In 2 weeks I'm going to have sex with a 10/10 girl, please help!

[Jackxxx Banned Find all posts View Profile Close Jackxxx]

Hah. Sorry guys, been away. Started a new job. Forgot about this thread but I'm back lurking on this section because I need help again. Thought this thread might have died.

So yes, I did have sex with her. Was I proud of my performance? Absolutely not. I didn't last long the first time, I lasted long the second time and was able to pound it out for quite some time to my surprise but got soft during a position change, and during the last time, I couldn't even get it up. Very disappointing. I did tell her about my severe performance anxiety and she was understanding. But either way, I messed up.

So back to present time. I started a new job. My co-worker is totally into me and made out with me a couple of nights ago at a work place party. She's also a 10/10 (hehe). Here's my problem, with the poor performance I experienced a couple of weeks ago, I'm wondering if I should even pursue her. This is a co-worker, office gossip spreads faster than a warm jar of skippy on toast. Things to consider right now, I can't even get hard on my own, not from touching or trying to semi beat one out. I'm not gonna try to look at porn either. Haven't jacked off in 7 days now and my dick is as limp as a dishrag. No fappers probably call this the infamous flatline. Erotic thoughts might get me to a 5 EQ if I try to get hard. I'm pretty much screwed right now. Almost ready to throw in the towel, and raise the white flag. The timing couldn't be any worse right now with this erectile dysfunction cause I was gonna try to give myself time to recover and focus on exercises and overall health in combination with supplements to try to overcome it.


Edit: I don't think I mentioned my age in this thread, though perhaps irrelevant, I'm 25.

Are you sure is not in your head?
Your last experience with that girl is one thing, but what you describe this week about not able to get hard at all, I would say is a totally different thing. You just started a new job, you might have quite a few things in your head. It would be completely normal to try in your daily routine to jerk off and not get hard. Let it build. Forget about it. Find some time to relax and distract but don't force it. The desire for something will come and thats how you test yourself. And the more you think about it, the more negative effect it has.

[greg123 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close greg123]

Do you work out?. Are you healthy?. Do you smoke ? . Is your diet good? . Dont watch porn. Drink green tea everyday. And just relax. If you have sex with the '' other'' 10/10 girl why dont you try to lick the fuck out of her. But check some guids first. Finger and tongue at the same time. Check it out and try it. If you do it right you will make her squirt. Good luck

[Sgt.Numbnuts Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Sgt.Numbnuts]

Do you think taking the pressure off would help?
I mean, this girl makes you nervous because you're afraid to fail.

Maybe it helps if you first 'do' a girl with who you're not afraid to fail.
A total strange from the bar. A good friend you trust and like. A prostitute for all i care.

Anyway, good luck man. It's a pretty serious problem, no doubt.
Wish I could help... I mean, with advice, haha.

[DickerSchwanz Senior Member Member of the Month Sept 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close DickerSchwanz]

Just work on making it work. Takes training. Enough info provided.

Focus on how it will not work will obviously make it not work.

[m3232 Banned Find all posts View Profile Close m3232]

Grading women out of ten in this way ispretty pathetic if you are serious.
It also reflects that you expect to be graded in the same way.
Hence your anxiety and pretty twisted views on sex and women.
Reset your moral and emotional compass to north and your dick might just follow

[DDCRLO Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close DDCRLO]

I don't mind being graded and can also grade honestly. It is kind of a freedom and reality thing!

[m3232 Banned Find all posts View Profile Close m3232]

DDCRLO;1136511]I don't mind being graded and can also grade honestly. It is kind of a freedom and reality thing![/QUOTE]

I dig. Grading is fine if
a) its kind of light hearted and you realise its totally subjective and your own opinion
And more importantly
b)if you can make the grade yourself

[TheZZMan Moderator Member of the Month Sept 2018PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close TheZZMan]

I sometimes get so far into my head that I couldn't perform even if I wanted. And heaven forbid the phone should ring while we are getting busy or someone ring the doorbell. Instant boner repellent. Or if the kids are do back from their friends house and you are on limited time constraints, ugh. It doesn't take much to distract me and with the distraction goes performance. Something I have struggled with forever. However, I just got back from a week in the mountains just me and my wife - no kids - and it was probably the best vacation I ever had. Everything worked as designed.

So, try to relax a little - new job, need to impress the new boss, new deadlines, new responsibilities, new co-workers whose names you have to remember - and on and on and on. You then ask yourself to turn all that off and concentrate on a new relationship? A mighty task if it was my shoes. A willing partner will help you ease your mind to push all those obligations aside and direct the focus on the task at hand....her. Have an open conversation with her and ask for help to distract from the day to day rat race - its easier than you think.

