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I really hope some of you guys can help me....
Until recently, I never so much as gave a second thought to ED. I had never had any issues getting a hardon or keeping it up. In fact I would say keeping it down was more of a problem! I always thought ED was something that only affected old men or those with some chronic illness. But all that changed around five weeks ago. Let me explain…
I am 31 years old and in generally good health although I’ve been a heavy smoker since my teens (mostly weed mixed with tobacco). Besides that, I used to be in great shape but I don't work out very much anymore although I wouldn't call myself fat (just quite unfit). I rarely drink and don’t do any other kind of drugs. I did watch porn some days up until recently but only ever about five minutes worth as I was having my daily wank before I went to sleep.
As I said above, I have never had any problems with getting an erection or keeping it up. That was the case until around five weeks ago. I was spending the weekend with my girlfriend (who by the way is the greatest, most gorgeous, sexiest women I've ever known!) and we had been having loads of great sex as we normally do. To give you an idea, that weekend we had sex twice on Friday night, once on Saturday morning, maybe twice on Saturday night and again on Sunday afternoon. That was pretty average for us - Just lying in bed cuddling her would result in me having a raging hardon that I would need to take out on her!
Anyway, we were lying in bed on the Sunday night and she asked me if I wanted to have sex again. Stupid question! We both got naked and ready to go except my cock didn't seem to be getting the message. It didn't get hard or even react in any way so I suggested to her that she suck on it, help "wake him up". After sucking on my still flaccid cock for a few moments, she admitted defeat and stopped. I lay there wondering what the hell was wrong - Even my own attempts to get it hard failed! I could get a half semi at best…
I can’t say this didn’t worry me but I put it down to one of those things - I was kinda tired that night and my cock was still a little tender from the sex we had earlier that day. I seen my girlfriend again a few days later and we went straight upstairs to bed. We tried to have sex but once again, my cock would not get hard. This time it was even worse than the previous time - It would not do anything! I lay there confused and feeling like shit, not knowing what to say or do. I actually remember hitting my cock a slap and telling it to fucking wake up! My girlfriend tried to make a joke out of it but I could tell she was concerned this time too. We talked about it and I was honest in saying to her that I had no idea what the hell was up. She was more than understanding though and told me not to worry about it.
This time though I couldn’t help but worry! I spent the next few days thinking about it, so much so that I properly melted my own head! I tried to not think about it but I couldn’t help it - It was always on my mind. It got to the point where I actually began to freak out. I’ve never had a panic attack in my life before but I think I worried myself so much that I actually came close one day over this. I saw my girlfriend again a few days later but we didn't have sex - She knew I was worrying about it and said to me to just leave trying to have sex until my cock was sorted. I knew that in the back of her head, she was starting to think that she was the problem. Nothing could have been further from the truth but knowing she was thinking that made me feel even worse.
A few more days past and after much thinking, I came to the conclusion that this was all in my head. Knowing I was seeing her later that night, I thought about having sex with her all day. When we got to bed that night, much to my surprise my cock was rock hard and we had awesome sex! It was such a relief for the both of us! Everything felt great again and the next night, we had sex again and my cock was rock hard until mid-way through when we went to change positions. My hardon disappeared and nothing I done would bring it back - It was like it just died! All the relief I felt the day before was now gone and I was suddenly back to freaking out, this time even worse than before!
We’ve tried to have sex a few times since but have largely failed. Friday for example, we tried to have sex and it was going fine for a few minutes until my hardon started to disappear. We kept going and both managed to cum but I was literally soft by the time I came and it was without much sensation. We ended up having a massive row on Saturday which I know was my fault and which I know was because my head was so fucked over this. The row we had on Saturday was so bad that I actually thought she was going to finish with me!
That for me was the final straw. I realized that all that worrying about this was going to do was drive my girlfriend away and drive me insane! Plus I realized that me thinking and worrying about this so much was killing my desire to actually have sex (not that I've been able to anyway!). Playing the waiting game, hoping for this problem to fix itself clearly wasn't working so I decided that I needed to sort this myself. So below is my plan - Anyone with any advice or ideas that could help me, please do not be afraid to chip in! Most of these ideas I've taken from reading through this forum and although I haven't been able to find anyone with the same problem as me, I'm hoping the combination of all of these will help me sort this and will hopefully help anyone else who is suffering the same problem.
So the first thing I done was went to see the doctor. I told her everything, she examined me and arranged for me to be tested for various infections, low testosterone, etc as well as a full sexual health check. I'm waiting on the results coming back (which she said can take up to two weeks) and I know this will sound mad but I really hope they do find something. I had convinced myself this was all in my head but I'm not so sure anymore. I am quite strong minded and strong willed (see the third thing I'm doing below for proof!) and I really think that if this was all in my head, I could fix it quite easily. Fingers crossed she comes back with some good news!
