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Pegasus · 02-19-2016, 11:42 PM

Life crisis was something that allways came up onsite that we had difficulty knowing how to deal with . Head issues can be so complex . Certainly beyond my provence. I do help guys with premature ejaculation and wow sometimes that really helps their outlook .

Now we set up a new sub forum to bring more attention to situations like your own . Would you like me to move the thread there?

CUSP82 · 02-20-2016, 07:45 AM

Love, kindness, caring, compassion satisfies a woman far more than a dick.

TheZZMan · 02-20-2016, 08:31 AM

Depression comes in many forms and everyone deals with it in different ways. Frankly, sometimes just realizing that you have a problem is half the battle. Talking about it and being honest with yourself can be a positive influence as well. From your words, not everything in life is easy, your father was wise to teach your the value of a hard days work. Unfortunately, life itself also requires some work and an effort. So sitting home feeling sorry when your friends are out having fun is a classic sign of depression. That feeling is self perpetuating until you initiate some sort of change. If you sit and wait for the phone to ring and your friends ask you to join them, then justify your mood by saying you were not invited, then you are also part of the problem. Sometimes, you need to invite yourself as your friends didn't realize that you wanted to join them (they are not mind readers). Or you could be like me, and get invited all the time, not go and then tell myself that I never get invited - how backwards is that. So, I suffered from depression and had similar thoughts to what I read in your story. Went years before discussing with my doctor. Spent a year on anxiety medications until I realized it was me that was holding me back and not life. I forced myself to get involved, I forced myself to go hang with friends and I forced myself to not let gloom and doom control my life. Waking up on the right side of the bed each day and looking at the positive things to happen that day is a good place to start.

closed260 · 02-20-2016, 10:52 AM

I couldn't tell from your post if you had a girlfriend that actually said she was unsatisfied, or if you do not regularly have sex and because of that feared a woman would be unsatisfied.

CUSP is right, and I think the "skills" of lovemaking can be practiced and in time mastered.

Also, I'm not sure the quotes you mentioned sound meaningless to me. Perhaps what was missed was the emotion in a spoken voice that we don't get in written form. I believe those comments are trying to point out that stress kills erections and that PE is usually not a quick process. So that advice may have been intended as their most sincere and meaningful: make sure you are enjoying the process and not stressing on whether or not you see immediate gains.

I think the same could be said for courtship, seduction, sex, etc.

Big Al · 02-20-2016, 11:08 AM

Originally posted by hahapoundz View Post

...I didn't see any empathy in this forum, no empathy at all...

The sincerest of apologies if this derails your post, but with all due respect I don't think you've done a lot of observing if you haven't detected any empathy on this forum.

That being said, part of depression for some is seeing things in a light where you can't see empathy even when it's right in front of you.

If you are in that state then we can talk with you here- and there are a lot of us here who care, but the help you need may be of the professional variety.

ggot · 02-20-2016, 11:15 AM

Oh Dude why are you putting all of this on your DICK SIZE?
Dad and your interp' fucked you up!
Okay mine did too and I am gay so size is a REAL BIG deal---
You know what? Only for the superficial ass holes who think so.
Stop Breathe insecure thoughts plague us all ( gay-straight) whatever.
Relax try to have some fun and grow into the other stuff that is alive around you.
If you want a bigger DICK okay but it ain't about the cunt-ass you are getting.
It is about you being happy and proud that you are being MORE ALIVE!!!!!!!!!
Know this is a bit long winded-- Hope you will consider!
I wish you the best-use what works!!!!!!!

Qandisa · 02-20-2016, 11:56 PM

Originally posted by hahapoundz View Post

No amount of money can change the fact that I can't satisfy a woman, so what's the point of all of this? What's the point of all of my hard work trying not to be average, trying to be someone successful? In the end of the day, if I can't even satisfy the woman I love, to hell with the money.

Alright, where on earth did you get that idea?!

