Its just not there anymore

[johnny_A1 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close johnny_A1]

I don't ever get more than 10 replies on a thread so really I'll just vent to let it out so I'll feel better today.


I was going strong. I was consistent, doing everything right and making sure I don't get ahead of myself. I was going to the gym, IF'ing and seeing some changes. Then it's like it hit me again. One day I looked at it and felt small. Re-looking at my pictures and I just felt very inadequate. I had stopped fapping because I wanted to see if it'll help out with my gains. I ended started fapping again kuz I thought I'd feel better. I couldn't do it off of thought no more. Insecurities, low self esteem and low confidence got in the way. I only look at amateur porn because it's more realistic. Then I realized, well shit I am on the smaller side. These was recorded cell phone videos too. These past couple of weeks have been a roller coaster. I'm brought back to my past relationships. And yes I have seen a therapist about this. Yes I do realize that I'm average and that to some women average is enough. I'm only 5'4(5'5 on a good day) so the odds are already against me with women. And I'm in America so yes height is def a factor over here. Maybe I'll shake this again but as of right now I'm just not feeling it. I love to do PE because I know there's an end goal and I believe it works. I have the patience and in no rush. However, from time to time I still feel very insecure and inadequate. That mixed in with low self esteem is a horrible ass mixture.

[Pegasus AdministratorPE Gym EditorPEGym Hero ☺ Admin of the Month Mar 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close Pegasus]

Ok so at least you realise what is going on.

[ortega45 Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close ortega45]

johnny, be patient with yourself man. Your mental health is more important than any of this. Life is way too short to get this depressed over your penis. Remind yourself that you are on your own path, your path is unique, and that's what makes you YOU, as cheesy as that sounds. Try your best not to compare yourself with others, instead compare yourself with YOURSELF.

Here's the thing, you're here because you wanna make it better. You want to improve your size, and you've seen from people on this forum that it's absolutely possible. The key to making this change in your size is your consistency, putting in the work month after month, and researching this site and other resources and learning which exercises/methods are the best for your body. When you're 100% committed to something, it doesn't matter what mental hurdle you have going on, you find a way to stay consistent and disciplined and you keep working hard. So stick with it, even through those moments when you look in the mirror and feel like shit. Over time you'll make a change, you just gotta stick with it for many many months and you'll start to feel & see a change... it's all a matter of time. For some people it's quicker, for some it's slower. Most people quit PE, that's just the truth. Gut it out, put the work in, and you'll see a change. If you are putting in the work but aren't seeing a change, you need to do your due diligence and find what you could do better (there's always something to improve), or may be you're not working hard enough. I'm just over 2 months in and I can't believe the changes that are happening. I'm putting in the work, in a major way, and it's paying off. It will for you too bud. Keep at it! Best of luck

[johnny_A1 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close johnny_A1]

johnny, be patient with yourself man. Your mental health is more important than any of this. Life is way too short to get this depressed over your penis. Remind yourself that you are on your own path, your path is unique, and that's what makes you YOU, as cheesy as that sounds. Try your best not to compare yourself with others, instead compare yourself with YOURSELF.

Here's the thing, you're here because you wanna make it better. You want to improve your size, and you've seen from people on this forum that it's absolutely possible. The key to making this change in your size is your consistency, putting in the work month after month, and researching this site and other resources and learning which exercises/methods are the best for your body. When you're 100% committed to something, it doesn't matter what mental hurdle you have going on, you find a way to stay consistent and disciplined and you keep working hard. So stick with it, even through those moments when you look in the mirror and feel like shit. Over time you'll make a change, you just gotta stick with it for many many months and you'll start to feel & see a change... it's all a matter of time. For some people it's quicker, for some it's slower. Most people quit PE, that's just the truth. Gut it out, put the work in, and you'll see a change. If you are putting in the work but aren't seeing a change, you need to do your due diligence and find what you could do better (there's always something to improve), or may be you're not working hard enough. I'm just over 2 months in and I can't believe the changes that are happening. I'm putting in the work, in a major way, and it's paying off. It will for you too bud. Keep at it! Best of luck

Thanks man. I'll keep that in mind

[Bisquick61 Senior Member Member of the Month May 2019 Find all posts View Profile Close Bisquick61]

I definitely wouldn’t give up. It’s a process and you have to trust that it works. Like it has for others here. Please try and keep a clear mind when going through this journey. Men who are above average sometimes question their adequacy, it’s natural.

[johnny_A1 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close johnny_A1]

I definitely wouldn’t give up. It’s a process and you have to trust that it works. Like it has for others here. Please try and keep a clear mind when going through this journey. Men who are above average sometimes question their adequacy, it’s natural.

I've been trying. Going to see how it goes tomorrow

[Hanma Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Hanma]

Dude.
Be good to yourself.

None of your problems are permanent. Your body will become stronger the more you exercise.
Your dick will get bigger the more you do pe.

You know this. You know that you are changing for the better.

The root of your sadness is something else. Perhaps you don't feel confident in yourself enough and this may be your way of keeping yourself in this mindset?

[johnny_A1 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close johnny_A1]

I'm going to take some time off of PE. My mental is not al the way there right now. I'm upset with myself for allowing myself to get back to this place of insecurity again.