Second thing I'm doing (and which is by far the most difficult) is trying to stop worrying about it. Truth is, I know that another week or two of chronic worrying about this would have literally broken something inside my mind. It sounds so dumb but I cannot explain what it has been like. Worrying about my cock not working, worrying about the effect it is having on my relationship, worrying about losing the best girl I've ever known, worrying about the prospect of a life without sex. It is not easy to not think about all of that but I am making a little progress. Now every time I realize I’m thinking about it, I imagine putting the thoughts out of my head which seems to work, some of the time.
Third thing I'm doing is quitting smoking. Like I said before, I've been smoking weed mixed with tobacco every day for almost 15 years. It's been three days now since my last smoke and I thought it was going to be total hell but it hasn't been that difficult at all. I am a really determined person once I get something into my head and everything I've read points to smoking as being a major hardon killer which I think is a big motivator for me right now. It’s amazing how quickly your body begins to heal – I woke up this morning and was able to breathe without coughing all sorts of shit up for the first time in as long time!
Fourth thing I'm doing is quitting the porn. I actually done this weeks ago when this first happened and I have to say that I don’t miss it. Porn was never really a big thing for me, maybe when I was a teenager and in my early twenties but no so much now. I haven't even missed watching it but then again, that could be because my head has been so wrecked lately and I haven't been in the mood?...
Fifth thing I’m doing is starting the 5g's. I actually started these the same day I stopped smoking and it may be the placebo effect but my head actually feels a little less fucked today. Maybe it's the combination of the supplements and trying not to worry about it so much? I dunno but I did get a raging hardon last night (the first 'proper' one I've had in weeks!) so even a little progress is still progress!
In addition to the above, I'm also planning on getting back into my training again. I used to kickbox so I'm going to get back into that as well as some cardio and weight lifting. I'm also trying to eat better as I know my diet has been piss poor for the past few years (the joys of the single life!). So that is where I am at. If anyone has any ideas, advice, tips, anything about how I can end this nightmare, please let me know. I am really afraid that if I don't get this sorted soon, it has the potential to ruin my life. I have never been as happy or as content as what was up until 5 weeks ago and I really want to get back to that. I appreciate you taking the time to read this and hopefully I'll be posting in the success forum very soon!
Cheers - SSBD
Until recently, I never so much as gave a second thought to ED. I had never had any issues getting a hardon or keeping it up. In fact I would say keeping it down was more of a problem! I always thought ED was something that only affected old men or those with some chronic illness. But all that changed around five weeks ago. Let me explain…
I am 31 years old and in generally good health although I’ve been a heavy smoker since my teens (mostly weed mixed with tobacco). Besides that, I used to be in great shape but I don't work out very much anymore although I wouldn't call myself fat (just quite unfit). I rarely drink and don’t do any other kind of drugs. I did watch porn some days up until recently but only ever about five minutes worth as I was having my daily wank before I went to sleep.
As I said above, I have never had any problems with getting an erection or keeping it up. That was the case until around five weeks ago. I was spending the weekend with my girlfriend (who by the way is the greatest, most gorgeous, sexiest women I've ever known!) and we had been having loads of great sex as we normally do. To give you an idea, that weekend we had sex twice on Friday night, once on Saturday morning, maybe twice on Saturday night and again on Sunday afternoon. That was pretty average for us - Just lying in bed cuddling her would result in me having a raging hardon that I would need to take out on her!
Anyway, we were lying in bed on the Sunday night and she asked me if I wanted to have sex again. Stupid question! We both got naked and ready to go except my cock didn't seem to be getting the message. It didn't get hard or even react in any way so I suggested to her that she suck on it, help "wake him up". After sucking on my still flaccid cock for a few moments, she admitted defeat and stopped. I lay there wondering what the hell was wrong - Even my own attempts to get it hard failed! I could get a half semi at best…
I can’t say this didn’t worry me but I put it down to one of those things - I was kinda tired that night and my cock was still a little tender from the sex we had earlier that day. I seen my girlfriend again a few days later and we went straight upstairs to bed. We tried to have sex but once again, my cock would not get hard. This time it was even worse than the previous time - It would not do anything! I lay there confused and feeling like shit, not knowing what to say or do. I actually remember hitting my cock a slap and telling it to fucking wake up! My girlfriend tried to make a joke out of it but I could tell she was concerned this time too. We talked about it and I was honest in saying to her that I had no idea what the hell was up. She was more than understanding though and told me not to worry about it.
