Why?

[9TeXaS0BaD3BoY Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close 9TeXaS0BaD3BoY]

Why is it that I could go months having great erections, measuring over 7" and thick, single getting no play, watching porn and JO or edging damn near everyday. Now I have a girl, and even before we hooked up my erections were weak but I was still able to have sex with her now, a number of times, only three times now I have went limp during or before. She keeps saying its ok, but it bothers me more I think and that makes her mad when I worry about it. How can't I, I should not be having these problems. I am kinda young, I stay in great shape, eating and exercising regularly. She is so sexy and drives me insane , beautiful, smart and a wonderful mother. I should be able to get hard and stay hard, to my max, not this hard erection I get now, only like 5.5" WTF IS THAT SHIT??? I'm taking supplements but they don't seem to work. The only feeling I really have down there is when I have to piss are cum, other than that its more numb and lifeless when flaccid. I can't afford a doctor or I wouldn't be here complaining to yall, I'd be telling you I'm freakin cured.


Also... I know a relationship is more than sex, but we are both very sexual, her maybe more than me IDK but it does make or break relationships sooner or later and if I can't figure out my problem, she might not be around long and I would hate myself for losing someone because I cant get hard and make love to her....

Tired of worrying about this shit, I just want to be normal and have an above normal sex life with the woman I am madly in love with....

[CUSP82 Administrator Admin of the Month Dec 2014PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close CUSP82]

Maybe you're just a bit worried about keeping up with her. Guys have been known to worry about stupid stuff.

[Stefzor Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Stefzor]

Hey there,

Recently joined this site because of the exact problem you're describing. Causes probably differ but the bottom line is I can't/couldn't be with the girl I love the way we want to when we want to.

I did give the erection tea posted on this forum a shot though and haven't had problems the past 3 nights. Worth nothing that I only started drinking it 3 days ago, too. I still don't have the same feeling when flaccid or random erections throughout the day but didn't let me down when most needed! I also started taking garlic, vitaseng and gingko pills along with my daily Centrum.

Hoping to see even more improvements as some time goes by. Good luck.

[9TeXaS0BaD3BoY Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close 9TeXaS0BaD3BoY]

Maybe you're just a bit worried about keeping up with her. Guys have been known to worry about stupid stuff.

true, but I'm more worried about keeping it up with her rather than keeping up with her. I'm sure me worried about that is playing a role, but I have been dealing with this before her. Since 2010 I have been with 5 females and each one I couldn't fuck. Couldn't get or stay hard. This girl is the first that I have been with that I have actually had sex with(5-6) times now and three times I failed, but we let it go and went on about our days. I don't know what else to do about it besides seeing a damn DR, but thats just 500$ I do not have...

[CUSP82 Administrator Admin of the Month Dec 2014PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close CUSP82]

Your brain is in a bad place and it's just setting you up for failure. I would keep screwing her as often as you can and you'll work your way out of it. It's kind of like a baseball player in a slump; he still has to get up to the plate and keep swinging until he breaks the slump.

[9TeXaS0BaD3BoY Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close 9TeXaS0BaD3BoY]

Your brain is in a bad place and it's just setting you up for failure. I would keep screwing her as often as you can and you'll work your way out of it. It's kind of like a baseball player in a slump; he still has to get up to the plate and keep swinging until he breaks the slump.

It is, and with all the stress of bills, little money and erection problems... My mind never stops thinking or worrying about shit. My dr. not a medical dr says my autonomic nervous system needs repaired and he has given me supplements like Ginkgo forte, Symplex M and Cataplex b12, but nothing is changing... I'm scared that my dick is shrinking and I'll never get it back or have those rock hard erections, or my size back... That is killing me and causing all my problems, I know it....

[hangtime80 Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close hangtime80]

Hey man,
IMO it's in your head. I had a similar experience when I first met my wife and we're just clock up 12 years on Sunday so you can get through it. My issue was, I could get hard but when we tried it just went soft. That was so frustrating and embarrassing. To get past it, we took things slow and I didn't try to impress her, just try to get her off and slowly the confidence came back with the rock hard errections, happy girl now. So, for me it was in my head which was caused by a previous situation with a couple of girls and too much alcohol and stuff... just wouldn't work. That's what happened to me.
Also, I think you should cut out that porn completely. It's not healthy mentally for your dick, and lay off on the masty as this will probably also help out. One more, make sure you are doing you kegels without flexing your abs etc... Finishing up, RELAX when you're with her and take your time, make it about pleasing her without your dick and he'll want to come join the party fo sure!!

[hangtime80 Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close hangtime80]

Just my 2c btw

[9TeXaS0BaD3BoY Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close 9TeXaS0BaD3BoY]

Hey man,
IMO it's in your head. I had a similar experience when I first met my wife and we're just clock up 12 years on Sunday so you can get through it. My issue was, I could get hard but when we tried it just went soft. That was so frustrating and embarrassing. To get past it, we took things slow and I didn't try to impress her, just try to get her off and slowly the confidence came back with the rock hard errections, happy girl now. So, for me it was in my head which was caused by a previous situation with a couple of girls and too much alcohol and stuff... just wouldn't work. That's what happened to me.
Also, I think you should cut out that porn completely. It's not healthy mentally for your dick, and lay off on the masty as this will probably also help out. One more, make sure you are doing you kegels without flexing your abs etc... Finishing up, RELAX when you're with her and take your time, make it about pleasing her without your dick and he'll want to come join the party fo sure!!

I don't watch porn and I havent JO in a l ong time, like last month before we got together, was just stating when I did, I didn't have any of these problems and my dick was bigger and longer. I still wont watch it even though I know I can get and stay erect cause I know I should be able to get and stay that hard with her, but I can't always do that... But I dont think that a problem in my head can make my dick shrink....

