Lost ability to feel orgasm

[Jay1983 Senior MemberMember of the Month Apr 2014, Sept 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close Jay1983]

Porn has nothing to do with orgasm quality; the less orgasms one has, the better they feel... The more orgasms one has, the shittier they feel.

[draggin Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close draggin]

Porn has nothing to do with orgasm quality; the less orgasms one has, the better they feel... The more orgasms one has, the shittier they feel.

Jay, you are the PEgym superhero, but I do disagree with you. If I have more than one orgasm in a day, sure it each one is harder to achieve but each successive orgasm feels better and lasts longer than the one before. Maybe I'm just a freak, but that's how it works for me. Now with that said, I also find the less I jerk-off the better sex feels. So I no longer jerk off and it is rare that my wife and I have sex more than once a day so what I am talking about doesn't happen often.

[blackmesa Member Find all posts View Profile Close blackmesa]

@Shit happens: I agree with you, I am addicted to porn and masturbation. I am not sure to which extent this addiction impacts my lack of pleasure, but I would bet it plays a significant role. When the situation started to get severe in about June 2012, I stopped watching porn and masturbating. I got to the two week mark. I saw a significant increase in libido and better erections, and then in hopes of having "fixed" my issue I masturbated, but to my demise it had little to no impact to the orgasm. I am motivated to stop watching porn for some time, I've read some threads here with folks with great improvements overall after quitting porn. On the other hand I am thinking of keeping masturbation, but reducing it and controlling it with edging and ballooning as Jay1983 suggested. My psychologist thinks my brain switched the feeling of the orgasm from giving pleasure to relieving anxiety. As for the good thoughts, no use till now, I delayed facing this lack of pleasure as serious problem for some time because I thought it would go away by itself, but I am keeping an open mind. Thank you for your insight!

@Jay1983: Thank you very much for the tips Jay! This sounds like a good plan to put on practice right away. I must admit that on occasional edging like masturbations, although I had no pleasure, I somehow felt I was about to or close to. So, your idea for a whole week would be to not masturbate, do edging/ballooning sessions on a daily basis and ejaculate only on Saturdays? Do you think it is a good idea to also do regular PE workouts? Thank you!

@draggin: I agree, I didn't freak out earlier because I did not have an active sexual life and was undergoing a lot of stress among other more immediate aspects of my life I had to take care. But time passed by and this didn't get any better, so yeah, I am starting to freak out some. I will cut the porn out and I am also taking better care of my body, a healthy body is less prone to any dysfunctions. Since it's probably a mind thing, I am seeing a psychologist, it might help. Thank you for your support.

@Brooker, draggin, Jay1983, Da1th@matters: (Regarding doctor) I strongly believe my problem is psychological only. But I've read some literature about anorgasmia, numbers vary but about 10~30% of males with anorgasmia really have physiological problems, most of these drug related, which is not my case. But in any scenario, I think it is better to err on the side of caution, I might have a predisposition of some kind to develop this problem, or might have some hormonal dysfunctions that might be influencing at some degree, and it's always more data to work with. My psychologist also wants me to see one, so we can completely rule out physiological problems and focus on the psychological ones. And also, the doctor and exams are free to me. But by any means I think nothing will come out from the doctor, but better safe than sorry.

@4Samson: It's good to see that someone have a similar experience as I do, keeps me motivated so I know it's possible to go recover my pleasure. You're right in changing habits, in your case what did you change? Seeing porn, masturbating, both? What really happened to you? You had a masturbatory compulsion like I did? Was it about a girl too? Sorry for asking too many questions, but as you are someone who experienced the very same thing I am eager to know more about what happened and what you did! Thank you very much for your insight, it was really helpful and motivating!

@Da1th@matters: Did you also developed a similar condition? Stopping porn and masturbating less helped you overcome it? It seems like stopping porn and masturbating less is the way to go. Yeah, I am seeing a psychologist, and will also go to an urologist to do a checkup.


From what I heard from you guys, my modus operandi from now on will be:

• Stop watching porn.
• Masturbate less and do edging/ballooning sessions.
• See doctor to rule out physiological problems. Keep going to psychologist.
• Stay cool.

I am also thinking about going back in doing regular PE workouts, what do you guys think?
About the edging/ballooning I am thinking about doing it on a daily basis and only ejaculate one day per week, is this the right way to go?

I'd like to thank everyone for your support and helpful insights, it's really helpful and motivating!

Thank you guys!

Regards,

Blackmesa

[Jay1983 Senior MemberMember of the Month Apr 2014, Sept 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close Jay1983]

@Jay1983: Thank you very much for the tips Jay! This sounds like a good plan to put on practice right away. I must admit that on occasional edging like masturbations, although I had no pleasure, I somehow felt I was about to or close to. So, your idea for a whole week would be to not masturbate, do edging/ballooning sessions on a daily basis and ejaculate only on Saturdays? Do you think it is a good idea to also do regular PE workouts? Thank you!

