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Low EQ, hard flaccd, pelvic floor, discoveries and solutions!
Hello all,
I have lurked on this site on and off and have bitten the bullet and become a member. I'm so new to the site that i haven't even made a single post yet; i wouldn't normally jump in at the deep end and start a thread but i discovered a lot of information regarding problems ive suffered with (still am), and wish to share my story and maybe start a thread where we can exchange ideas to help everyone.
This may be a tad long but hopefully coherant and helpful, i will mention; erection quality, hard flaccids, pelvic floor, varicoceles, proctalgia fugax, testicular tortion, prostatitis and how all of these could be linked, i will use my experiance to illustrate and share my opinions and findings and let you know what steps i'm taking to fix myself!
I will start with my first ever 'unusual' experiance 'downstairs' as it is very relevent. I was 14 years old and experiancing these horrible attacks of symptoms, shaking violently, nausea, fear, cramps, light headedness and a feeling 'downstairs' i described to the doctor as heavy or light. I was tested at the time for all sorts of things, i.e. epilepsy, etc, etc. Its now that i know i was experiancing panic attacks, and anxiety. And the light and heavy sensation was my pelvic floor, kegaling or reverse kegaling involuntarily. I eventually became so depressed and fed up of these constant attacks every night that had me virtually house bound that i considered suicide, and at that moment i realised i would honestly rather be dead than experiance those attacks anymore, i had no fear of death as it seemed the less painful option, and with my fear of death gone my fear of everything else went with it. No fear = No panic attacks/anxiety. My involuntary contractions vanished as well (relevently).
Years go by trouble free, then im 19, living with my girlfriend and her family. One night after a meal i had the most horrendous pain ive ever experianced, primarily in my testicles, and up my lower abs, and lower back, i also feel a general heavyness down there a bit like mega blueballs. I had a man chat with my gf's dad, he told me that it was a torsion of the testicle and he had experianced it once, but on the way to the hospital his had corrected itself. I assumed that had happened to me, the next day the pain had subsided and tenderness was present along with spasms in my pelvic area and some discomfort urinating, the search began to find out what had happened to me, the internet told me that i had prostatitis...i did some more research and i found out there were two types of prostatits....bacterial which is treated with antibiotics, and a type with slightly different symptoms that the doctors don't really understand....that is also treated with antibiotics (but never works). I discovered forums of guys like myself experiancing identical symptoms but no clue why or how to treat it. Luckily i stumbled on a website that suggest a radical new idea that this 'unkown' prostatitis was in fact a tightness of the pelvic floor. It said how when some men are anxious they hold their tension in their pelvic area, and it was called 'tail between the legs syndrome', it suddenly hit me that i must be experiancing that exact thing and thats why i had spasms and contractions with my panic attacks when i was younger! Things were starting to fall into place and hope was here again, i got my girlfriend to massage my lower back and i focussed on relaxing as much as possible...i had little knowledge of the pelvic floor at this time, and i was foccusing on extending my belly until it felt heavy (reverse kegal), these things worked to a degree and i felt like i was healing....my erection quality took a dive at this point in time and i stayed off sex for a while. Things were looking up.
Then i found a lump on my testicle! just above the right testicle, and it didn't seem to be attached to the testicle itself. I became anxious about what was going on and considered going to the doctors, with more anxiety came more spasms and i decided it must all be linked and i had no idea what was going on down there anymore. I did notice however that sometimes the lump was swollen and protruding and other times it would dissapear. i did more research and decided it was no more than a varicocele...apparently if it is not painful then doctors recomend you leave it alone. So i left it be and it gave me no problems. Interestingly i read this yesterday and it seemed to fit the bill. https://www.pegym.com/forums/penile-...aricocele.html
Well after that i was fine day to day, occasionally my varicocele would swell and be uncomfortable, occasionlly i would get pelvic floor spams of differing pain intensity (mainly at night), and occasionally it would be uncomfortable to pass urine (with spasms while i urinated). Two other symptoms i havent mentioned are that i have had hard flaccids my whole life: a hard flaccid is when the penis looks normal or slightly smaller, the skin is still normal but the tissue inside is hard, i often think my penis resembles a bullet with a foreskin! I thought these were normal so ignored them, and also with lengthy masturbation i would get spasms.
Some more research assured me i was experaincing proctalgia fugax Proctalgia fugax - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia
In summary it is a pain in the pelvic floor, often felt around the rectum but not in the rectum. I again found forums full of men and women experiancing this with no idea why, very similar to the 'unkown prostatitis'. Some suggestions to help the problem were no caffeine, lower frequency masturbation, and some stretches (on all fours pushing the buttucks out and back like a cat stretching....or a hooker eager for doggy....i digress) However that stretch proved to help anytime i felt a spasm might occur or did occur, the stretch stopped me getting any problems, and i still use it today.
