now. if i stop masturbating ? or dont touch myself for sometime ? will it help ? and will fantacizing women help ?

please, your reply will be valuable. thanku <3

[TheNewbie Member Find all posts View Profile Close TheNewbie]

Same problem here..gf comes over I cannot get hard...she leaves,I start thinking all tbings I could have done n boom hard erection. Lol.

[litopita Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close litopita]

hey everyone,

i would like to share that am going through a difficulty and just need your little time if you can help me out with this..

actually ii suffered through psychogenic erectile dysfunction around 6 months ago, and got some medications too.

actually i've been masturbating daily since 6 months and even used to watch porn. i used to masturbate sometimes 3-4 times a day.

now the problem am suffering from is that i have lost my penile sensitivity, can it be due to daily masturbation ? now when i get handjob from girls, i do not enjoy it so much and sometimes my penis starts getting soft. i can regain my erection but still. even the morning wood i get are not so strong now.

i feel my penis sensitivity got reduced due to which i feel less horny. i sometimes apply coconut oil while jelqing.

Can anyone please help me out ? how can i restore my penile sensitivity ?

am 18 years old now. if i stop masturbating ? or dont touch myself for sometime ? will it help ? and will fantacizing women help ?

please, your reply will be valuable. thanku <3

The abuse of porn and masturbation usually causes sexual exhaustion/desensitization. I would assume this would now be common knowledge. So if you have been masturbating daily for six months what the hell do you expect? Leave...your dick...alone! Spend some time going out to meet real young girls whom you can actually fuck instead of jerking off all the time till you have no juice left. Thats all.

Same problem here..gf comes over I cannot get hard...she leaves,I start thinking all tbings I could have done n boom hard erection. Lol.

No your situation is not the same. The OP is oversexed and is suffering the results of masturbation/porn abuse and I doubt has an available girlfriend with whom to have sex. You on the other hand seem to be suffering from sexual performance anxiety. Hard when there is no woman, limp when she arrives. Read up more on SPA.

[TheNewbie Member Find all posts View Profile Close TheNewbie]

Thank you for the info..side note my gf expects me to be erected just by laying on her and kissing her? Is it just me or everyone is the same..its hard to get an erection when your penis is dry?

[wolverine16 Member Find all posts View Profile Close wolverine16]

The abuse of porn and masturbation usually causes sexual exhaustion/desensitization. I would assume this would now be common knowledge. So if you have been masturbating daily for six months what the hell do you expect? Leave...your dick...alone! Spend some time going out to meet real young girls whom you can actually fuck instead of jerking off all the time till you have no juice left. Thats all.

I already know this bro, cant help it now
i've been going out to meet girls, and gets erection. but still any suggestion ?

if i dont touch my penis for long can i regain sensitivity ?

[Glamissand1 Senior Member Member of the Month March 2014 Find all posts View Profile Close Glamissand1]

It is hard for us to answer that due to lack of knowledge of damage done and your bodies ability to heal. So just try to masterbate one a week( because you still need to keep your cum flowing), and try to keep your hands off the glands as much as possible. Most guys I've read about recover fast when reducing masterbation. This builds up testosterone and gets you horny! Aka raging boners.

[needingalift Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close needingalift]

Can anyone please help me out ? how can i restore my penile sensitivity ?

I don't know if this info will be of any use but I lost my penile sensitivity overnight! I'm not saying that masturbation cannot reduce sensitivity over time (I'm sure it does) but there's another type of sudden loss that I can personally vouch for.

It's a strange tale but the woman with whom I was having sex was extremely wet - so much so that after a very short while I couldn't feel anything!!! She obviously could because she climaxed twice but after barely a minute I went completely limp due to there being no friction to stimulate me and I was unable to finish the task. To the best of my knowledge (because it happened some years ago) it was there and then that I lost much of the feeling in my penis and I haven't been able to recover it since. There's most probably a psychological component involved too but that's how my numbness began. Actually, I'd appreciate any thoughts on this because I'm still as confused now as I was then! Yes, I've heard of the penis becoming desensitised because of over-vigorous masturbation or a hard grip being used for a long period but this was in many ways the exact opposite!

Anyway, I once saw a sexual counsellor who recommended something called sensate focus but I never followed up on this since my wife was unwilling to comply. When I reported back to the SC he immediately concluded that my problems were due to my wife but I've since found that you can in fact do these exercises on your own. If you 'Google' the above term I'm sure you will find the technique described in detail and a programme to follow but I can't personally say if it works; I just know that this was once the method recommended for regaining penile sensitivity and (possibly?) curing ED.

