Lost in life

[Dzordzi Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Dzordzi]

Hey everyone!

Lately I have plenty of time to think, since I moved away from one place to another, where I do not know anyone. I started to think a lot about girls and me. What I have achieved in my life with girls, from how many girls I have got attention ect.
In fact I came to conclusion that my life is not so colorful as life of average dude in his early twenties.

I would even say that I have started to hate girls (majority of them) because they are not interested in me. Personally I think that I am handsome and intelligent, and thats what make me so confused. I have my own opinions, never follow the trends, and thats mostly why I am so mixed with, why I never had I girlfriend (I consider myself good material for partner). Some girls even told me that I am good looking. Out of this group 2 said that they are surprised that I have no girl (never had).

I am pretty much afraid that this state of mind might shift in to full hatred of woman. I think I don't want to allow it.

Even though I have well payed job (as for my age) and good future predictions i feel somehow lost. That I don't belong into current society. There is even no one to speak with since all girls do facebook on their phones all the time!

Could you guys/girs give me some valuable hints of how to find myself in this crazy world? Pls. don't advise me any of those mental care doctors since I don't see need to speak with any of them...

[Dzordzi Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Dzordzi]

I would only add that only thing that holds me relatively stable is GYM and PE <3

[closed251 Senior Member Member of the Month Nov 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close closed251]

Firstly you need to try and stop your negative thinking. Hating a whole group of people is madness. I don't personally believe you should hate anyone and always should seek to find compassion, if you can with people who have done you wrong.

Secondly you need to get out there and meet people. Not everyone will like you, you'll not like everyone you meet. But you'll not feel as lonely chatting to people. I talk to everyone. You'll be amazed how interesting people are.

You said you have moved somewhere new? If there social events that go on? In the UK if you go to your local library there will be posts up for groups and events.

If everything you say above is true I would say your probably lacking in social skills. We all have work on these skills, for some they come easier than for others.

[everydaynormalguy Senior Member Member of the Month Dec 2017 Find all posts View Profile Close everydaynormalguy]

I can relate 90 % of what you said.I had some GFs and some lady lovers and such stuff,but overall feeling dissapointed by women.The sad turth is pretty stupid,but I find it to be true.All guys that I know that are getting laid a lot are assholes.I mean really just saying bad things to GFs for no reason and even slapping them and being violent.And women call them back.Some of this guys are just very good looking(no homo) ,but many are really not something special,just assholes and they still get attention.It looks like it`s all about pushing women down and trying to make yourself be above them.Then it`s like a TV commercial-"that`s a really good deal" kind of thing.I am great and you are stupid so it`s a good thing for you to be with me.Sorry some people are going to call it confidence,I think that the line between "just an asshole" and confidence it`s very thin.No more mr. nice guy!If you are very kind and supporting with them, you are not interesting anymore and they are going to take a crap on your pillow.I know that you are probably a rational person and that sounds really stupid and you can`t believe is true....you think "what type of crazy indevidual is not going to love kind and supportive person?"...I don`t get it either,but it looks to be true.Just made her cry a few times and she is going to expect a ring from you.



"I would only add that only thing that holds me relatively stable is GYM and PE <3" - Same here bro That`s exactly the case here with me.

[cashbacter Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close cashbacter]

Hey everyone!

Lately I have plenty of time to think, since I moved away from one place to another, where I do not know anyone. I started to think a lot about girls and me. What I have achieved in my life with girls, from how many girls I have got attention ect.
In fact I came to conclusion that my life is not so colorful as life of average dude in his early twenties.

I would even say that I have started to hate girls (majority of them) because they are not interested in me. Personally I think that I am handsome and intelligent, and thats what make me so confused. I have my own opinions, never follow the trends, and thats mostly why I am so mixed with, why I never had I girlfriend (I consider myself good material for partner). Some girls even told me that I am good looking. Out of this group 2 said that they are surprised that I have no girl (never had).

I am pretty much afraid that this state of mind might shift in to full hatred of woman. I think I don't want to allow it.

Even though I have well payed job (as for my age) and good future predictions i feel somehow lost. That I don't belong into current society. There is even no one to speak with since all girls do facebook on their phones all the time!

Could you guys/girs give me some valuable hints of how to find myself in this crazy world? Pls. don't advise me any of those mental care doctors since I don't see need to speak with any of them...

The nice guy asked: "Where is the divine justice my fellow PEGYM veterans? I'm a good guy and i'm alone but there are a lot of bad boys and they have fun, girls, sex in their lives." Cashbacter answered: "Women perefer bad guys to have fun and good guys to get married and added can you abandon your personality for fun, sex and girls or do you prefer to wait for right person/soulmate without getting lost in trends and thoughts?

[Big Al AdministratorPEGym EditorMale Enhancement Coach Rep.PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Big Al]

Cockiness is often taken for confidence. They are NOT the same thing! One who's confident has a higher level of perspective. This enables them to make more educated choices on potential partners.

[cashbacter Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close cashbacter]

Cockiness is often taken for confidence. They are NOT the same thing! One who's confident has a higher level of perspective. This enables them to make more educated choices on potential partners.

Big Al you are older than me and you have more life experience than me but with all my respects i have to say what i've seen in my life makes me agree with everydaynormalguy's thoughts.