Edge/Balloon every day, but only ejaculate every two or three days, whether or not it's on a PE day. Just don't ejaculate within 6 hours prior to PE or after PE.

Edge/Balloon tomorrow and Saturday, but don't ejaculate till Saturday night. Also, make sure you Edge/Balloon for at least a half hour before you get that "release". I'm interested in knowing the results, so post them here Saturday night!

[braynwilliam Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close braynwilliam]

Hello there,


I am a 22 year male, slightly overweight, average looks, virgin.
I have been married for 3 years.my wife and i have been trying to have a family for many years. My ejaculations were small and weak. I found “prolargentsize” miraculous capsule since using it, the volumes are so big and strong. My wife is now expecting. I will continue to use it from “


I am experiencing something that is shutting down my whole sexual life. I cannot feel any pleasure on ejaculation anymore, no orgasms, no pleasure. This condition might have the name of anorgasmia.


The curious thing is that I that I don't have ED, my erections are good, I have lots of libido, I ejaculate normally, during masturbation I feel some pleasure and after ejaculation I have that peace of mind feeling. Everything looks normal from the physiological point of view, except that when I get after the PONR and start ejaculating I don't feel anything. It doesn't matter for how long I was masturbating, if it is with porn or not, if it is after days of not masturbating, I cannot feel an orgasm anymore.


So, now I will give some background of what might have happened. I watch porn regularly since I was 12 and got hardcore over time. In 2011 I met my first girlfriend. She would call her self nymphomaniac and talk about sex with me daily, but somehow, she stalled me during this whole time and we did not had sex. She had a really problematic personalty. Anyway, on December 2011 she broke up with me. Like most first loves a man has, she broke me apart and I missed her like hell and felt deeply depressed. And one thing that I've found out that could keep her out of my mind was masturbating.


I started masturbating about 6~8 times a day, with no purpose of feeling pleasure whatsoever, just to get it done and feel the anxiolytic properties masturbation gives you. I remember occasions I would ejaculate after ten seconds without even getting hard, it was a weird shit. I kept doing this for about a couple weeks. Then I started to feel better and moved on without her. But after this I started feeling less and less pleasure, and on about late 2012 I've totally lost any feeling of pleasure upon ejaculation.


My hypothesis are:

• This experience made my brain start to interpret the orgasm as a way to relieve anxiety instead of giving pleasure
• As I went more and more hardcore seeking pleasure I've become more addict to porn and thus developed a compulsion in masturbation even without pleasure and this got me into a negative feedback loop where I would get less and less pleasure

What I think might help:

• Stop looking at porn to detoxify from porn addiction
• Don't masturbate or masturbate less to "reset" how the mind perceives pleasure
• Go back in doing PE exercises (I started doing a year ago https://www.pegym.com/forums/progres...gress-log.html)
• Seek psychological help

I started seeing a therapist for other problems among this one, thought it might help to overcome this.
Although this is probably just on my head, I will go to a urologist to just to make sure I don't have a physiological problem.

I am getting pretty desperate with this and I am feeling terrible of not feeling one of the greatest things a man can feel.

What are you guys thoughts on this? What do you think this might be and how to overcome it?

I'd like to thank you in advance, your answers will be really appreciated!

Thank you very much for reading so far and helping me out!

Regards,

Blackmesa

TL;DR: Got depressed after first GF broke up with me. Masturbated compulsively 6~8 times a day for two weeks to get her out of my head. After this started feeling less and less pleasure. Started watching even hardcore porn to overcome it. After half an year couldn't feel pleasure from ejaculation anymore.

I have similar problem before. I have been married for 3 years.my wife and i have been trying to have a family for many years. My ejaculations were small and weak. I found prolargentsize herbal capsule since using it, the volumes are so big and strong. my sexual life it is normal again . Actually better than normal I can suggest to you that you can search on the google.

[camaro Senior Member Member of the month June 2013 Find all posts View Profile Close camaro]

55% income tax damn...

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@Jay1983: Thanks for the additional tips Jay! I put on practice what you recommended and this is what happened:

I started edging on Friday, about 30 minutes. Laid on bad, on the dark, and focused on the feelings. Felt great urges to cum and hard erections. Tried ballooning, but even after reading pages of the 101 thread, I didn't manage to find/understand that magical spot thing. I just lost erections on the pursue of such spot, but I will research more later. Today I did another session of edging, and had a very enjoyable masturbation. There was a point I almost got to PONR but manage to hold, but I ejaculated some precum, that never happened before. I also noticed I do some involuntary kegels, especially near PONR.