I would have to say, wolverine16, that even allowing for your frequent masturbation you are very young to have lost all sensitivity due to this alone. I also suspect that the numbness is the result of your reduced libido rather than being the cause of it, as you state. It's only my opinion but I believe that if you can resolve your sex drive issue then the penile sensitivity will soon return. Abstaining from ejaculation is one way of doing this but it's only a short-term fix. Sure, it builds up the sexual desire but you will most probably find yourself in the same predicament again once you have 'come' unless you can sort out the underlying problem and get your sex drive back up to the sort of level that is normal for an 18-year-old.

[litopita Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close litopita]

Can anyone please help me out ? how can i restore my penile sensitivity ?

I don't know if this info will be of any use but I lost my penile sensitivity overnight! I'm not saying that masturbation cannot reduce sensitivity over time (I'm sure it does) but there's another type of sudden loss that I can personally vouch for.

It's a strange tale but the woman with whom I was having sex was extremely wet - so much so that after a very short while I couldn't feel anything!!! She obviously could because she climaxed twice but after barely a minute I went completely limp due to there being no friction to stimulate me and I was unable to finish the task. To the best of my knowledge (because it happened some years ago) it was there and then that I lost much of the feeling in my penis and I haven't been able to recover it since. There's most probably a psychological component involved too but that's how my numbness began. Actually, I'd appreciate any thoughts on this because I'm still as confused now as I was then! Yes, I've heard of the penis becoming desensitised because of over-vigorous masturbation or a hard grip being used for a long period but this was in many ways the exact opposite!

Anyway, I once saw a sexual counsellor who recommended something called sensate focus but I never followed up on this since my wife was unwilling to comply. When I reported back to the SC this he immediately concluded that my problems were due to my wife but I've since found that you can in fact do these exercises on your own. If you 'Google' the above term I'm sure you will find the technique described in detail and a programme to follow but I can't personally say if it works; I just know that this was once the method recommended for regaining penile sensitivity and (possibly?) curing ED.

I would have to say, wolverine16, that even allowing for your frequent masturbation you are very young to have lost all sensitivity due to this alone. I also suspect that the numbness is the result of your reduced libido rather than being the cause of it, as you state. It's only my opinion but I believe that if you can resolve your sex drive issue then the penile sensitivity will soon return. Abstaining from ejaculation is one way of doing this but it's only a short-term fix. Sure, it builds up the sexual desire but you will most probably find yourself in the same predicament again once you have 'come' unless you can sort out the underlying problem and get your sex drive back up to the sort of level that is normal for an 18-year-old.

Your profile has alot of speculation and guessing involved. A number of things dont add up and cant possible make logical/medical/biological sense. If the woman was extremely dry then it would be arguable but if its the other way round then there is no way a very wet pussy can make you lose sensitivity? How? Humans cant just "lose" sensitivity like that. Nerve endings are made up of very many sensory receptors that would have to take a gradual process to be desensitized. If you can go limp in a pussy because of feeling "nothing" then you either have a very big sensory problem or you are just anxious. The only other explanation is that you were already desensitized before having sex with that woman. Anything else and it turns into a Hollywood script. Women dont have some super liquid that can fry penis sensitivity. I think you are just assuming alot of things and you just have an SPA problem. But since I dont know much about your profile and what is really wrong I can also only speculate.

About sensate focus, the doc was right your wife is potentially a source of your problems if she doesnt want to co-operate. Sensate focus is one of the pillars we use in psychotherapy to get over these issues and its success rate is well calibrated. And no, you cant do it on your own. You can try but its not intended for solo/masturbation and is a couple thing. And thus its still your best shot at having a normal sex life. And as for resolving the sex drive, the issue is that they are linked. The low sex drive is as a result of hormonal exhaustion from over masturbation. So he cant just "wait" for the sex drive to "come back" first while sabotaging the process. Loss of sensitivity in his case comes also from over exposure in receptors from over working them. Thats why abstaining from what he has been doing solves all 3 problems at once. They are all interconnected, my friend.

But ultimately the moral of our story here is not to assume things without a medical basis/understating. These things happen for specific reasons that can be isolated. There are no grey areas. Just black and white.

