Any advice gratefully received

[Exactus Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Exactus]

Hi all

Completely new joiner here, looking for advice.

I have been suffering ED for about 6 months now. Initially, I noticed that I was getting fewer spontaneous erections during the day, then I started to need more and more stimulation to get hard prior to sex. I went and saw my doctor who thought it may be psychological (I had recently started an affair, please no moral judgements) but prescribed cialis to see if that helped. It did. It made a huge difference and for about 24 after taking it, I feel like I am in my 20s again and have no problem whatsoever in achieving or maintaining an erection.

However, the deterioration whilst I am not on cialis has continued. It has reached the stage where I now no longer even have nocturnal erections or morning ones and I simply can't remember the last spontaneous one I had during the day (a year ago I would have several per day and always wake up in the morning rock hard). The cialis continues to work well, but I am concerned that any ongoing degradation may get me to the stage that it stops working. I also hate feeling dependent upon medication and the thought of this continuing for the rest of my life is really depressing me. I spend much of the day brooding about this and am not the person I was.

I am 51, not overweight (I have lost about 20 lb in the last 18 months) and reasonably fit (I run 6 miles two or three times a week). My blood tests show I do not have diabetes and my cholestoral levels are normal. My blood pressure is also normal and I do not drink excessively nor do I smoke. My sex life has always been varied and adventurous, which is why I would be surprised if the issues were psychological (I wouldn't expect that to effect my nocturnal erections either). I can still get very hard by self manipulation and masturbation is good, but it takes much longer to achieve erection than it used to and if I stop masturbating, I soon go soft, whereas I used to stay hard for quite a while.

I read that pelvic floor exercises can help and so started doing kegels a couple of weeks ago. No noticeable effect yet, but I will continue. I must admit though that I am unsure how long to exercise for and would not like to overdo it.

Basically, I am really fed up with the whole thing. I worry hugely that it will get worse, that the cialis will stop working and that this is how it will be for the rest of my life. The worry can't help, I am sure, but that doesn't stop me from worrying.

Any advice you guys can offer on here would be gratefully recieved.

[Exactus Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Exactus]

Well, the post above didn't generate much response did it lol. I guess that you get a lot of "I am new here, please help" type messages, so I am not going to take it personally. Special thanks to the one person that did PM me though.

What I shall do I think is use this thread to share my approaches to my problem and see if that generates any more feedback and/or suggestions.

On the subject of kegels, over the past two weeks I have slowly built up my regime. I am currently performing a routine that consists of 20 x (10 second holds followed by 10 second rest) then 50 x (1 second holds followed by 1 seconds rest). I am doing this once or twice a day, about 4 or 5 days a week. Is that about right or should I do more or less ?

On the subject of supplements, I have read the 5G thread with interest. I started on Ginko Biloba and Green Tea on Friday. I have ordered the other 3 online and hopefully when they arrive, I will gradually introduce them as well, cycling all 5 on a 5 days on, 2 days off routine. Certainly no ill effects from the 2 supplements so far.

I had a full set of blood tests done last Dec for a routine check (I was much less worried about the ED at that point, so didn't mention it to the doc at the time) and everything was fine. I saw the doctor again a fortnight ago about the ED and he ordered another set of blood tests done (and prescribed cialis). I go back to the doctors tomorrow evening, but if there had been a major problem with the tests (I was fearing diabetes due to a family history of it), they would have phoned me, which they haven't, so I am feeling hopeful that there is nothing serious causing this medically.

Oh, and I do have some encouraging progress to report. I have no idea whether it is due to the kegels, the supplements or simply having a more positive frame of mind due to actually doing something about the problem, but late last week, my nocturnal erections returned. I have woken a number of times over the last few nights to find Mr Floppy is now Mr Woody and it is such an encouraging sign and welcome relief. In fact this morning, as I left my bed to head to the shower, I was sporting a low grade erection for the first time in months. It barely lasted a minute, but it is a sign I choose to regard as encouraging.

I don't feel anywhere near confident enough to ditch the cialis (which works brilliantly, I managed sex 5 times over an 8 hour period the week before last) with my lover yet, but a little more progress in this direction and I definitely will.

[TehDBare Senior Member Member of the Month Sept 2013 Find all posts View Profile Close TehDBare]

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Be careful with your kegel routines, too much can be just as bad as not enough, and it sounds like you may be overtraining. Read the above articles and consider starting this routine, it is a comprehensive and balanced approach.

Your initial reaction to ED medication is fairly typical, effectiveness is not consistent and you do build up a tolerance to it over time. I do recommend starting some of the PE exercise routines here, there's been countless cases documented in these forums of people overcoming ED through PE.

[Exactus Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Exactus]

Thanks TehDBare, thats exactly the sort of advice I was looking for. I'll tone down the kegels and start to follow the advice in the links. I would hate to make things worse, just as green shoots of improvement were showing.


I also concur with your advice about prescription ED drugs. The last thing I want is to find myself dependent upon cialis AND for it to lose effectiveness for me over time. I hope to get to the bottom of this soon. I am a fit, healthy guy in his early 50s, so wonder if any of it is psychological. Ah well, lets see if the conversation with the doc tomorrow evening sheds any light.

[camaro Senior Member Member of the month June 2013 Find all posts View Profile Close camaro]

1. Be consistent

2. Don't overdo it

3. When in doubt,ask

4. Use the search function