When I ejaculated this time, I felt something different. It's not like the pleasure of orgasms I felt before, but it is like the pleasure was about to surface, like it was building and got closer of really happening. Also my heart rate was really high and after ejaculation my body got extremely hot, I've never felt this before. I didn't feel pleasure yet, but I think I am moving towards it, and these sessions looks very promising! I will keep following these routines and will update this thread to report the progress. Thanks Jay!

@braynwilliam: Nice to hear you find a way to improve your sexual life Brayn! I am keeping an eye open for any kind of food or supplements that can improve sexual life, but as for now I will focus on the psychological part of it. Thanks for the tip!

@camaro: I am not familiar with Canadian tax system, some countries practice lower income rate taxes, but on the other hand they embed a lot of taxes on products and services, which might end up being the same thing.

[Jay1983 Senior MemberMember of the Month Apr 2014, Sept 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close Jay1983]

Awesome!

To keep your involuntary kegel spasms under control get into reverse kegels!!! A Balanced Pelvic Floor is key!

Also being in tune with/learning your Arousal Levels greatly helps control PONR and your orgasm intensity; https://www.pegym.com/forums/prematu...echniques.html

[blackmesa Member Find all posts View Profile Close blackmesa]

@Jay1983: Thank you Jay! I will check out some reverse kegel routines! I agree, the arousal plays great part on it, I will start following those arousal techniques from now on! My second edging session was also very good and I notice improvements, but no orgasm yet.

But I will keep updating regularly!

Blackmesa

[FOR3SK1N Member Find all posts View Profile Close FOR3SK1N]

check up on foreskin restoration its design for guys who are completely numb or don't have any feelings in there penis.

[blackmesa Member Find all posts View Profile Close blackmesa]

@FOR3SK1N: I am not circumcised, so this is not an issue to me.

[Jay1983 Senior MemberMember of the Month Apr 2014, Sept 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close Jay1983]

Hey brother how goes it!? Any better??

[blackmesa Member Find all posts View Profile Close blackmesa]

@Jay1983: Hey Jay, sorry for the delay, I was on a trip on the past week, couldn't keep a good routine, but I will get back on track. These last days that I've edged I've failed to hold the ejaculation on some of them and got past PONR. I am still feeling better than usual, but I still haven't got any pleasure from ejaculation. I won't give up in anyway, I will get back doing PE exercises tomorrow and will stabilize the edging sessions. I am also experiencing an almost constant involuntary kegel. I will add a kegel routine with reverse kegels when I start PE exercises tomorrow.

Thank you very much Jay for your support! It's greatly appreciated!

Regards,

Blackmesa

[Xyt Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Xyt]

Similar thing happened to me at age 22. It was very abrupt. One day I ejaculated and felt no pleasure. I was terrified. The pleasure sensation to this day has still not returned.. it has been eight years. I also suffer from post-finasteride syndrome though so that could be part of the issue. My overall health, especially mental outlook, severely declined from that point forward. My entire perspective on life change, was pretty crazy. I've basically been a zombie for years now. I've tested myself multiple times to see how long I could go without masturbating since the incentive is gone and i really don't get horny knowing that there's no release or pleasurable payoff. I went all of 2013 without getting off and could've gone indefinitely. I've never mentioned this issue to a urologist but am going to this coming week. I always just assumed it was an untreatable issue plus it was too embarrassing for me to talk about so i've just silently dealt with it. Maybe he'll have some miracle solution, fingers crossed.

[blackmesa Member Find all posts View Profile Close blackmesa]

It has been 6 years since I created this thread, but I have some updates.

After scouring the internet in search for people with my condition, I found a couple examples of folks who solved it with pelvic floor physiotherapy. They had extreme tense pelvic floor muscles, and after relaxing them with physiotherapy their orgasms returned.

I then took a look at other symptoms that didn't occur at me at first. It takes me a while to urinate, sometimes tens of seconds before the flow starts. Sometimes when I get erect, I few a strong pain around my perineum and ejaculate a little of seminal fluid. I feel a lot of involuntary kegels when masturbating or having sex, which sometimes lead to PE. Whenever I felt conscious of the tightening, I would try to relax my pelvic muscles, and I could notice they were very contracted.

I went to see a physiotherapist. She said she never saw a man with my condition, but would treat me for regular pelvic floor tension. And ohh boy, on first session, she said my muscles were tight as hell, and any place she would make pressure, would hurt a lot (she said, these pressures wouldn't hurt people with healthy pelvic floor muscles). She also found some places of muscle contracture on my legs and gluteal muscles, which she said could contribute for pelvic floor tension.

I started the sessions, and I am still on the second week, didn't see improvements on orgasms yet, but I am excited I may have found the underlying cause. I am also checking many threads about pelvic floor exercises on the forum, where mainly reverse kegels are recommended for pelvic floor tension, and I will add those to my PE routine.

I will post an update when I have more news.

Thanks!

Blackmesa