This time though I couldn’t help but worry! I spent the next few days thinking about it, so much so that I properly melted my own head! I tried to not think about it but I couldn’t help it - It was always on my mind. It got to the point where I actually began to freak out. I’ve never had a panic attack in my life before but I think I worried myself so much that I actually came close one day over this. I saw my girlfriend again a few days later but we didn't have sex - She knew I was worrying about it and said to me to just leave trying to have sex until my cock was sorted. I knew that in the back of her head, she was starting to think that she was the problem. Nothing could have been further from the truth but knowing she was thinking that made me feel even worse.
A few more days past and after much thinking, I came to the conclusion that this was all in my head. Knowing I was seeing her later that night, I thought about having sex with her all day. When we got to bed that night, much to my surprise my cock was rock hard and we had awesome sex! It was such a relief for the both of us! Everything felt great again and the next night, we had sex again and my cock was rock hard until mid-way through when we went to change positions. My hardon disappeared and nothing I done would bring it back - It was like it just died! All the relief I felt the day before was now gone and I was suddenly back to freaking out, this time even worse than before!
We’ve tried to have sex a few times since but have largely failed. Friday for example, we tried to have sex and it was going fine for a few minutes until my hardon started to disappear. We kept going and both managed to cum but I was literally soft by the time I came and it was without much sensation. We ended up having a massive row on Saturday which I know was my fault and which I know was because my head was so fucked over this. The row we had on Saturday was so bad that I actually thought she was going to finish with me!
That for me was the final straw. I realized that all that worrying about this was going to do was drive my girlfriend away and drive me insane! Plus I realized that me thinking and worrying about this so much was killing my desire to actually have sex (not that I've been able to anyway!). Playing the waiting game, hoping for this problem to fix itself clearly wasn't working so I decided that I needed to sort this myself. So below is my plan - Anyone with any advice or ideas that could help me, please do not be afraid to chip in! Most of these ideas I've taken from reading through this forum and although I haven't been able to find anyone with the same problem as me, I'm hoping the combination of all of these will help me sort this and will hopefully help anyone else who is suffering the same problem.
So the first thing I done was went to see the doctor. I told her everything, she examined me and arranged for me to be tested for various infections, low testosterone, etc as well as a full sexual health check. I'm waiting on the results coming back (which she said can take up to two weeks) and I know this will sound mad but I really hope they do find something. I had convinced myself this was all in my head but I'm not so sure anymore. I am quite strong minded and strong willed (see the third thing I'm doing below for proof!) and I really think that if this was all in my head, I could fix it quite easily. Fingers crossed she comes back with some good news!
Second thing I'm doing (and which is by far the most difficult) is trying to stop worrying about it. Truth is, I know that another week or two of chronic worrying about this would have literally broken something inside my mind. It sounds so dumb but I cannot explain what it has been like. Worrying about my cock not working, worrying about the effect it is having on my relationship, worrying about losing the best girl I've ever known, worrying about the prospect of a life without sex. It is not easy to not think about all of that but I am making a little progress. Now every time I realize I’m thinking about it, I imagine putting the thoughts out of my head which seems to work, some of the time.
Third thing I'm doing is quitting smoking. Like I said before, I've been smoking weed mixed with tobacco every day for almost 15 years. It's been three days now since my last smoke and I thought it was going to be total hell but it hasn't been that difficult at all. I am a really determined person once I get something into my head and everything I've read points to smoking as being a major hardon killer which I think is a big motivator for me right now. It’s amazing how quickly your body begins to heal – I woke up this morning and was able to breathe without coughing all sorts of shit up for the first time in as long time!
Fourth thing I'm doing is quitting the porn. I actually done this weeks ago when this first happened and I have to say that I don’t miss it. Porn was never really a big thing for me, maybe when I was a teenager and in my early twenties but no so much now. I haven't even missed watching it but then again, that could be because my head has been so wrecked lately and I haven't been in the mood?...
Fifth thing I’m doing is starting the 5g's. I actually started these the same day I stopped smoking and it may be the placebo effect but my head actually feels a little less fucked today. Maybe it's the combination of the supplements and trying not to worry about it so much? I dunno but I did get a raging hardon last night (the first 'proper' one I've had in weeks!) so even a little progress is still progress!
In addition to the above, I'm also planning on getting back into my training again. I used to kickbox so I'm going to get back into that as well as some cardio and weight lifting. I'm also trying to eat better as I know my diet has been piss poor for the past few years (the joys of the single life!). So that is where I am at. If anyone has any ideas, advice, tips, anything about how I can end this nightmare, please let me know. I am really afraid that if I don't get this sorted soon, it has the potential to ruin my life. I have never been as happy or as content as what was up until 5 weeks ago and I really want to get back to that. I appreciate you taking the time to read this and hopefully I'll be posting in the success forum very soon!
Cheers - SSBD
). But she also said that my cock not working for a while changes nothing - She still loves me, I’m all she could ever want and she wants to spend the rest of her life with me! What more could I ask for?
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