Never had a sex life. Have had sex less than 20x. Waste of a life.

[DeMi-GoD Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close DeMi-GoD]

Feel like I'm going through a midlife crisis at age 28. I turn 29 in 3 months. Feel like my youth is over and my "prime" is gone. I've only had sex with 7 women. I've probably had sex less than 20 times. Extreme size anxiety and other issues has kept me from having a sex life. Last I measured I was 6.8 bpel but it still feels small to me, probably because of an inch fat pad. Now I'm finally starting to feel more confident yet I'm almost 30. I hear that's when testosterone starts to drop and guys start having diminishing sex drives. To make me feel even worse, people have always told me how good looking I am and should be sleeping with the most beautiful women. All of this wasted time and missed experiences has me deeply depressed and often have messed up thoughts. I just feel like I've wasted my youth. My confidence is in the gutter. I'm either too depressed to get out of bed or I'm racing around stressed out trying to make up for lost time. I just don't know what to do anymore.

[CUSP82 Administrator Admin of the Month Dec 2014PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close CUSP82]

Try getting out of bed, stop acting like a little kid, and do something with your life. Tough talk I know but you got a better idea?

[Zackx Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Zackx]

bro the average is 5" and you're worrying when you're 6.8PBEL?

Rest assured, there is nothing to worry about. There will always be some people bigger than you, but there'll always be people smaller than you. I think you're on the higher end of the average which some may even consider big.

You got this broski, go get out and get em tiger

[Yotguy Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Yotguy]

Feel like I'm going through a midlife crisis at age 28. I turn 29 in 3 months. Feel like my youth is over and my "prime" is gone. I've only had sex with 7 women. I've probably had sex less than 20 times. Extreme size anxiety and other issues has kept me from having a sex life. Last I measured I was 6.8 bpel but it still feels small to me, probably because of an inch fat pad. Now I'm finally starting to feel more confident yet I'm almost 30. I hear that's when testosterone starts to drop and guys start having diminishing sex drives. To make me feel even worse, people have always told me how good looking I am and should be sleeping with the most beautiful women. All of this wasted time and missed experiences has me deeply depressed and often have messed up thoughts. I just feel like I've wasted my youth. My confidence is in the gutter. I'm either too depressed to get out of bed or I'm racing around stressed out trying to make up for lost time. I just don't know what to do anymore.

Man you have no problems! You are bigger than me and I have and have had a full and excellent sex life. Never any complaints! Although I would admit I have had many partners I never notched them on my stick. Every one was special. Who ever said you need to have many? IF you only found one that was wonderful and lived your whole life with only that one it would be a blessing! It's about sharing not proving anything. Don't sweat your age. I am 65 and going strong! Go out and enjoy your self and learn to GIVE! You will receive back manifold times.

[LeafyGreens Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close LeafyGreens]

Just see a therapist to work on the head issues, man, because your perspective is really skewed by your depression and anxiety. Your whole life will be brighter once you get through those.

Male prime is just beginning, buddy. You not only have time, but you have an ABUNDANCE of time. Met my current wife at age 36, and she was 28. She looks like a model, and men drool over her everywhere she goes. NO WAY I could have snagged her at age 25. I was a dipshit.

[not2big Senior Super ModeratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close not2big]

When I was 28, I had only been with two women and had sex many four times. Fourth-seven years later I still have sex four or five times a week and that is with ED.

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Feel like I'm going through a midlife crisis at age 28. I turn 29 in 3 months. Feel like my youth is over and my "prime" is gone. I've only had sex with 7 women. I've probably had sex less than 20 times.

"Prime" is just an outdated idea. 50 is the new 30.

Extreme size anxiety and other issues has kept me from having a sex life. Last I measured I was 6.8 bpel but it still feels small to me, probably because of an inch fat pad. Now I'm finally starting to feel more confident yet I'm almost 30. I hear that's when testosterone starts to drop and guys start having diminishing sex drives.

Ha! Don't believe that. I had far more sex in my 30s than my 20s, and double that for my 40s. (50s, here I come). It is all about how you think and feel. My sex drive now is far stronger than when I was young.

To make me feel even worse, people have always told me how good looking I am and should be sleeping with the most beautiful women. All of this wasted time and missed experiences has me deeply depressed and often have messed up thoughts. I just feel like I've wasted my youth. My confidence is in the gutter. I'm either too depressed to get out of bed or I'm racing around stressed out trying to make up for lost time. I just don't know what to do anymore.

