I am so pissed right now!!

[007 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close 007]

Okay, so here's the thing, I had been seeing this girl, but she totally stood me up today!! I met her a while ago at the laundromat where she appraoched me, I did not try to pick her up at all. Then the next time we saw each other, she was all over me with affection and I felt crazy huge sparks....and so it went. I knew I was in trouble because when I would see her I would get those silly, giddy little feelings in my stomach.

Well, today we were to meet and I was going to take her out for her birthday, she picked the time and place to meet. So I decided to do something sweet, yet now I just feel stupid and corny. I got her a card, a gift and a cake, and loaded all this up on my 4-wheeler with a blanket and some wine and two glasses in a picknic basket. I planned to pick her up, then we'd hop on the quad, and I'd take her to the top of a nearby mountain where we could have a glass of wine and I could read her a poem I wrote her. I spent the morning over haulin' the 4-wheelers carbs so it would run smoothly, then excitedly I got all spiffed up and went to meet her. I waited for over an hour, and she did not show, no calls nor responses to mine....no nothing!!!!
I saw a mutual friend, who upon hearing this texted her and asked her what was up. She played stupid at first, then relented and simply said tell him 'I'm sorry....I don't want him!'.......WHAT ARE YOU KIDDING ME?!?!!!

I am absolutely livid. 1) she hit on me, it was not me persuing her. 2) she did not even have the guts to tell me herself. 3) I'm in financial trouble because of an injury in december which I have no insurance to pay for it, so instead of paying bills or buying basic nessecities for myself I am out spend all kinds of money on her for a romantic birthday. 4) Rejection just flat out stings, no matter how big and bad a person is.

This is not as bad as what that chick did to gator, but I am completely f#ckin pissed off. I am really starting to believe that true romance is dead, if it ever existed at all. I know alot of really caring, romatic guys that simply get walked on like a cheap doormat. I remember a thread where batwoman was sayin that to live without love is a sterile existance...'tis better to have loved and lost, than never to have loved at all...etc. etc.

Well I'll tell ya, I have not had a sterile existance, I have loved, I have felt the chemicals and passion and the soaring highs, but I have also felt the lows when everthing falls apart....and you know what, the pleasure of the highs does not outweigh the pain of the lows, for me anyways. For those who have never experienced romantic love or the chemicals and passion, then yes, by all means experience it and do not hide from it. So I have been there and felt what there is, thus I have not had a sterile existance, or hidden away to avoid pain. But I am of the mind now that the pain and all the bullsh#t is really not worth the fleeting pleasure, and that females are not worth it to me anymore (no offense to any females). I think this true love thing is highly overrated and used primarily to sell Disney movies.

It works out for some, and my heart rejoices for them, but for the rest of us nice, kind hearted fellas, it is always just out of reach. I would rather be alone and on an even keel emotionally, than feel the lows when you put your heart into something that never was to begin with. I am still a hopeless romantic at heart, and I am not trying to hide away a coward in order to avoid pain, but like I said 'been there done that' and it's just not cost effective anymore, to put it in economic terms. You can still have a meaningful life filled with love for others..family, friends etc.. even without a romantic partner. And I am sick to death of hearing "you just haven't met the right one yet" or "there is someone out there for you"...this may be true but at the same time it is bullsh#t!!!!

I am just so pissed, I am furious. She entered my space, persued me, then nonchalantly kicked me to the curb with a TEXT to a mutual friend!!! Anyway, I just needed to vent. There are many wonderful females out there, I wish everyone the best with their encounters of romantic love. After countless clusterf#cks such as this...I am tough, and I will simply swallow my hurt and get on with life....by myself.
I just....... what was I thinking....F########CK!!!!

[Pirate Retired AdministratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Pirate]

Damn, man, that is awful! I am very very sorry. She is a horrible person and the farther she is from you the better! Yikes!

[searcher Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close searcher]

man, I feel you. I don't go into the game of love until she feels the same way. Been rejected to before to many times, now I test the pool before i jump in. Love can make you crazy things, don't blame yourself, I am the same way with my friends, even though I don't have money and sometimes in trouble with it, I still spend some to show how much they mean to me. And venting is good, holding all the negative feeling is just not good. Don't worry, time will pass and before you know it your happy again! Hey I am here to help if you need it, (sorry if this sounds weird, its just a need to help people who are down, I don't like it when I see other people down, like I said I'll help in anyway to bring the back up again.)

[NSF001 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close NSF001]

Tough times 007,

Generally, after my last relationship. I am unwilling to approach women or if they do approach me, do something about it. I wish you the best; don't do anything too extreme. You will find somebody someday that will work out for you, however, don't passively wait for that.

