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karma!
New member here...finding pegym has been such a godsend for me. I never knew this existed, never thought I would need to know. Honestly, I used to scoff at the idea of ED and I would make fun of those Cialis commercials. My wife even joked with me on a few occasions, saying I might need that one day.
Karma has come FULL circle.
So over the past month I have been having symptoms of ED. This morning it was really bad because I got very upset at myself for failing again. I was aroused and ready to go. We started to have sex, and while I was worried I wouldn't be able to perform, it did go well for a few minutes, then we changed positions, and I almost immediately went flaccid. At that point I was almost in a panic and started feeling so bad about it, I even started crying. This of course made both of us feel so much worse than if we never tried it in the first place.
This is ruining my life and causing me to feel like I am NOT a man, I am losing my confidence, and I am becoming quite distressed about it. I fear it will end my marriage or cause my wife to look elsewhere for sex. I would say it started with some minor performance anxiety and occasionally not being able to achieve orgasm, and then one day I was literally so afraid and nervous that I was simply unable to get it up. Sometimes I am able to get it up but not maintain it, only to be extremely humiliated and frustrated. I thought I could overcome the problem myself or that it was only temporary.
Yup, looks like I have some kind of ED. Or "coitophobia", or whatever. I have lost some libido over the past year, but I didn't think that would actually affect my ability to perform to such a degree. Our relationship has also been quite tense over the past year, and we've had lots of fights and emotional breakdowns for various reasons. We are currently in couples counseling.
My wife and I always had great sex and a lot of it. I have had problems with addiction to pornography for most of my life, and I finally feel like I am over that (took years of therapy). The problem with quitting the porn is that I don't often have the stimulating images in my head like I used to, and the porn would keep my sex drive up. I also have an anxiety disorder, but I'm not sure if this has anything to do with it, since it never did before. I don't feel myself having symptoms of anxiety or panic before or during sex, just nervousness and worry about being able to perform.
Anyway, that's my story. Thanks for allowing me to share.
Karma has come FULL circle.
So over the past month I have been having symptoms of ED. This morning it was really bad because I got very upset at myself for failing again. I was aroused and ready to go. We started to have sex, and while I was worried I wouldn't be able to perform, it did go well for a few minutes, then we changed positions, and I almost immediately went flaccid. At that point I was almost in a panic and started feeling so bad about it, I even started crying. This of course made both of us feel so much worse than if we never tried it in the first place.
This is ruining my life and causing me to feel like I am NOT a man, I am losing my confidence, and I am becoming quite distressed about it. I fear it will end my marriage or cause my wife to look elsewhere for sex. I would say it started with some minor performance anxiety and occasionally not being able to achieve orgasm, and then one day I was literally so afraid and nervous that I was simply unable to get it up. Sometimes I am able to get it up but not maintain it, only to be extremely humiliated and frustrated. I thought I could overcome the problem myself or that it was only temporary.
Yup, looks like I have some kind of ED. Or "coitophobia", or whatever. I have lost some libido over the past year, but I didn't think that would actually affect my ability to perform to such a degree. Our relationship has also been quite tense over the past year, and we've had lots of fights and emotional breakdowns for various reasons. We are currently in couples counseling.
My wife and I always had great sex and a lot of it. I have had problems with addiction to pornography for most of my life, and I finally feel like I am over that (took years of therapy). The problem with quitting the porn is that I don't often have the stimulating images in my head like I used to, and the porn would keep my sex drive up. I also have an anxiety disorder, but I'm not sure if this has anything to do with it, since it never did before. I don't feel myself having symptoms of anxiety or panic before or during sex, just nervousness and worry about being able to perform.
Anyway, that's my story. Thanks for allowing me to share.
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