In 2 weeks I'm going to have sex with a 10/10 girl, please help!

[plasmaq Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close plasmaq]

Hey guys, so in 2 weeks time, I'm gonna probably, most likely, have sex with this girl I've been talking to online for quite some time now. I'm going to visit her across the country.

So, I haven't had sex myself in about two years. I'm feeling very much like a virgin. I've forgotten what it feels like to be touched by a female. I've had moments where things would get steamy with me and a girl but I couldn't get it up. Nerves go through the roof. I wouldn't say I suffer from ED since I can get it up sometimes when I haven't fapped for a while or while watching porn, but in real life, I certainly do get ED sometimes when I'm nervous. I've been laying off porn as much as I can, months now, on and off, and doing no fap, but I'm still not confident enough with my penis.

I tried a fleshlight for the first time this morning in months, and I lasted about 6 seconds, not only that, it was hard to get hard, maybe 6 EQ. I'm doing kegels, though not consistently and I haven't been doing them long enough to see results and it's not likely I will see results within the next 2 weeks.

Anyhow, I'm going to see this girl in 2 weeks and I wanna be on my A game. What can I do?

[DickerSchwanz Senior Member Member of the Month Sept 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close DickerSchwanz]

You will see results in 2weeks if you focus on what is possible to achieve. Maybe no mastery but surely progress.
Finding relaxation and riding the pleasure before coming near ponr is a good thing to aim for. Just go slower with the FL and stop if you are near ponr.

[CUSP82 Administrator Admin of the Month Dec 2014PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close CUSP82]

Maybe instead of worrying you could just realx and be a young guy and have fun?

[longerlastingnoob Senior Member Member of the Month Jan 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close longerlastingnoob]

Stop doing kegels, practice edging, and take cusp's advice.

[plasmaq Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close plasmaq]

Maybe instead of worrying you could just realx and be a young guy and have fun?

It's so hard for me to relax now ever since I was told by my xgf that she stopped having sex with me because I was bad at sex and it didn't feel good, however she stayed with me for a long time without disclosing that so I didn't get sex anywhere else. Basically, my confidence is shattered. I used to get hard from just hugging, now I barely get hard from BJ's or anything! and it's been a long time since that too. I started watching lots of porn since it was my only outlet since I couldn't get girls because I was stuck in a relationship and it felt like I was never gonna have sex again with this girl since lots of drama. Anyhow this new girl, I don't wanna disappoint her, she's built me up in her head for a long time now.

I do have arginine, ginseng, expired horny goat weed, zinc, other vitamins etc. Anything else I can take? Whatever it takes!

Should I go on strict no fap? or practice with the fleshlight until then?


Edit: I guess I'll edge with the fleshlight as long as I can.
Here's my next problem though. It's hard to get hard. Like I have to wake up my dick by vigorously jerking it to get it up and by the time I'm like 60% hard I wanna cum already.

[CUSP82 Administrator Admin of the Month Dec 2014PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close CUSP82]

Do you know how many times I have heard that "oh you're not good at sex"? It means nothing; people just say that to be mean. It has nothing to do with sex. Tell you what? Go out and find a girl and practice practice and you'll just get better each time, if you get your head right. You young guys are going to kill me if I don't end up killing you guys first.

[longerlastingnoob Senior Member Member of the Month Jan 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close longerlastingnoob]

Keep practicing, you need time to get porn out of your system, so it will be easier to get and stay hard, and time to practice edging so you don't skip straight to orgasm.

[15rando Member Find all posts View Profile Close 15rando]

none of this edging or kegels bullshit will fuking help you, take my word

1. Shes not a 10/10 lmao. just because shes hot and you like her does not mean shes perfect
2. If you cant get hard its because your trying too much, just fucking relax and let your body do the work, focus on your breathing as well as relaxing your pelvic floor.

[Nunanik Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Nunanik]

Take some viagra man.

