telling the mrs?

[rafguy1973 Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close rafguy1973]

Whats the best way to tell your wife/gf? I have tried whe I have had a drink, but not completed! She now thinks its her!! Do I just come clean about ed?

[BigO AdministratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close BigO]

Hello Rafguy1973, and welcome to the Gym. Great first question.

Assuming we're talking about a long-term girlfriend or wife, someone who you have developed a comfortability and trust level with, I would say just have a sit down and be honest. A drink to ease the nerves may help, but it is probably best to do it with a clear head, so there's no mis-communication.

If you have ED and haven't talked to her about it yet, this may be a good time to do it. I know it may seem a little embarrassing to talk about, but not only will it give her a better understanding so that she doesn't feel that it is her, but also gives you an opening to talk about PE and it's role in helping with ED. If you are also doing exercises for size gains, tell her that is also a possibility of PE.

She may be in disbelief at first, as most of us were initially, and have some questions. Just answer her questions honestly. Let her know you're doing this for your own sexual health. Steer clear of asking her about your size, that's just going to send the conversation down the wrong path.

Hope that helps. Best of luck to you.

[burtybasset Retired Moderator Member of the Month May 2014PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close burtybasset]

Hey man welcome to the gym!

You have come to the right place for help and support, I think if you take workin_4_its advice you will gain the support of your wife as well, just try to be as honest and open as you can.

The best of luck, I hope you get the relationship and solution your after!

[rafguy1973 Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close rafguy1973]

Hi, thanks for the welcome and the info.

[mannakonda Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close mannakonda]

I have had some episodes myself were I wasn´t able to get it up, but I had been drinking. One time it was outside and my flaccid was small..It was really embarrassing for me and I also liked that girl. After that I got afraid that the next time it would happen again...and it did! It really kills your confidence.

But after I started PE it got much better Especially the kegels will help! You should also try jelqing which will give you a healthier penis and you will most likely end up with a bigger one if you stay committed to it. Check out the beginner forum and read a lot.
Best of luck!

[DaddyDick Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close DaddyDick]

I waited until it was obvious that something was up. The transition was smooth and she now accepts it. Hell, she has scrap booking and I have PE.

[DaddyDick Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close DaddyDick]

I should add that I waited until I received nice feedback on the change before I let her know. That way I could say something like, "Yea, you like it though".

[Mrs. workin_4_it Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Mrs. workin_4_it]

I just replied to another thread pertaining to the same question. Here is my reply. Hope it helps.



As a wife, I was glad when my hubby finally told me. Even though I was/am perfectly fine with his size, I know it would make him more confident with himself. Now, he doesn't have to make excuses, and when our little one wants to talk to dad, I can redirect her instead of her knocking on the door and bugging him.

The fun part is helping him edge (when I can). I either give him a little show, or I help physically. It's a win win for both of us!

You will feel so much better once you let her know. You can even direct her to this site. We are also kind of a support group for both sexes.

[Growingeachday Member Find all posts View Profile Close Growingeachday]

Just open up and be honest! You'll be glad you did! Communication is at the essence of intimacy.

I told my wife several weeks ago. It resulted in two nights of very sincere (sometimes awkward but ultimately very rewarding) communication. This morning I DEMONSTRATED my entire routine! I did this so that I (and she) could be comfortable at any time if she walked into the bathroom or bedroom while I was in the middle of PE!

A few nights ago, she encouraged me to go relax and do my PE while she made dinner. I felt very loved!

If she loves you (and I assume she does to be married or connected to you), she will accept and even encourage you--not because she will likely think you need any enhancement, but because it is important to you!

Deception destroys intimacy; honesty enhances it! Tell her and hold her in your arms and assure her of your love; let her know it's important to you and that you want to be the best lover you can be to her! What woman who loves her mate would reject that?!

Go for it! Let us know how it turns out.

[BigO AdministratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close BigO]

https://www.pegym.com/forums/beginne...-about-pe.html

https://www.pegym.com/forums/relatio...ling-wife.html

https://www.pegym.com/forums/penis-e...other+about+PE

These should have some great advice.

[gettingintoshape Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close gettingintoshape]

I cant give any advice that is better than what has already been stated, but my wife was curious after I told her. I also explained that it was sexual health as well, getting bigger was not the main point, but she is enjoying that as well.

[Big Al AdministratorPEGym EditorMale Enhancement Coach Rep.PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Big Al]

There's some excellent advice in this thread!

It is going to make a difference if your ED is caused by anxiety or if it has a physical/organic component to it. If it's based on anxiety, an understanding partner may help you get to that "epiphany" point where you gain enough confidence and lose enough inhibition to allow your penis to function as it should.

If the ED is not anxiety related, then this should be made clear so that she can help you through this. This is assuming that you have either tried other methods for inducing erections (like Viagra, injectables, etc.) or are against said methods and are trying to restore your potency without them.