Get over it. You are here, so do some PE. Get your BPEL up to 7. And try this: don't look at your erection. Do exercises just by feel. Out perception screws up how we see our own erections. So do some work blind. Be careful, and be aware, Do it for a month or so and when you do finally see your erection again you'll be surprised at how big it looks.

Get moving. You mention in another thread that you work out. Great. Do cardio. Do yoga. Get in great shape and help yourself.

Change your thinking. It takes work. Just like exercise. Every time you have a negative thought, banish it. You actually have to do it manually. Do not dwell on bad thoughts, make an effort to think positively. Everyday take time to meditate. Ten minutes. Just breath, and clear the head. Count your breaths. If a stray thought pops into your head, stop, start counting breaths again. After a while it will become easier to banish negative feelings.

[BvckWood Banned Find all posts View Profile Close BvckWood]

You've been moping around because you aren't young anymore? Since you can't turn back time, keep moving forward. Take advantage of the time you have now before you will end up being 50 saying the same thing.

[Dontrike Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Dontrike]

Wait....you've actually had sex and had no sex life? Boy what does that make me being 30 and a virgin.

Feel like I'm going through a midlife crisis at age 28. I turn 29 in 3 months. Feel like my youth is over and my "prime" is gone. I've only had sex with 7 women. I've probably had sex less than 20 times.

Those all sound like some good numbers. Guy, I'm 30 and don't have much in this world right now, that's feeling the "prime is gone". You've clearly had some fun and shouldn't feel bad for not having ALL of the sex.

Extreme size anxiety and other issues has kept me from having a sex life. Last I measured I was 6.8 bpel but it still feels small to me, probably because of an inch fat pad. Now I'm finally starting to feel more confident yet I'm almost 30.

The fat pad really won't matter much when you have size like that. You and me have a similar size and I've never felt small because of it. You are quite above average and should feel proud.

To make me feel even worse, people have always told me how good looking I am and should be sleeping with the most beautiful women. All of this wasted time and missed experiences has me deeply depressed and often have messed up thoughts. I just feel like I've wasted my youth. My confidence is in the gutter. I'm either too depressed to get out of bed or I'm racing around stressed out trying to make up for lost time. I just don't know what to do anymore.

Well the first thing you should do is relax. I understand what you mean by feeling like you've wasted something when others tell you what you should be like. For me it was my intelligence. I was always told how amazing I will be, what things I can do, and what I could accomplish, but life went another way as I made some decisions and those decisions didn't lead to being some multi millionaire or solving complex issues. I feel like a failure everyday because of that, and I feel even worse when I make small mistakes, believing those that told me that I'm so smart and if I get anything wrong than I'm worthless. Hell, nowadays I absolutely hate being called smart, as it bring up those feelings of inadequacy, but they can only call me how they see me, and it's not their fault I have those feelings.

You have to realize that what people see in you, even the good qualities, is not automatically true (not that I'm calling you ugly or anything). Just because they say those things doesn't mean you should be doing what they think you should be. You don't have to rush to meet their expectations, as it's your life and you should do with it how you wish.

Much like myself you need to gain control of those feelings of inadequacy and realize that those people are not setting you up to fail, nor are telling you that you should be doing that. They want the best for you, but I understand it can feel like you are letting them down by not achieving their viewpoints. Just go out there and have fun with what you got and don't stress about not having ALL of the sex. Honestly, I'd take what you got any day, mostly because the times you had sex is higher than zero.

[Chungungo Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Chungungo]

I am the same as you but for choice ( I am 32and into that crap of becoming a demigod moving my semen to the brain to better at meditation and martial arts) but I know cases of guys in their 60"s that bang 20 something years old girls and do it well. Desire is in the brain while some people are more sexual than others and if your goal is being like doctor Troy you still have plenty of years. Besides nobody knows the future, maybe science will extend life in a good way, retaining youth.

The more you worry or get depressed the more your testosterone goes down.

PD: I get more looks from girls than in my teenager and 20s.

[TheZZMan Moderator Member of the Month Sept 2018PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close TheZZMan]

Well, I'm 56, and have had one of the most sexually fulfilling years of my life with my wife. So, put the old fogey crap aside and start living life. You are well above average so you have nothing to worry about. If you are a watcher of Porn then stop that. Obviously you are not able to handle fantasy that porn presents as you are mixing porn with reality. To gauge yourself against guys that are in the top 1% is not fair to yourself and your depression over it is unfounded.

Go out, find a girl and confidently begin a relationship. Enjoy it for what it is and have fun together. You have not wasted your life over any physical attributes, you are however wasting life on mental insecurities that you need to come to grip with. You are fine, you have a unit that many here would die for. Now, go use it for its intended purpose, you will be happier in the end.