[wolverine16 Member Find all posts View Profile Close wolverine16]

i just dont know what is going on right now.

am going to quit my bad habit of masturbation now.

i imagine, to which i can get erect and when i touch my penis i can stimulate it.

what i feel is that i have masturbated much and needs to cut off this habit. i feel anxious when i'm with a girl.

i just cant enjoy so much. if i dont masturbate much now, then will my libido/sexual desire increase ? (am 18 years old)

p.s, can coconut oil be used as a lubricant ? while masturbating ?

[needingalift Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close needingalift]

And as for resolving the sex drive, the issue is that they are linked. The low sex drive is as a result of hormonal exhaustion from over masturbation. So he cant just "wait" for the sex drive to "come back" first while sabotaging the process. Loss of sensitivity in his case comes also from over exposure in receptors from over working them. Thats why abstaining from what he has been doing solves all 3 problems at once. They are all interconnected, my friend.

I see. Yes, this does make sense although wolverine16 also referred to a previous ED episode (for which he'd been taking medications) so I thought there could be a greater underlying problem.

However, if it's just a question of abstaining from masturbation for a while in order to re-start the sex drive then great! And, since our cases are so similar, I'll definitely give this a try myself

If you can go limp in a pussy because of feeling "nothing" then you either have a very big sensory problem or you are just anxious. The only other explanation is that you were already desensitized before having sex with that woman. Anything else and it turns into a Hollywood script. Women dont have some super liquid that can fry penis sensitivity. I think you are just assuming alot of things and you just have an SPA problem. But since I dont know much about your profile and what is really wrong I can also only speculate.

Well, I'm sure you're right about me having some other issues such as SPA, litopita. All I know is that I was fine until this particular encounter and then the next morning I realised that my penis felt a bit 'different'. I subsequently discovered I'd caught thrush and balanitis but this was several days later and so may be irrelevant. I'm really just trying to mention any events that took place around the onset of my penile numbness and the only one that ties in as being a possible trigger is the incident with the wet pussy. The closest parallel I can think of here is to invite folks to imagine they're f*cking a bowl of custard and to predict how long their erections would last?! I'm sure that even the most virile of males would soon find it quite challenging to stay erect when there's little or no friction to provide those pleasurable sensations, and that was the situation I found myself in. Maybe this wouldn't in itself explain the numbness and loss of libido that are still ongoing to this day but it would be a huge coincidence if these problems (that I'd never experienced previously) arose at precisely the same moment whilst being unrelated so I'm having to assume some kind of causal link.

[wolverine16 Member Find all posts View Profile Close wolverine16]

Thank You So Much Litopita.

Now I Understand What You're Saying.

And Yes Bro, Am Able To Feel The Touch There And Can Get Erect With Physical Stimulation Too. Am Just Being Anxious And At The Same Time Over Stressing My Sexual System.

Anyways. Thanks For Your Valuable Time

And Hey needingalift,

Dont Worry Bro, We're Going To Get Out Of This Soon.

Just Say Thanks To All These Great People Here.

LOTS OF LOVE

[billywilliams Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close billywilliams]

I read your letter. Why did you wife not comply for your therapy. This obviously very important to you.

[billywilliams Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close billywilliams]

My comments was actually for member needingalift.

[needingalift Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close needingalift]

Well, BW, I'm afraid my wife isn't into sexual activity these days and I was informed after the birth of our son that sex is "only for procreation". For all practical purposes she is frigid, which perhaps explains how I came to meet the young lady I mentioned in my earlier post.

In fairness though, my penis was in such a bad state at that time with the balanitis etc.. that I doubt it would have been of much benefit to embark upon a sensate focus course anyway, although I was prepared to give it a try. I eventually had to get circumcised in order to cure this and, as everyone knows, circumcision reduces penile sensitivity in its own right so I accept that the feeling will never return to anywhere near its former level. Any erections I achieve nowadays are fantasy-induced ones rather than manually-induced but I can get them occasionally, which convinces me that my problem is essentially psychogenic and if I could regain my libido I'm hoping that this would circumvent the numbness issue.

The thing that still puzzles me though is the link between penile numbness and the loss of libido, which both came on swiftly and simultaneously and I'm not entirely sure which one (if either) caused the other. This is why I was particularly interested in what woverine16 had to say on the matter and why I suggested sensate focus, which I recalled being suggested to me. It would be great if this worked for his numbness and, by some mechanism that I don't fully understand, were to solve his libido problem at the same time

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P.S. Thanks for the best wishes, wolverine, and the same to you my friend!