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So im 18 my girlfriend is 17 we recently talked about sex and we have had it once so far but it only lasted a minute because I came really fast since it felt so good. I have trouble getting a boner and keeping it at times. When I am pleasing her I cannot get a boner when I am eating her out or what not unless i am rubbing my penis on something but when she pleases me I can get a boner. Once I have a boner and I get on top of her to insert into her vagina it starts to go soft if I don't do it quickly. Why is it so hard to maintain a boner until I start to have sex with her. It is really frustrating and puts her down sometimes because she thinks I am not attracted anymore even though that is not the case. I have heard a cock ring will help if I get a boner and then put the ring on or something, can someone please help me??? Me and my girlfriend really want to have sex but this prevents it unless I am lucky enough to get it in right away. Please help!
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A kegel /reverse kegel routine may help erection hardness but a medical check is advised .
We have a premature ejaculation forum to help with the stamina issue. I suggest you start with the stickys here is an example.
https://www.pegym.com/forums/prematu...treatment.html
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I'm curious, have you tried Ejaculation delay spray? My friend is bragging that it works.Comment
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I'm 18 and the EXACT same thing happened to me, so hopefully I can help you out. Here's what I did to improve the situation.
1. To answer your question, yes, cock rings are a great help. I own a few of them myself. I'll attach my recommendations at the bottom. When I used one, it usually kept me hard enough to actually penetrate (the added girth is nice, too). Like you, I would lose my erection just before actually inserting myself. Just be careful to not leave them on too long.
2. Exercise, exercise, exercise. You have a problem with blood flowing to your penis during sex and exercise will definitely get your blood oxygenated and flowing. Try to stay active as much as possible.
3. This is going to sound hard, but don't think about it. If you think about losing your boner, you probably will. Envision yourself succeeding.
4. Change your diet. I cut out all sodas and junk and I had an easier time maintaining my erection.
5. Foreplay. Make yourself horny. A lot of people don't realize this, but if you aren't aroused, you're probably gonna lose your erection regardless. Don't rush. Make sure she gets her orgasm first (if she can achieve it through oral). You'll feel a lot less pressure about performing.
6. If all else fails, definitely see a doctor. Also, if you can afford to spend about $10-15, definitely pick up some L-Arginine. You can find it pretty much everywhere. It increases bloodflow and I've heard it can help inhibit PDE5 (aka the hormone that tells your dick to not get hard).
Good luck man. Definitely post back and let us know how things go.
My recommendations for cock rings: Amazon.com: Doc Johnson Tower of Power 6 Cock Rings: Doc Johnson: Health & Personal Care
http://www.amazon.com/Doc-Johnson-Sp...rds=cock+strapComment
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