30 Year Old Porn Addict, No Previous Sexual Experience, Low Libido

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I am somehow embarrassed to confess this, but here I am and nobody can see my face, right? Well, I'm 30 years old and have had only two sexual experiences. I wrote no experience in the title because in fact they weren't even experiences because I couldn't even get it up. Both of them were escort women so I don't know what was the problem; maybe I was excited, maybe I had a bit too much alcohol, maybe I just didn't feel any attraction. Anyway, after this incident I have always been scared of the possibility of the same thing happening. What if I can't get it up again? So in short, I have never had a sexual intercourse in my life. I have no girlfriend and I think I have lost nearly all my libido. I was with a girl yesterday, we spent some time outside and drank something, and she was a hell of a girl. Amazing tits, amazing face, amazing hands, amazing voice.. I didn't think anything sexual, not even for a second, it just didn't come into my mind. I'm afraid I'm on my way to being asexual and I don't know what to do. Everyone around me hooks up with someone and have sex, but I don't even feel like doing that. I don't have size anxiety as I think my thing is normal, but why on earth I didn't feel even a tiny jolt? I thought if I subconsciously like men, but no, I don't, I know that. I watched porn for years; and some days I masturbated 4 times. Masturbating to porn was the only chance I could use my penis successfully.

I don't know what to do. I stopped watching porn, and I'll reduce my alcohol intake. Do you have any suggestions?

[closed251 Senior Member Member of the Month Nov 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close closed251]

When did you stop watching porn?

I don't think your asexual if you get aroused watching porn.

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Well, I stopped watching it yesterday. Yes I got aroused watching it but the degree of arousal was decreasing in time; for example when I was 23 or something, I got hard in seconds whenever a scene started but in my 30 I needed to stimulate my penis with my hand to get an erection. Maybe it became something quite ordinary so my body didn't react as it had reacted before.

[closed251 Senior Member Member of the Month Nov 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close closed251]

Well you have just stopped watching porn so I think you need to give yourself time to adjust. You're use to getting sexual arousal from extreme images.

Also I believe with age, men take more time to get hard. Again this is normal and part of the aging process.

Another factor could be that you just didn't fancy her. It happens even with people whom are considered hot.

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Thank you so much for the help. Just in case, I tried to masturbate by looking at pictures of random wome on internet to see if it still works, and it works. Those were normal pictures and no genitals were exposed. Maybe I need to stop stimulating myself with my hand to adjust my brain to the normal.

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Falling out of love with your hand can be a challenge, however, not impossible.

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Falling out of love with your hand can be a challenge, however, not impossible.

Yes, especially after more than 10 years of a solid relationship. There was a time I could get rock hard just by imagining. I want to go back to those days again so I'll try not to touch it for a while and I sincerely hope my body will adjust to it.

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Sounds like a worthwhile goal !

[Big Al AdministratorPEGym EditorMale Enhancement Coach Rep.PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Big Al]

A period of adjustment is to be expected when kicking the porn habit.

Please review the following at your convenience: The Detraining Effect: Understanding and Reversing Negative Habits To Improve Erection Quality and Sexual Confidence

[U_OZKAN Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close U_OZKAN]

A period of adjustment is to be expected when kicking the porn habit.

Please review the following at your convenience: The Detraining Effect: Understanding and Reversing Negative Habits To Improve Erection Quality and Sexual Confidence

Wow, this is exactly what I needed. What an awesome article, so helpful and full of information. Thank you so much, Big Al.

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You're most welcome- and thanks!