Very annoying problem this weekend

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So ive had my girlfriend over this weekend & of course ended up having sex.

Whenever i jelq or do PE exercises my erection quality is a solid 10/10, like concrete.

I wake up with morning wood hard as concrete all the time.


However when she came over i had a really hard time to get it up hard enough to enter, whenever i reached the necessary hardness it would only stay for a small time. No matter how much she tried by blowjobs or by hand it wouldnt get up from her touch. It only came up when i touched myself. I still had her orgasm but this is such a vibe killer.... I want to be able to express my love to the girl i love most in the best way possible. First time this EVER happened to me w/ a girl.

What can i do to resolve this problem?

Thanks in Advance,

RDub

Edit: When i kiss her i get excited and it gets harder but not to the point its hard enough.

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So ive had my girlfriend over this weekend & of course ended up having sex.

Whenever i jelq or do PE exercises my erection quality is a solid 10/10, like concrete.

I wake up with morning wood hard as concrete all the time.


However when she came over i had a really hard time to get it up hard enough to enter, whenever i reached the necessary hardness it would only stay for a small time. No matter how much she tried by blowjobs or by hand it wouldnt get up from her touch. It only came up when i touched myself. I still had her orgasm but this is such a vibe killer.... I want to be able to express my love to the girl i love most in the best way possible. First time this EVER happened to me w/ a girl.

What can i do to resolve this problem?

Thanks in Advance,

RDub

Either you aren't really sexually attracted to her or you had some sort of anxiety that killed your erection.
Also sounds like you adjusted yourself to your own stimuli and do you use porn when you practice P.E exercises?

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I love everything about the girl, i love her bigtime!

I practicly never watch porn, only pictures. And stress i cant imagine man im comfortable w her.

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I love everything about the girl, i love her bigtime!

I practicly never watch porn, only pictures. And stress i cant imagine man im comfortable w her.

Strange...what was going through your head before it happened? Sometimes it's subconscious and the effects are you getting a little too "excited" ends up burning out the response...

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Happy as a kid in a candy store of course! Practicly wanting to make love to the girl i love & get her off, those were my thoughts.


Normally my dick gets to a 11/10 when i touch it a bit but this time only like a semi, but it would never last once it was hard enough.

[sssssteve Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close sssssteve]

performance anxiety. stage fright. happens to everyone. dont worry about it. girls love it if you can laugh it off... it really eases the mood and neutralizes that anxiety for the next time around.

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In the meantime any tips to avoid these problems? I wanna get this solved as quickly as possible

[sssssteve Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close sssssteve]

stop worrying about banging her.

thats it.

if you can do that then everything else is going to come naturally.

[HijinkzEnsued Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close HijinkzEnsued]

stop worrying about banging her.

thats it.

if you can do that then everything else is going to come naturally.

That's the best advice there is, I've been rock hard for 10-15 minutes during foreplay and when the time comes for penetration, lost my erection just as fast as I got it. A whole lot of sex is mental and even if you might not feel anxious, you brain knows it is and then it's just a cascade of bad things.

If it happens, I laugh it off and make sure that my partner gets off regardless. The last time it happened to me, the woman I was with still had tons of fun and orgasms and know wants it even more now!

So, I think that the ability to laugh it off and focus on your partner speaks a lot more about your own confidence than anything else. And no matter what people say, it has happened at least once to everyone!

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Performance anxiety is further enhanced if you have consumed any alchohol.

[corageon Banned Find all posts View Profile Close corageon]

stop worrying about banging her.

thats it.

if you can do that then everything else is going to come naturally.

Exactly! You have to be in the right mood, can't be too sedated and ya gotta be with it...but not too with it. xD
Contemplating,worrying,and overthinking it - these are all great ways to kill the wood!

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Nah i wasnt overthinking things, we just got there the normal way, good amount of foreplay etc, but she eventually wanted more then the tongue or fingers. Guess i'll just take it easy then It is what it is