[MrBigDick Retired ModeratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close MrBigDick]

Awwww man 007, I'm am so sorry bro. That sucks and she should be totally ashamed of herself for acting in such a rude, hurtful manner. All of the effort you went through for her birthday, putting your own bills in jeopardy for her and to have her tell a friend via text message that she doesn't want you is just...............well, it's just plain inconceivable and just wrong. She didn't even have the guts to face you. How cowardly.

I know this may or may not bring solace to you 007 but this undeserving woman acted in a highly inappropriate manner and has now created ALOT of bad, very bad karma for herself. Trust me 007, she's going to get hers. The karma Gods will see to it.

[Radiohead Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Radiohead]

Sorry man...just eat the cake, drink the wine and chill. Watch some TV... you'll get the next chick that comes by

[millia Senior Member;PEGym Editor Find all posts View Profile Close millia]

Sorry to hear that bro, what a female dog. If I were you I'd jizz all over the cake multiple times and go give it to her and hope she eats the whole thing.

Anyways on a more serious note, karma is going to be a bitch when it comes back around to slap her in the mouth.

[007 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close 007]

Thanks for the words guys. I knew the low would hit me...I can't sleep and my appetite is gone, the air seems colder and the colors around me seem duller. I think rejection and lonliness are the two of the most horrible experiences of the human condition. Like many of you, I have felt the various hurts and pains life has to throw at us, but these two seem to cut to the quick and decimate the warmth of my soul...maybe it's just me. And this is why my heart bleeds for others who hurt or have been used and discarded like soiled diapers.

With the enormous chasm between males and females these days, I seriously wonder if men and women were really meant to co-habitate let alone sustain any semblance of romantic love, 'making it work for the sake of the children' notwithstanding. True love, together forever, soul mates....these are fairytale concepts flaunted about in order to sell commodities; books, movies, songs etc. And Romeo and Juliet conquering the world with only their love....well, I'd put something snyde and cynical here but I am so uninspired right now. I have that movie Hero and the part that I have always loved is when the male lover dies, the female, unable to bear life without him, kills herself....I have always found this profound and beautiful. But again it is fantasy and it is my fault for buying into such notions. Maybe at one time in history males and females had this level of devotion but not now.

Like most people do in this situation, I just keep going over everything that was ever said, wondering what I did, how someone could be so cruel and uncaring, and why I am so undesirable! I was sweet and thoughtful, I was a gentleman and did not push anything sexual in any way whatsoever, I followed her lead. And It also pisses me off that now I am on here writing all this crap and exposing everyone to the fact that I am a mere mortal who has weaknesses and can be hurt. I hate that everyone now see's me as weak damaged goods, a pussy....I am usually the one offering my shoulder to others....I hate this. Now any advice I offer will ring hollow because I fell for the same b.s. as every other warm blooded male. I hate being seen this way, I have an iron exterior 99.5% of the time. But I needed to vent.

A friend told me that I need to move to Australia, because the female/male ratio is like 8 to 1 and unlike american woman, Australian woman treat their men good and they love Americans (his words not mine). Just curious, Rock o' Fox or Pegasus....is that based in fact at all or is he talking out his ear. But I guess it is wicked hard to be allowed in the country.

I'm just rambling now huh?, so I guess it's time to try sucking sheets again. And Radio I think I'll let my dog eat the cake, he deserves it, he's the only one in my life that shows unconditional love....either that or he simply sticks around because I feed him, buy him toys, and let him sleep on the bed.

[newbienewb Member Find all posts View Profile Close newbienewb]

Well this is a strange situation. I would really think about why this happened though cause there is a reason. My guess is that you said or did something that pissed/turned her off, or she could have just been using you the whole time.

Something tells me though that a big part of this story is missing. Either you left it out, or are unaware that it even occurred.

[vulcan Retired ModeratorPE Gym EditorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close vulcan]

007 - She sounds like a nasty piece of work. But (whilst I have done the same kind of thing & am not being critical) - you flipped the dynamic of the relationship a bit.

She approached you in the first place, without any input from you. Therefore she is kind of attracted to your aloof nature. If you got that rush we all get when we REALLY like someone new, you probably showed too much enthusiasm/started being a bit 'loved up'.

This must have totally reversed the attraction that she initially had for you.

If I am wrong, I apologize. I am also not really advocating becoming a player type, because you do not sound that way in your heart of hearts.

I just think better to see a reason, otherwise you start taking the rejection massively personally & getting depressed. Good to do some weight training at these times.

[NP97 Retired ModeratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close NP97]

I know the feeling man, and that sucks. Words cannot describe how shitty that is.

You'll be fine in time. Like MrBD said... Karma.