[Looking4more Retired Moderator Member of the Month Feb 2013PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Looking4more]

It sounds like it's mostly if not all mental. Do you have good morning wood? Can you get a good erection when not around her?
In order to relax a little, try taking Kava Kava. It will help you relax without making you foggy. You can get it wherever supplements are sold.
Sounds like you are just too stressed out. I would do like Hangtime said and just take things slow and don't try so hard to impress her. Show her that you care for her and want to please her by doing other things to her when you can't get erect. Hangtime is right. I went through it myself. Stressing yourself only makes it worse. Just do your best to relax and it will all work out.

[9TeXaS0BaD3BoY Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close 9TeXaS0BaD3BoY]

It sounds like it's mostly if not all mental. Do you have good morning wood? Can you get a good erection when not around her?
In order to relax a little, try taking Kava Kava. It will help you relax without making you foggy. You can get it wherever supplements are sold.
Sounds like you are just too stressed out. I would do like Hangtime said and just take things slow and don't try so hard to impress her. Show her that you care for her and want to please her by doing other things to her when you can't get erect. Hangtime is right. I went through it myself. Stressing yourself only makes it worse. Just do your best to relax and it will all work out.

I am stressed with bills and lack of money, morning wood... RARELY! My erections now are pretty much what my flaccid used to be. I'm not so much trying to impress her, but more just want to be a good, if not great lover for her and not fail, and maybe that adds more stress and I don't realize it. She knows I care for her, and I show it daily. I can't buy her things all the time and she knows that and is cool with that, but I always show her how much she means to me. From full body massages to just taking a ride and chillin with her, laughing and having fun letting her know that she is loved and cared for.

AND... I always make sure she gets hers, even if I cant get mine. I consider myself a foreplay god, so I know shes in heaven every time regardless if I cant make love to her sometimes... also, I just started some deeper breathing techniques, and I feel a really nice relaxing tingle from my anus to my dick.... Maybe that has a lot to do with why my erections are so short and hard?

[Looking4more Retired Moderator Member of the Month Feb 2013PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Looking4more]

If you aren't getting morning wood, then you have more than just stress. Is it possible that you are overtraining in your PE?
Of course you should still try and relieve some of the stress but if you don't feel that overtraining is the problem, I would recommend getting in touch with Minuteman. He has a lot more knowledge about ED than I do.
You already have a lot going for you with a girl so loving and understanding. Just giving her the attention that you do is far better than buying her things so don't stress over that. Sounds like a keeper to me. Just don't stress yourself on being the greatest lover. You already are. Being a good lover is more than performing in bed. She obviously already knows you will do anything for her and I'm sure she really loves that. Just relax, enjoy her, and keep doing the things that you're doing. I'm sure you will be able to remedy your situation soon.

[9TeXaS0BaD3BoY Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close 9TeXaS0BaD3BoY]

If you aren't getting morning wood, then you have more than just stress. Is it possible that you are overtraining in your PE?
Of course you should still try and relieve some of the stress but if you don't feel that overtraining is the problem, I would recommend getting in touch with Minuteman. He has a lot more knowledge about ED than I do.
You already have a lot going for you with a girl so loving and understanding. Just giving her the attention that you do is far better than buying her things so don't stress over that. Sounds like a keeper to me. Just don't stress yourself on being the greatest lover. You already are. Being a good lover is more than performing in bed. She obviously already knows you will do anything for her and I'm sure she really loves that. Just relax, enjoy her, and keep doing the things that you're doing. I'm sure you will be able to remedy your situation soon.

I havent done any pe since the first week I joined... Mostly because I started to have really great erections and I felt I didn't need it anymore because I'm not here for added size as much as I was for better EQ and learning ways to control my ejaculation. Yes, I know a lot of it comes from the JP90, but like I said, I didn't need it and stopped. I do think I need it now, and have for sometime but just havent.

We had sex last night, and it was great! We were laying on the couch watching tv, one thing lead to another and my hands were all over her. I started to play with her clit, rubbing my hands across her pelvic area. I was only concentrating on her and making her cum. It was about ten minutes of that, I never used my tongue and she came so hard... She said shes never been able to do that herself and was in shock that I could. My dick was hard, and even though it still aint all there, I went in and we fucked hard and deep, but I started going soft quickly into it and came within under ten minutes, but it was a very sexy ten minutes and I only came so fast because I was about to go limp.

Anyway, I did wake up with some kind of MW, and I was so horny. We didn't have morning sex, but she is cramping bad so I put on the breaks Thanks for the support BRO and I will keep on doing me, cause I know she appreciates me and I do her as well...

[Jm123 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Jm123]

Just a thought, but how is your pelvic floor balance?

Next even if you do not PE, you should kegel. Just make sure it is balanced with reverse kegels; otherwise you can end up with problems just like you are describing.

[9TeXaS0BaD3BoY Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close 9TeXaS0BaD3BoY]

I have tried to understand the pelvic floor. I do kegels, but theyre mostly short one second type kegels, I can hold them long, sometimes I can't. Not sure if I'm doing te RK right, but what I do is concentrate on pushing out through my dick, trying not to use my lower abs as much. But I dont know if thats right or not. I do know that I have done many normal kegels throughout the years. I started doing them when I was younger, when I found out I could make my dick dance lol..

I'm almost sure its a pelvic floor problem, something is causing me to shrink down there or holding it in tight... I haven't had my normal size erections with her, or even before and I have told her that I am bigger than this, but she is happy with me cause I make her happy.. Still, I wanna giver her my all...