18 years old and I am having problems. Please help!

[Golf1094 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Golf1094]

Hello, as you can see by the title I am an 18 year old with some problems and I am looking for some help.

I believe I am suffering from a case of porn-induced erectile dysfunction but I am not quite sure. I originally came to this site to increase the size of my dick, but as of right now I am putting a hold to my PE routine to tackle a much more important problem.

I discovered masturbation when I was around the age of 11 or 12 and later on used porn with masturbation around the age of 13 until now. Before I had concerns as to this ED problem, I believed I had what some people referred to as "Death grip syndrome". Later on in life after finding my own access to porn I would masturbate multiple times a day but would make the sessions in smaller amounts. I would masturbate fast with a tighter grip to make myself orgasm quicker. This leads me to believe that I desensitized myself.

My first sexual experience was practically two months ago and I had no problem to get my dick up, but I just couldn't reach orgasm. That night all I participated in was oral sex and I couldn't feel much pleasure from it at all being on the receiving end. It kind of confirmed the fact that I desensitized myself of this "death grip" thing.

When I would use porn I can find it easy to get hard in less than a minute and be able to orgasm in a short amount of time, but when it is with a partner I couldn't no matter how hard I tried. I knew at the time that getting tense about the situation was not going to do any good so I calmed myself down but still at a relaxed state I couldn't reach orgasm when I had my first sexual experience.

When I arrived here I decided to pick up the JP90 routine and go from there but my ED followed like a shadow into my jelqing sessions. I would have a tough time keeping my cock at a high enough erect state for the jelqs and it got to the point where I had to use porn at times to increase my erection level when it would start to decrease. I decided about two weeks ago to continue my JP90 routine while quitting porn, masturbation and anything sexual. After 8 days I relapsed on masturbation and then soon followed a relapse on porn.

Another situation is that I believe that my pelvic floor muscles are out of whack because I have had in the past have my pelvic floor muscles spasm without my control for a very short period. It scared me quite a bit as to why that would happen. In response to this I started doing a few sets of kegels and reverse kegels to balance my pelvic floor out. I am not sure whether this will work or not, it couldn't hurt, can it?

One last thing, I haven't had spontaneous erections at all during the day in months. I can't even remember the last time I had one. As for morning erections I would get them here and there but not rock hard erections like I used to.

What I need is some guidance on what would be best to do to make my penis healthy and functional. I know that quitting porn cold turkey is definitely advised from what I have seen so I am going to quit porn again starting now but I am drawing a blank as to what else I should do.

So I am here asking you guys to help another member out with this problem that has been bothering me for the past few weeks. Please help me out! And to the people who took the time to read my lengthy, somewhat unorganized mess of a thread post I am thankful for your time and support.

[Phallosan Official Phallosan Representative Find all posts View Profile Close Phallosan]

Dear Golf,

first of all, don’t do any Jelqing and don’t use any other machines or methods for the moment! It sounds like you have a inflammation! This is nothing to worry about too much. But i have to ask; did you hurt yourself in the past at your testicals?
If it is not going to be better in one week i would really suggest you go to see a doctor!!! It is really rare and i dont want to scare you but it could be your prostate as well. Do you have pain or negative pushing feeling when going to the toilet?


I once had the same like you when i was your age (sadly many many years ago ),the reason was a exGirlfriend which gave me no point any longer to have an erection. So it can be just something, which is in your head at the moment.

Hope you get better!

All the best
Julian

[mrimalive1 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close mrimalive1]

You need to go cold turkey on the porn and quit choking the chicken for awhile.Awhile being more then a month or permanently.You can have sex tho.

[Golf1094 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Golf1094]

Dear Golf,

first of all, don’t do any Jelqing and don’t use any other machines or methods for the moment! It sounds like you have a inflammation! This is nothing to worry about too much. But i have to ask; did you hurt yourself in the past at your testicals?
If it is not going to be better in one week i would really suggest you go to see a doctor!!! It is really rare and i dont want to scare you but it could be your prostate as well. Do you have pain or negative pushing feeling when going to the toilet?


I once had the same like you when i was your age (sadly many many years ago ),the reason was a exGirlfriend which gave me no point any longer to have an erection. So it can be just something, which is in your head at the moment.

Hope you get better!

All the best
Julian

From what I can tell, I don't see any signs of inflammation in that general area. I don't recall ever hurting myself in the testicular area unless having a history of being kicked in the balls count. HAHA! As for going to the toilet, I don't feel pain at all when either pissing or defecating.

Thanks for posting, Julian. But inflammation is definitely not what I think I am suffering from. I am going to have to dig deep into the threads of Pegym and get some more info from others on what must I do to get my penis healthy once again.

[draggin Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close draggin]

Shit dude, at your age I used to get hard just sitting in math class. You have a serious problem and it will get worse with time. Sadly, it takes the average 18 year old nearly 6 months of no porn to restore function to his penis. If you can abstain from porn for that period of time, not only will your pecker work like magic, but you will be happier, more productive, and more attractive to girls. Sounds crazy, but it's true. You can PM me anytime if you need help. I had to quit porn after 10 years of addiction. If I can do it, so can you buddy. Good luck.

[Golf1094 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Golf1094]

Thanks, mrimalive1. I definitely will be keeping hands off my pecker for awhile.