Jokes apart, as people already said I would relax and edge.
But if its more a confidence problem then I would ask myself what is the real problem. Are you nervous cause you think you cant pleasure the girl with your stick, or because she might not like your stick, or what?

You know sex is more then sticking your dick in and out for 1000 times. Rub her pleasure points, make her wet in the foreplay.

Dont fucking worry now, just go and things will go by their own.

[longerlastingnoob Senior Member Member of the Month Jan 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close longerlastingnoob]

none of this edging or kegels bullshit will fuking help you, take my word.

Unfortunate it hasn't worked for you, but it does work.

[15rando Member Find all posts View Profile Close 15rando]

It's so hard for me to relax now ever since I was told by my xgf that she stopped having sex with me because I was bad at sex and it didn't feel good, however she stayed with me for a long time without disclosing that so I didn't get sex anywhere else. Basically, my confidence is shattered. I used to get hard from just hugging, now I barely get hard from BJ's or anything! and it's been a long time since that too. I started watching lots of porn since it was my only outlet since I couldn't get girls because I was stuck in a relationship and it felt like I was never gonna have sex again with this girl since lots of drama. Anyhow this new girl, I don't wanna disappoint her, she's built me up in her head for a long time now.

I do have arginine, ginseng, expired horny goat weed, zinc, other vitamins etc. Anything else I can take? Whatever it takes!

Should I go on strict no fap? or practice with the fleshlight until then?


Edit: I guess I'll edge with the fleshlight as long as I can.
Here's my next problem though. It's hard to get hard. Like I have to wake up my dick by vigorously jerking it to get it up and by the time I'm like 60% hard I wanna cum already.

This is what Im talking about, You have to vigourously jerk off and you want to come before your even at a full erection!

THIS IS EXACTLY WHAT I DID WHEN I WAS A VIRGIN, I WOULD JACK OFF LIKE 3 TIMES A DAY THINKING IT WOULD HELP, THAN WHEN THE DAY CAME I JIZZED IN MY PANTS LMFA0
STOP FUCKING EDGING, STOP THINKING ABOUT IT, STOP ALL THIS BULLSHIT RIGHT NOW, THE ONLY THING THAT WILL WORK IS YOU NEED TO FOCUS ON RELAXING AND WORK ON YOUR BREATHING TECHNIQUE, STOP TAKING ANY TYPE OF STIMULANT LIKE CAFFEINE, AND GET SOME DEPRESSANT TYPE DRUGS THAT MAKE YOU LESS STRESSED.

[15rando Member Find all posts View Profile Close 15rando]

Unfortunate it hasn't worked for you, but it does work.

his problem isnt wanting to last 1 hour instead of 10 minutes, it is he is too tense and unable to achieve erections because he is anxious

[15rando Member Find all posts View Profile Close 15rando]

Unfortunate it hasn't worked for you, but it does work.

Actually I know it does work, but that isn't what we are dealing with. He is super stressed and anxious and he is tensing his pelvic floor so he cant achieve an erection, so he starts worrying even more and furiously jacking off thinking it will help and he is only making it worse.

[longerlastingnoob Senior Member Member of the Month Jan 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close longerlastingnoob]

Anxiety isn't the cause, you are missing a lot here, and you're above post, recommending drugs, contradicts your standpoint.

Like i said, sorry advice on site didn't work for you, not everyone approaches it right or stick with it.

[Cavalier Retired Super Moderator Member of the Month Feb 2015PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Cavalier]

none of this edging or kegels bullshit will fuking help you, take my word

1. Shes not a 10/10 lmao. just because shes hot and you like her does not mean shes perfect
2. If you cant get hard its because your trying too much, just fucking relax and let your body do the work, focus on your breathing as well as relaxing your pelvic floor.

You need to tone is down a little, keep it respectful.

There are plenty of members here that have had success with the exercises mentioned above. Listen to some of the experienced vets, there giving you good advice.