Can only get an erection at very specific times

[Anonymous187 Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Anonymous187]

I'm a 26-year-old male. I have a sexual fetish called somnophilia, which is an attraction to a partner who is asleep or unconscious (I NEVER ENGAGE IN ANY SEXUAL ACTS LIKE THIS WITHOUT PRIOR CONSENT).

Anyway, I can only get an erection if my partner is asleep (or when I think about it). Normal, physical stimulation (hands/mouth) does nothing, and when I can get an erection and want to take it to intercourse, I can't stay erect unless the other party is asleep the entire time.

An easy solution would appear to be having a partner pretend to be asleep. I've tried it. It doesn't work, because I know they're pretending. It has to be real.

This is a major hurdle in every relationship I have, and it's ruined at least one. What, if anything, can I do?

[mikecares Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close mikecares]

See a sex therapist; not sure anyone will be qualified to give you the right advice here.

[Tamora Retired Super Moderator Member of the Month Aug 2015 PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Tamora]

See your doc to get referred to a psychiatrist...CBT or maybe hypnosis. Good luck mate.

[TheZZMan Moderator Member of the Month Sept 2018PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close TheZZMan]

Blindfold yourself so you don't see the other person until you get over this complete obsession.

[corageon Banned Find all posts View Profile Close corageon]

This is a major hurdle in every relationship I have, and it's ruined at least one. What, if anything, can I do?

Either find a girl who is understanding and O.K with it - or maybe even one who has a similar fetish...I'm sure there's plenty of girls who would want you to get in their pants when they are sleeping...trust me - get a submissive one who plays BSDM.

OR...

Find a therapist who can help walk you through this issue..which sounds very pathological in nature but there have been studies in those with monophilias'/monomania; that suggest in disorders like necrophilia or somnophilia that it is possible that there is a biochemical imbalance in the limbic system...in somnophilia and HYPEROSMIA (heightened sense of smell) - it's also possible that the subject is having too little alpha-waves in their brain or abnormalties in gamma-waves which causes pheromonal supersensitivity or poor reactions to perceived stress or social stress.

In which case you have to figure out if your 'somnophilia' is because of your obsession or because of your anxiety around girls or people in general..could be both - but both can play a role and the latter can reinforce the former.

[Anonymous187 Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Anonymous187]

When I say that it's a hurdle, I mean the erection thing. I don't think the fetish is the problem.

[PanBird Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close PanBird]

They never do...
We'll say the same for everyone. Join the AP90, see a therapist, try to get rid of the fetish, do your kegels.

[LexM Banned Find all posts View Profile Close LexM]

Even if this turns out to be a permanent issue you shouldn't worry, there are lots of treatments. That's why a lot of us are here! Bathmate penis pump is my favorite use and you can get it for pretty good price at www.diabetespenispump.com

[Pirate Retired AdministratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Pirate]

First two posts and both plug a commercial site?
Nay, Laddie.
To the plank.

[Sequoia Tree Senior Member Member of the Month July 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close Sequoia Tree]

First two posts and both plug a commercial site?
Nay, Laddie.
To the plank.

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[corageon Banned Find all posts View Profile Close corageon]

Even if this turns out to be a permanent issue you shouldn't worry, there are lots of treatments. That's why a lot of us are here! Bathmate penis pump is my favorite use and you can get it for pretty good price at www.diabetespenispump.com

First two posts and both plug a commercial site?
Nay, Laddie.
To the plank.

And people wonder why me and many other members who have been here for a while - are totally skeptical of new members...posting in random threads; because 68% of the time - this is how they turn out..it's downright pathetic!

[corageon Banned Find all posts View Profile Close corageon]

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lol, my thoughts exactly!

[Anonymous187 Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Anonymous187]

Well, ignoring the fetish, what do you guys think is going on? I take anti-depressants and sleep aids, but other than that, no foreign substances or anything.

I remember right before I went to my doctor about my depression (thus wasn't taking anything other than sleep aids), I had a girlfriend, and I distinctly remember never having a problem with this. I still had and engaged in my fetish at that time, too. That's why I thought maybe we should ignore it.

Thanks.