[Dzordzi Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Dzordzi]

Firstly you need to try and stop your negative thinking. Hating a whole group of people is madness. I don't personally believe you should hate anyone and always should seek to find compassion, if you can with people who have done you wrong.

Secondly you need to get out there and meet people. Not everyone will like you, you'll not like everyone you meet. But you'll not feel as lonely chatting to people. I talk to everyone. You'll be amazed how interesting people are.

I think you are speaking very wisely. Bad news is, that I know all of it. Just sth. inside of me is fighting with my brain. Kind of second personality xD (don't take me as a weirdo it is only metaphor xD). Somehow all people I have met were not thinkers. Their conversation was mostly based on what kind of drugs they took, how they got wasted last time or on how nice sponsored vacations they went. Even older people tend to not have much to say (I was hoping that at work I would meet some clever people but... u know)

Here point is also that in public I am not negative person. I would say I am relatively open. Just inside of me I get frustrated whenever I start to think about deeper stuff.

You said you have moved somewhere new? If there social events that go on? In the UK if you go to your local library there will be posts up for groups and events.

Actually this one I didn't think of. I am going to check it out. Maybe I'll meet some thinkers in library =D

[Dzordzi Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Dzordzi]

I can relate 90 % of what you said.I had some GFs and some lady lovers and such stuff,but overall feeling dissapointed by women.The sad turth is pretty stupid,but I find it to be true.All guys that I know that are getting laid a lot are assholes.I mean really just saying bad things to GFs for no reason and even slapping them and being violent.And women call them back.Some of this guys are just very good looking(no homo) ,but many are really not something special,just assholes and they still get attention.It looks like it`s all about pushing women down and trying to make yourself be above them.Then it`s like a TV commercial-"that`s a really good deal" kind of thing.I am great and you are stupid so it`s a good thing for you to be with me.Sorry some people are going to call it confidence,I think that the line between "just an asshole" and confidence it`s very thin.No more mr. nice guy!If you are very kind and supporting with them, you are not interesting anymore and they are going to take a crap on your pillow.I know that you are probably a rational person and that sounds really stupid and you can`t believe is true....you think "what type of crazy indevidual is not going to love kind and supportive person?"...I don`t get it either,but it looks to be true.Just made her cry a few times and she is going to expect a ring from you.



"I would only add that only thing that holds me relatively stable is GYM and PE <3" - Same here bro That`s exactly the case here with me.

I understand your point of view fully, since I am brainwashing myself with MGTOW since some time hahahhah =D

I think this song fits her perfectly. Hope it is not against regulations of this forum =D

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xfeys7Jfnx8

[Dzordzi Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Dzordzi]

The nice guy asked: "Where is the divine justice my fellow PEGYM veterans? I'm a good guy and i'm alone but there are a lot of bad boys and they have fun, girls, sex in their lives." Cashbacter answered: "Women perefer bad guys to have fun and good guys to get married and added can you abandon your personality for fun, sex and girls or do you prefer to wait for right person/soulmate without getting lost in trends and thoughts?

I prefer to wait but it is driving me crazy... I don't want to drive some old used Passat that is broken, has 790'000 km done and had 50 owners. Just don't understand me wrong I don't need brand new Ferrari neither

I hope you get what I mean.

[closed251 Senior Member Member of the Month Nov 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close closed251]

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Here point is also that in public I am not negative person. I would say I am relatively open. Just inside of me I get frustrated whenever I start to think about deeper stuff D

Well you can always create threads here to discuss topics especially ones you feel you're over thinking.

We'll all chip in our thoughts.

[Pegasus AdministratorPE Gym EditorPEGym Hero ☺ Admin of the Month Mar 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close Pegasus]

Look from what I have seen the miss right will just happen along when you don't expect her is utter bs . Might work for women because men pursue them .
Likewise the normal clichés "just be yourself " is a good example.

A tip here people don't always expect people to show their smarts the instant you see them .

You can be too nice . Have people meet you half way if you are doing stuff for them they should be doing stuff for you. If they don't treat yu right do not put up with it.

[Big Al AdministratorPEGym EditorMale Enhancement Coach Rep.PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Big Al]

Big Al you are older than me and you have more life experience than me but with all my respects i have to say what i've seen in my life makes me agree with everydaynormalguy's thoughts.

How does what Everydaynormalguy's post conflict with mine?

You may very well attract a partner (or multiple partners) with a cocky attitude, but you should be prepared for their emotional shortcomings as a consequence of this.

Remember: you very much attract what you put out. If the goal is quality in a relationship then resorting to emotional head games isn't the way to go.

[everydaynormalguy Senior Member Member of the Month Dec 2017 Find all posts View Profile Close everydaynormalguy]

"Remember: you very much attract what you put out. If the goal is quality in a relationship then resorting to emotional head games isn't the way to go."

I agree here, Big Al.You need to be yourself if you want serious partner because you can`t play games all of your life with that person.

But I think that OP wants just a little interest from the female half of the population.I think he doesn`t want something serious-life long releationship.Just to get a chick and to feel good.

[7BootyK Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close 7BootyK]

Start meditating on a daily basis and watch how your life fills with colors.