Also thank you draggin for posting. I am going to definitely stop looking at porn and take a break from masturbation. Seeing that you've been porn-free for over a decade it definitely motivates me to do the same.

I figure that a healthy penis is a happy penis and that having a longer one would be nice but a completely functional one is a whole lot better than one that isn't functioning properly. I am going to try my best to go a hands off dedication from masturbation for about a month or more and quit porn cold turkey. I am positive I can go months without porn but I am wondering if I should jump back into my PE routine after a couple of months. Ahhh, oh well, I am getting ahead of myself. I should just focus on what I am going to do now. Thanks again for posting and helping me out, guys.

[HueGHawk Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close HueGHawk]

Same exact story here bro. Found this site in June and tried to quit porn cold turkey. The longest streak I've gone is 17 days. I average about once a week none (which is better that once or twice a day like I was doing 3 months ago. I'm not going to lie to you and say it's easy because it's not...but knowing you have a problem/addiction is the 1st step. Those 17 days were the best days I have had in a long time. My EQ was the best it's ever been, I was seeing stuff more positive/clearly. I've been weak and the dopamine rush has been overcoming me. But best of luck bro!

Draggin- you are one of my inspirations. While you quit porn did you edge any? If so how often?

[HueGHawk Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close HueGHawk]

The reason why I asked is because I went a week without PMO or edging and I came in like a min with my girl lol. So I really need to edge because it helps me last. But I don't want to hurt my rebooting process either.

[Golf1094 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Golf1094]

I was thinking of going no PMO (Porn, Masturbation, Orgasm) for a couple of weeks and after awhile allow myself to masturbate once or twice a week without porn. After a month goes by, I would then get back into my JP90 routine while still quitting porn cold turkey.

What do you guys think of this plan?

[mrimalive1 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close mrimalive1]

I think u should do that but still do the jp 90 routine because jelqing isn't really masturbation and by doing the routine with out having a orgasm that lonh you might get some great growth results.So far from what I read at your age guys gains with pe are extraordinary.You don't want to waist that precious time.Damn I wish I knew about pe at the age of 13 lol.

[Golf1094 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Golf1094]

I think u should do that but still do the jp 90 routine because jelqing isn't really masturbation and by doing the routine with out having a orgasm that lonh you might get some great growth results.So far from what I read at your age guys gains with pe are extraordinary.You don't want to waist that precious time.Damn I wish I knew about pe at the age of 13 lol.

I am still considering that option because it takes off the urge to masturbate. However, I still feel as if I need to do a short term 'reboot' by going two weeks without any stimulation, porn, etc. and then proceed from there.

I've seen around a 0.3 to 0.4 inches of length gain and practically zero gains in girth after 6 total weeks of the JP90 routine. I am thinking about restarting my PE routine on 17 September 2013 which is the two week mark of my abstinence. I am just worrying about whether it is too soon or not.

[benschmidt Senior Member Member of the Month July 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close benschmidt]

Here's a series of things I think you should read if you have not, they have a lot of good information and I feel they may help you.
Pornography Addiction
The Detraining Effect: Understanding and Reversing Negative Habits To Improve Erection Quality and Sexual Confidence: Part 1
The Detraining Effect: Understanding and Reversing Negative Habits To Improve Erection Quality and Sexual Confidence: Part 2
The Detraining Effect Part 3: Reversing Negative Habits

I hope that these will help you, good luck!

[mrimalive1 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close mrimalive1]

Try the 2 weeks and see how you feel...just don't choke that chicken

[Golf1094 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Golf1094]

Here's a series of things I think you should read if you have not, they have a lot of good information and I feel they may help you.
Pornography Addiction
The Detraining Effect: Understanding and Reversing Negative Habits To Improve Erection Quality and Sexual Confidence: Part 1
The Detraining Effect: Understanding and Reversing Negative Habits To Improve Erection Quality and Sexual Confidence: Part 2
The Detraining Effect Part 3: Reversing Negative Habits

I hope that these will help you, good luck!

Thanks! I read up on those articles just now and they were very well detailed. Definitely worth the read.

Try the 2 weeks and see how you feel...just don't choke that chicken

I am on day 3 and it is going very well. I have had some short periods of horniness but it isn't hard to handle at all.

[pudendal Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close pudendal]

Hi Golf,

While I think avoiding porn and masturbation will make it easier to cum and could help you achieve an orgasm with your partner, don't worry about this too much. I think situational anorgasmia or delayed ejaculation is relatively common for guys who are just starting out or have a new sex partner (especially if you feel pressured to have sex or are worried about pleasuring her) and it is within the range of normal sexual expression. Personally, I couldn't ejaculate for my first few sexual encounters and still sometimes take longer with an unfamiliar girl. Especially with oral, I had heard all these wonderful things about its magic and couldn't understand why it didn't work for me until later (after meeting someone new) I realized that she just hadn't been very good at giving head. Her teeth had always taken me out of the mood. It only got worse the more I worried that she was getting tired of it and the more she encouraged me to cum. Girls don't climax every time they have sex and guys don't have to either. This might be discouraging for your partner but just tell her you have to get comfortable with her and after a few times you'll be wishing you could last longer. Enjoy!

Edit: Worth mentioning that antidepressants, especially SSRIs, can cause anorgasmia and are even sometimes prescribed to treat premature ejaculation (If you're taking an SSRI and continue to have problems, your doctor might switch you to a different class of antidepressant).