[plasmaq Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close plasmaq]

Grading women out of ten in this way ispretty pathetic if you are serious.
It also reflects that you expect to be graded in the same way.
Hence your anxiety and pretty twisted views on sex and women.
Reset your moral and emotional compass to north and your dick might just follow

Truthfully I did that purely for clickbait, because I know it'll get more attention and possibly responses. I don't actually grade women like that in real life nor would I want to be graded either.

Do you work out?. Are you healthy?. Do you smoke ? . Is your diet good? . Dont watch porn. Drink green tea everyday. And just relax. If you have sex with the '' other'' 10/10 girl why dont you try to lick the fuck out of her. But check some guids first. Finger and tongue at the same time. Check it out and try it. If you do it right you will make her squirt. Good luck

I work out everyday or every other day. I'm very fit and I have an aesthetic body image.
Would I call myself healthy? Yes. I don't eat junk, lots of servings of fruits and vegetables. I have started to do a lot more cardio workouts rather than just weights but I'm quite athletic. However if you look at my blood pressure, I am pre-hypertensive so am I totally healthy? I think it can be better. I have very high standards for fitness.
I don't smoke. I will socially but that's super rare, maybe once a month. Not addicted, no cravings at all.

I stopped watching porn 7 days ago. Started no fap. I'm most likely experiencing a flatline. I drank green tea today and got a little jittery. I don't drink caffeine or coffee at all due to the pre-hypertension that I must lower. 150/90 not uncommon.

I started drinking citrulline malate, taking ginseng, and perhaps I'll start using bathmate again. Thoughts on this?

As for licking out, I did that but my last experience wasn't so well cause I think I suck at it to be honest. I did try following some porn advice tip and it didn't work out so well. Also, they wanna "return the favor" and when I can't get it up, it just looks bad. Or when it's getting good and they want me to put it in, I can't. I should also mention that I haven't worn a condom in years. I also probably suffer from the grip of death cause the last time I did have sex, I didn't feel it.

At this point, all I want is to be hard, even if I'm a minute-man. I feel like I've hit rock bottom with ED. At least with pre-mature ejaculation, it'll still be hard at least for a little bit, or at least with lack of size, you can still have sex. ED is just the worst.

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Hah. Sorry guys, been away. Started a new job. Forgot about this thread but I'm back lurking on this section because I need help again. Thought this thread might have died.

So yes, I did have sex with her. Was I proud of my performance? Absolutely not. I didn't last long the first time, I lasted long the second time and was able to pound it out for quite some time to my surprise but got soft during a position change, and during the last time, I couldn't even get it up. Very disappointing. I did tell her about my severe performance anxiety and she was understanding. But either way, I messed up.

So back to present time. I started a new job. My co-worker is totally into me and made out with me a couple of nights ago at a work place party. She's also a 10/10 (hehe). Here's my problem, with the poor performance I experienced a couple of weeks ago, I'm wondering if I should even pursue her. This is a co-worker, office gossip spreads faster than a warm jar of skippy on toast. Things to consider right now, I can't even get hard on my own, not from touching or trying to semi beat one out. I'm not gonna try to look at porn either. Haven't jacked off in 7 days now and my dick is as limp as a dishrag. No fappers probably call this the infamous flatline. Erotic thoughts might get me to a 5 EQ if I try to get hard. I'm pretty much screwed right now. Almost ready to throw in the towel, and raise the white flag. The timing couldn't be any worse right now with this erectile dysfunction cause I was gonna try to give myself time to recover and focus on exercises and overall health in combination with supplements to try to overcome it.


Edit: I don't think I mentioned my age in this thread, though perhaps irrelevant, I'm 25.

I gotta call bullshit on the "10 out of 10" crap but if you insist.

[DDCRLO Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close DDCRLO]

Time to see your doctor to discuss options

[seikatsu Member Find all posts View Profile Close seikatsu]

see a urologist. do you still get morning wood? if you dont, then there may be something more to it than just performance anxiety. i wouldnt bet everything to porn use although im sure that that is a factor.

[psinstructor Member Find all posts View Profile Close psinstructor]

I like being graded by my man as he appreciates what he has. He measures me up against lots of women we see. I always come out on top (but sometimes I would rather bring up the rear)

[m3232 Banned Find all posts View Profile Close m3232]

I like being graded by my man as he appreciates what he has. He measures me up against lots of women we see. I always come out on top (but sometimes I would rather bring up the rear)

Aww. Thats so cute

[DDCRLO Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close DDCRLO]

A urologist is cheap. 10/10 memories are "priceless"