Since lurking on this site and absorbing all people have said about the pelvic floor i am convinced that everything i've said is linked to the pelvic floor.
So i know that i do have a tight pelvic floor and im convinced my other symptoms/problems are a by product as well. I have now been looking for ways to re-balance the pelvic floor. I read an article on child birth the other day (dont ask), and the lady writing the article is an expert on the pelvic floor, she says that conventional doctors will evaluate your pelvic floor and diagnose that the muscles are weak and need strengthening (kegels etc) however her take on it is that the muscles are weak from being in a contracted state for too long and that really the muscles don't need strengthening but lengthening and stretching.
(Also with regards to the above talk of the muscles being weak from over contraction...this might be why i (and apparently others) push our hips forward and kegel in order to maintain our erections at a decent level, without which i would struggle to maintain a decent erection. But as you may know if you have shared the experiance, you can only kegel for so long due to the weakness of the muscles and our members wilt somewhat.
I have been focussing on staying relaxed and deep breathing (with reverse kegels) and this has been working like a charm, no spasms since ive been doing this, no discomfort urinating. The occasional hard flaccid and erection issues still present which suggests there is still tightness, or out of balance muscles.
Which after even more research i have found that posture can actually cause a tight contracted pelvic floor...specifically an anterior pelvic tilt...which i have (oh yay). Strangely my gf has just gone through physio and corrected her anterior pelvic tilt so i have stolen her physiotherapy exercises. So my aims to eradicate all issues are as follows:
Fix my anterior pelvic tilt, which will balance the hip angle and release tension on the hip flexors, quads, and various other pelvic floor/back muscles.
Providing this works i shall maintain my good posture, strengthen my core muscles and continue deep breathing/meditating and evaluate from there.
This is just my own story, experiances, opinions and decisions. I would always recomend seeing a doctor if you experiance anything like i have. If my story struck a chord and you have had similar experiances then please help me collate heaps of information and solutions that we can all hopefully learn from and fix our issues. Ask any relevent questions you wish, and good luck to all in your fight.
Sycoss
p.s. A side note regarding blueballs, blueballs has been proved to be related to blood flow and blood being congested in the balls and not released correctly. Could a tight pelvic floor also be affecting bloodflow? and thereby causing blueballs? Because damn i get blueballs soo regularly and that would make sence to me.
I have lurked on this site on and off and have bitten the bullet and become a member. I'm so new to the site that i haven't even made a single post yet; i wouldn't normally jump in at the deep end and start a thread but i discovered a lot of information regarding problems ive suffered with (still am), and wish to share my story and maybe start a thread where we can exchange ideas to help everyone.
This may be a tad long but hopefully coherant and helpful, i will mention; erection quality, hard flaccids, pelvic floor, varicoceles, proctalgia fugax, testicular tortion, prostatitis and how all of these could be linked, i will use my experiance to illustrate and share my opinions and findings and let you know what steps i'm taking to fix myself!
I will start with my first ever 'unusual' experiance 'downstairs' as it is very relevent. I was 14 years old and experiancing these horrible attacks of symptoms, shaking violently, nausea, fear, cramps, light headedness and a feeling 'downstairs' i described to the doctor as heavy or light. I was tested at the time for all sorts of things, i.e. epilepsy, etc, etc. Its now that i know i was experiancing panic attacks, and anxiety. And the light and heavy sensation was my pelvic floor, kegaling or reverse kegaling involuntarily. I eventually became so depressed and fed up of these constant attacks every night that had me virtually house bound that i considered suicide, and at that moment i realised i would honestly rather be dead than experiance those attacks anymore, i had no fear of death as it seemed the less painful option, and with my fear of death gone my fear of everything else went with it. No fear = No panic attacks/anxiety. My involuntary contractions vanished as well (relevently).
Years go by trouble free, then im 19, living with my girlfriend and her family. One night after a meal i had the most horrendous pain ive ever experianced, primarily in my testicles, and up my lower abs, and lower back, i also feel a general heavyness down there a bit like mega blueballs. I had a man chat with my gf's dad, he told me that it was a torsion of the testicle and he had experianced it once, but on the way to the hospital his had corrected itself. I assumed that had happened to me, the next day the pain had subsided and tenderness was present along with spasms in my pelvic area and some discomfort urinating, the search began to find out what had happened to me, the internet told me that i had prostatitis...i did some more research and i found out there were two types of prostatits....bacterial which is treated with antibiotics, and a type with slightly different symptoms that the doctors don't really understand....that is also treated with antibiotics (but never works). I discovered forums of guys like myself experiancing identical symptoms but no clue why or how to treat it. Luckily i stumbled on a website that suggest a radical new idea that this 'unkown' prostatitis was in fact a tightness of the pelvic floor. It said how when some men are anxious they hold their tension in their pelvic area, and it was called 'tail between the legs syndrome', it suddenly hit me that i must be experiancing that exact thing and thats why i had spasms and contractions with my panic attacks when i was younger! Things were starting to fall into place and hope was here again, i got my girlfriend to massage my lower back and i focussed on relaxing as much as possible...i had little knowledge of the pelvic floor at this time, and i was foccusing on extending my belly until it felt heavy (reverse kegal), these things worked to a degree and i felt like i was healing....my erection quality took a dive at this point in time and i stayed off sex for a while. Things were looking up.