First of all, yes your penis size is below the actual average point number. But that doesn't mean that you're not able to satisfy a woman. For one thing you're not all that far below average. But the most important thing to remember is that your penis size is NOT the most important factor when it comes to satisfying a woman. Really. Penis size is one of the LEAST important factors that go into being a good lover. There have been many discussions on this topic here, and all of them pretty much go the same way - all the women on here say that penis size is not nearly as important as other aspects, and then a bunch of guys tell us we're wrong and how all women want really big dicks.

I don't know why guys don't listen to the actual women that are here when we say what we actually like, and want, and enjoy.

Darthic · 02-22-2016, 10:02 AM

Hey there

Originally posted by hahapoundz View Post

Hello PE gym members,

I've been on this site many times throughout the years, but I never actually grew attached enough to this community/forum to actually be committed and make an account and stuff like that (yes, I'm a really lazy person.) For example, I've seen new people ask some interesting questions or looking for serious advice about their sex life, problems, but many users give very simple and meaningless answers, like: "Just do some PE bro, you'll be good!" or "Stay consistent for _ many months and then move on to more complex exercises to FINALLY get an inch and then CONTINUE to maintain that inch", etc. I didn't see any empathy in this forum, no empathy at all and that turned me away many times.

Anyways, I would always think in my head that I have time to worry about my dick later (about 5" hard maybe a little less) because I have other things on my mind. I've always wanted to be successful as a kid, probably because of my hard working father busy with business, always telling me to aim at the top and never settle for less. I always thought throughout my teenage years thought that when I'm making a lot of money and living an amazing life; I'll be set, but I forgot something. No amount of money can change the fact that I can't satisfy a woman, so what's the point of all of this? What's the point of all of my hard work trying not to be average, trying to be someone successful? In the end of the day, if I can't even satisfy the woman I love, to hell with the money.

I'm clouded with this depression and sudden realization and feel COMPLETELY isolated. I feel so alone, no one to share my problems or thoughts with; and while I'm on here typing this post, I'm not expecting much at all due to my past experiences on this forum, but I need to vent so I'm just pouring my thoughts out...

My insecurities have grown so much that I no longer go out anymore while my friends are out till 4 AM going to parties, having sex and doing what guys love to do; all while I'm here thinking: "Why me?"

I would really appreciate all of your stories and how you guys are doing now

I can somewhat relate to what you are going through. Growing up I had athletics to keep my confidence high in high school and in college. However taking showers with the team poke at my ego a little mainly because I'm a grower. Hell, in college I got teased for it and at that time I started to alienate myself from my teammates. Fortunately I've had my share of women and was able to experiment and honed in my skills but my insecurities always got the better of me. I've always figured that size mattered regardless of what anyone tell you and thru my experience, if you are not good a sex than the x factor is, "The size!" Your size nowadays is a determing factor on if one would have a LTR or not. Ive have 3 LTR's in my life and 2 i know left me for someone bigger. Considering I'm black, i have to contend with the BBC myth and that makes it worth. To top it off, I have mommy issues!?!?

I'm almost in the same boat size wise and realizing this earlier in my life and tried to work on my skills but I lack confidence as i got older. Even when I look throughout the forum, i see members on the website that's bigger than me. Yeah its discouraging. One things for sure, I have been doing PE now for about 6 weeks and it's starting to make me feel good about myself. Reading the PE forum to get a womans perspective is also insightful. Confidence is what young ladies proclaim is a major attractor for a men, not his member size. Especially in the bedroom, women can sense confidence and if you don't have it, it ruins everything about you. Mentally she doesn't want to be submissive to someone that not confident and physically, well believe me when I tell you when a young looks at you when you standing there, dong hanging in from of her and you don't exude some type of confidence, you might as well get her ready for the next guy and I guarantee he's going to f**k her light outs. Not to mention having no confidence justifies your insecurities to her. Now in saying this, I do have moments of despair. Ive have my suicidal thoughts due to my member size but reached out to members on the forum for guidance. They have actually save me some money by not going back to my therapist. Just this past weekend I didn't leave to go anywhere. I've become introverted as of late but I found time for PE. The point I'm trying to make it's self gratifying and it really get me through my low moments. Achieved minimal gains thus far but I've reminded consistent.

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