I have several factors that may cause my ED

[determinedforce Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close determinedforce]

I am a 41 y/o male who "used" to be able to perform up to several times a day.

I eat very healthy and take vitamins. No exercise though and sit a lot. A little gut, but not overweight. I drink wine daily in moderation (more or less, but NOT to drunk stage).

I once had a panic attack in a grocery store and thought I was going to die, but as I was sitting there, I had tunnel vision looking at all the asses of the women passing me by. THAT is much I think about sex! :-)

I can get HARD as hell morning wood when I do sleep.

All my life I have gotten hard when I get sleepy. Happened in class all the time. :-)

Lately, I get semi-hard (I've always been a REAL thing or NO thing type of guy) when talking or texting a woman about "doing things".

I haven't had a steady GF/sex partner since '09 until now. I now have a woman who is a nympho, but her being naked, big boobs, big booty, kissing, oral sex, etc. Doesn't get me up. Most of the time, it is when I get sleepy or I wake up with wood and then wake her up and I do it to her like a boss. She loves it and orgasms every time (never had a problem there with ANY woman).

In the meantime, I watched porn every 1-3 days or so. Sometimes I get fully hard, but I can also ejaculate when semi-hard. I had a few ALMOST sexcapades since '09, but couldn't get it up because a couple times we were drinking in excess. A couple others, I was just TIRED. I'm also a life-long insomniac and don't sleep well/much, but that never was a problem before. I'm the guy who has sex and then goes out and "builds a house" for lack of a better way to describe my energy after.

So, WHY can't I get it up with normal foreplay with FINE ass women and what should I do about it? Thanks in advance for any and all suggestions.

[burtybasset Retired Moderator Member of the Month May 2014PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close burtybasset]

Welcome to the gym determinedforce!

Maybe try cutting out the porn and doing a little exercise, lack of proper sleep could have an effect on your erections, your body needs time to recover! If you are exercising and properly wearing yourself out, you may find it helps your sleeping patterns as well as your erections with better bloodflow.

Also if your only getting semi hard it could be to do with erection quality (EQ), starting one of the beginner routines and doing it gently to begin has definitely helped my EQ, maybe give it a try, one of the most popular is JP90.

https://www.pegym.com/forums/beginne...r-routine.html

Whilst paying attention to these \/ very important!

Physiologic Indicators (PIs) to Help Penis Growth!

This is a great read for beginners. \/

https://www.pegym.com/forums/penis-e...t-mindset.html

And also a few links on kegels/reverse kegels. \/

https://www.pegym.com/forums/prematu...r-balance.html

How to Do Kegel Exercises for Men: A Definitive Guide to Male Kegeling | PEGym

Just remember to start gently and always warm up and down, good luck, stay safe!

[I_Like_Blondes Member Find all posts View Profile Close I_Like_Blondes]

Give the porn a rest and maybe see a doc to get your testosterone levels checked, it dwindles down more and more with age. That could be why you aren't the stallion you once were.

[Richvextends Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Richvextends]

Here is a thought, maybe you feel you have to put on a false front with the girl you are with.

Imagine a place where you could just be free without worry of other's thoughts? 'Go there' and see what you feel. Letting our unconscious out can help. Then once you know what you feel inside, express it to your lady.

Maybe it will be good not only for you but probably for her to know what you are feeling. Now if you have some thoughts that are selfish that will not necessarily be bad as long as you can channel those thoughts in productive ways. For instance, sometimes I need time by myself and I let my lady friend know this. She may want to spend more time with me but then she knows I feel refreshed after having down time. This is good because I don't get cranky and I am 'there' more for her and can experience what she is going through and hear her better.

So, find out what you are feeling, and then go from there. Good luck Determineforce.