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I got divorced a year ago from the girl I had been with for 14 years since I was 16. My first sexual encounter afterwards was a disaster. The sex lasted a couple minutes but I came 3 times and was extremely embarrassed and then even when using a condom all 3 times I started asking the girl if she was on birth control and if she needed a morning after pull.
Now I've got a great girlfriend and weve moved in together. The sex started out pretty great. I had no anxiety on my end and I felt pretty great about it and she said she enjoyed it. Then we started having some issues in bed with it hurting her and she started talking about previous encounters and guys lasting for hours and that's never been something I could do. I started getting anxiety I wasnt good enough for her and lost an erection during sex. I was crushed..... I felt like dying. I went from doing alright to try and do more and lost it all..... well it started getting better and sex got back to normal for me and then I came and lost my erection completely..... now I can get an erection but I spend the whole time worrying about losing it. I can normally cum once and keep going without any major changes in my erection quality but now it starts out softer and as soon as I cum it's over. I'd like to say I last some awesome time but it's more like a couple minutes till I go and then it's gone...... I've tried kegels, edging, stop start...... none of it is fixing my head and it's getting more difficult to talk her into sex when it always ends so abruptly and weve tried the oral and other things but she wants the fully erect penetrative love....... I love everything about this girl and she obviously loves me since she still hasnt left me yet. Our relationship is perfect we give each other everything we want except for the sex lately. It kills her because she keeps saying she isnt sexy enough or that I must still want my ex wife but that isnt the case at all. I have no clue how to fix this. How have some of you felt with and fixed this problem? I did get a generic viagra prescription but she is very against me needing pills to have sex with her. A couple friends said they had similar problems and used the pills to get over the hump and get the confidence back. I haven't been able to try them out with her because I never am able to time it right and cialis is so expensive and my insurance wont cover it. She did say she was willing to try a delay spray to see if I can last longer before cumming if that can make the sex long enough for her to get there. I also made an appointment with a therapist to try and work out other anxiety issues I have. I've thought about antidepressants but I read so much about them killing erections completely. Is there anything natural or exercise wise I can do?
Now I've got a great girlfriend and weve moved in together. The sex started out pretty great. I had no anxiety on my end and I felt pretty great about it and she said she enjoyed it. Then we started having some issues in bed with it hurting her and she started talking about previous encounters and guys lasting for hours and that's never been something I could do. I started getting anxiety I wasnt good enough for her and lost an erection during sex. I was crushed..... I felt like dying. I went from doing alright to try and do more and lost it all..... well it started getting better and sex got back to normal for me and then I came and lost my erection completely..... now I can get an erection but I spend the whole time worrying about losing it. I can normally cum once and keep going without any major changes in my erection quality but now it starts out softer and as soon as I cum it's over. I'd like to say I last some awesome time but it's more like a couple minutes till I go and then it's gone...... I've tried kegels, edging, stop start...... none of it is fixing my head and it's getting more difficult to talk her into sex when it always ends so abruptly and weve tried the oral and other things but she wants the fully erect penetrative love....... I love everything about this girl and she obviously loves me since she still hasnt left me yet. Our relationship is perfect we give each other everything we want except for the sex lately. It kills her because she keeps saying she isnt sexy enough or that I must still want my ex wife but that isnt the case at all. I have no clue how to fix this. How have some of you felt with and fixed this problem? I did get a generic viagra prescription but she is very against me needing pills to have sex with her. A couple friends said they had similar problems and used the pills to get over the hump and get the confidence back. I haven't been able to try them out with her because I never am able to time it right and cialis is so expensive and my insurance wont cover it. She did say she was willing to try a delay spray to see if I can last longer before cumming if that can make the sex long enough for her to get there. I also made an appointment with a therapist to try and work out other anxiety issues I have. I've thought about antidepressants but I read so much about them killing erections completely. Is there anything natural or exercise wise I can do?
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