Then i found a lump on my testicle! just above the right testicle, and it didn't seem to be attached to the testicle itself. I became anxious about what was going on and considered going to the doctors, with more anxiety came more spasms and i decided it must all be linked and i had no idea what was going on down there anymore. I did notice however that sometimes the lump was swollen and protruding and other times it would dissapear. i did more research and decided it was no more than a varicocele...apparently if it is not painful then doctors recomend you leave it alone. So i left it be and it gave me no problems. Interestingly i read this yesterday and it seemed to fit the bill. https://www.pegym.com/forums/penile-...aricocele.html
Well after that i was fine day to day, occasionally my varicocele would swell and be uncomfortable, occasionlly i would get pelvic floor spams of differing pain intensity (mainly at night), and occasionally it would be uncomfortable to pass urine (with spasms while i urinated). Two other symptoms i havent mentioned are that i have had hard flaccids my whole life: a hard flaccid is when the penis looks normal or slightly smaller, the skin is still normal but the tissue inside is hard, i often think my penis resembles a bullet with a foreskin! I thought these were normal so ignored them, and also with lengthy masturbation i would get spasms.
Some more research assured me i was experaincing proctalgia fugax Proctalgia fugax - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia
In summary it is a pain in the pelvic floor, often felt around the rectum but not in the rectum. I again found forums full of men and women experiancing this with no idea why, very similar to the 'unkown prostatitis'. Some suggestions to help the problem were no caffeine, lower frequency masturbation, and some stretches (on all fours pushing the buttucks out and back like a cat stretching....or a hooker eager for doggy....i digress) However that stretch proved to help anytime i felt a spasm might occur or did occur, the stretch stopped me getting any problems, and i still use it today.
Since lurking on this site and absorbing all people have said about the pelvic floor i am convinced that everything i've said is linked to the pelvic floor.
So i know that i do have a tight pelvic floor and im convinced my other symptoms/problems are a by product as well. I have now been looking for ways to re-balance the pelvic floor. I read an article on child birth the other day (dont ask), and the lady writing the article is an expert on the pelvic floor, she says that conventional doctors will evaluate your pelvic floor and diagnose that the muscles are weak and need strengthening (kegels etc) however her take on it is that the muscles are weak from being in a contracted state for too long and that really the muscles don't need strengthening but lengthening and stretching.
(Also with regards to the above talk of the muscles being weak from over contraction...this might be why i (and apparently others) push our hips forward and kegel in order to maintain our erections at a decent level, without which i would struggle to maintain a decent erection. But as you may know if you have shared the experiance, you can only kegel for so long due to the weakness of the muscles and our members wilt somewhat.
I have been focussing on staying relaxed and deep breathing (with reverse kegels) and this has been working like a charm, no spasms since ive been doing this, no discomfort urinating. The occasional hard flaccid and erection issues still present which suggests there is still tightness, or out of balance muscles.
Which after even more research i have found that posture can actually cause a tight contracted pelvic floor...specifically an anterior pelvic tilt...which i have (oh yay). Strangely my gf has just gone through physio and corrected her anterior pelvic tilt so i have stolen her physiotherapy exercises. So my aims to eradicate all issues are as follows:
Fix my anterior pelvic tilt, which will balance the hip angle and release tension on the hip flexors, quads, and various other pelvic floor/back muscles.
Providing this works i shall maintain my good posture, strengthen my core muscles and continue deep breathing/meditating and evaluate from there.
This is just my own story, experiances, opinions and decisions. I would always recomend seeing a doctor if you experiance anything like i have. If my story struck a chord and you have had similar experiances then please help me collate heaps of information and solutions that we can all hopefully learn from and fix our issues. Ask any relevent questions you wish, and good luck to all in your fight.
Sycoss
p.s. A side note regarding blueballs, blueballs has been proved to be related to blood flow and blood being congested in the balls and not released correctly. Could a tight pelvic floor also be affecting bloodflow? and thereby causing blueballs? Because damn i get blueballs soo regularly and that would make sence to me.
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