Sex first time 10 months tmrw. Serious performance anxiety.

[DeMi-GoD Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close DeMi-GoD]

I'm planning on having sex for the first time in 10 months tomorrow. Two weeks ago the same girl gave me head. I was extremely nervous beforehand and actually had a mild panic attack in the bathroom before trying to get myself together... Serious size anxiety and performance anxiety. While she gave me head I barely got hard. I was still able to finish though. She knows I do PE and thinks I should stop because she already thinks I'm big which doesn't make sense to me because I'm only 6.8 bpel and my fat pad is over an inch. Anyways, I really don't want to have this performance anxiety again tomorrow night. My main fears are I won't get fully hard or that it'll look small. The other thing is I have to wear a condom with her and I have very limited experience with them. One of my past relationships I had to wear one every time and from what I remember I came every time but yeah, pretty nervous that I'll go soft the second it goes on. What advice do you guys have? I don't want to be like this anymore. Btw usually I hang 2 hours a day and also do jelqs, squeezes, ulis. If I want my penis well rested for high eq should I not do any exercises tonight or tomorrow before I go? Or if I do then tonight will I be recovered by tomorrow night? Thank you.

[Sticke Senior Member Member of the Month March 2018 Find all posts View Profile Close Sticke]

I'm planning on having sex for the first time in 10 months tomorrow. Two weeks ago the same girl gave me head. I was extremely nervous beforehand and actually had a mild panic attack in the bathroom before trying to get myself together... Serious size anxiety and performance anxiety. While she gave me head I barely got hard. I was still able to finish though. She knows I do PE and thinks I should stop because she already thinks I'm big which doesn't make sense to me because I'm only 6.8 bpel and my fat pad is over an inch. Anyways, I really don't want to have this performance anxiety again tomorrow night. My main fears are I won't get fully hard or that it'll look small. The other thing is I have to wear a condom with her and I have very limited experience with them. One of my past relationships I had to wear one every time and from what I remember I came every time but yeah, pretty nervous that I'll go soft the second it goes on. What advice do you guys have? I don't want to be like this anymore. Btw usually I hang 2 hours a day and also do jelqs, squeezes, ulis. If I want my penis well rested for high eq should I not do any exercises tonight or tomorrow before I go? Or if I do then tonight will I be recovered by tomorrow night? Thank you.

I suffered from performance anxiety too. Once you understand that you are not a performer in the sex act put an active passionate part of it then your performance anxiety will be gone. What I did was enjoy her body, caress it and please it and guess what my dongo could pierce a diamond. Also don't workout, rest to preserve energy ! Keep us updated

[Big Al AdministratorPEGym EditorMale Enhancement Coach Rep.PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Big Al]

Don't commit to any specific activity and proceed within your comfort level. Allow your libido to build throughout the session in order to push the boundaries.

If your anxiety is overwhelming even at the thought of minimal activity then you're putting too much pressure on yourself to perform! The encounter should be pleasant, not something to dread!

[closed251 Senior Member Member of the Month Nov 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close closed251]

She likes you, so don't worry about the sex.

If you don't get hard, tell her your nervous because you really like her. Take things slow.

You could also ask her to put the condom on you.

[DeMi-GoD Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close DeMi-GoD]

Thanks for the advice guys. I have about 4-5 hours before I'll be with her. Ive done everything perfect to boost my libido lately.. No porn 64 days, no fap 5 days, multivitamin, Zinc, vitamin D, olive oil, coconut oil, fight oil, fresh juice from my Juicer, eggs everyday, and have lifted lots of weights within the last few days. I even tanned two days in a row naked to let my package get sun. I think my brain is still rebooting from no porn.

Do you guys think I should wear a condom or do the pull out method? She said it's up to me. I've only ever had to pull out once. Finishing inside is my favorite.

[Dance Sucka Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Dance Sucka]

Thanks for the advice guys. I have about 4-5 hours before I'll be with her. Ive done everything perfect to boost my libido lately.. No porn 64 days, no fap 5 days, multivitamin, Zinc, vitamin D, olive oil, coconut oil, fight oil, fresh juice from my Juicer, eggs everyday, and have lifted lots of weights within the last few days. I even tanned two days in a row naked to let my package get sun. I think my brain is still rebooting from no porn.

Do you guys think I should wear a condom or do the pull out method? She said it's up to me. I've only ever had to pull out once. Finishing inside is my favorite.

Always wear a condom unless you both have up-to-date STD/STI tests. Don't ever say "pull out method" either, it doesn't count as a contraceptive.

[burtybasset Retired Moderator Member of the Month May 2014PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close burtybasset]

I would wear a rubber if I were you.

Also practice makes perfect, so get lots of practice and enjoy yourself. Maybe even try enjoying your nerves? Have fun!

[closed251 Senior Member Member of the Month Nov 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close closed251]

I agree with the above. It's not just pregnancy you have to think about.

A lot of sti's have no signs neither but do damage.