Some tips and tricks that will help you reprogram yourself to a better confidence!
Hello all, since shortly i've been researching ways to improve my own mental attitude and self-image. Note I've been working on this for a long time but I belief I am able to share some most valuable tips and tricks that helped me and are still helping me. I'm not claiming I've found Buddha in any way, I merely have found tools you can use to improve yourself.
DO NOTE CHANGE DOES NOT HAPPEN OVERNIGHT
There are some conditions you need to have before you can change though.
1. You need to WANT it badly, you need to put time and effort in(just like p.e, just like everything)
2. You will not believe yourself in the first couple of times, especially if you have a very negative view. This is fine and perfectly normal
3. You need to be able to visualise what you actually want.
4. You need to become process orientated, improving yourself will never stop and is a life-time commitment.
I think that sums up the most important parts, if anyone wants to extend on them please be free to add.
Tool 1: 4 Kinds of self-affirmations
Written affirmations
Written affirmations are well, written affirmations. They don't have to be true at the moment, but they WILL be true if you keep repeating them and commit yourself to them. Your mind has magically the ability to bring what-ever you think about in your life and most of the shit we want, we can get purely by primal instincts. Too bad for us most of us are very smart guys and we think too much
How does this work?
Step 1. Write down 7 affirmations you want to have in your life, or mental attitude you want to change. For easy purposes I will write down my own, note these are solely focussed on woman currently and my own self-esteem you can replace them by anything.
Step 2: Re-write them down daily, FEEL how you feel when you actually start to believe them. The right attitude is like saying out loud DAMN, woman want to fuck me.
Step 3: Keep commited!
Knowledge and Gratitude
These are similar to written affirmations, you write these down aswell. How-ever these are focussed solely on stuff already present in your life. Things you are gratefull for and things you acknowledge you will have(they enforce the written affirmations).
Step 1: Take a sheet of paper, and write down I am gratefull for .... (fill in the blank).
Step 2: Write about half paper full with things your truly gratefull for
Step 3: The next half-page I want you to write down the following I know....(fill in) example : I know woman want to fuck me, I know I'm a fucking ten, I know i'm the price. I know woman want to statisfy me.
Step 4: Do this daily aswell.
Visualisation affirmations
These affirmations are not to be written down but are to be done once or twice daily(or more) upon awakening and upon sleeping(most useable times)
Time:15 minutes
Step 1: The first 5 minutes think about all the stuff that makes you feel good(this is why it's so good to do these upon awakening).
Step 2: The next 10 minutes think about what ideal self-image you have, what your ultimate goal is the perfect you your perfect life(want to have multiple woman? Want one woman who want to-do anything for you? Want to travel the world? What-ever your image is hold it, feel it, breath it. Act as if your already there in those 10 minutes.)
Step 3: Do these daily(these are easiest to keep up with)
Mirror affirmations
Personally I love these the most, they are fucking amazing and they will improve you on multiple levels. This will also increase the connection, eye-contact and stillness/being in the moment when you talk to woman or people in general
Time:20 minutes
And a alarm
Step 1: Go to a mirror, preferable a very big one where you can see yourself completely.
Step 2: Go about 3 inches apart from the mirror with your nose(about 7 cm).
Step 3: Put your alarm on a timer, that it goes off in 5-10 minutes.
Step 4: Look into your right eye, and be still don't move and try to be as still as possible for 5-10 minutes.
Step 5: After those 5-10 minutes start saying your affirmations, and feel them, believe them(your mind will fight with you if your just starting, just tell it to shut the fuck up and see it as a little whiny child).
Step 6: After 5 minutes step back and keep looking in your right-eye, don't break eyecontact. Keep saying the affirmations
Step 7: Walk back, and keep looking finnish the remaining time or if you want put in another extra 5 minutes.
Extra notes:
Note 1: Try to make sure all the affirmations are equally said; if you say 5x your ok with your past also say 5x I love woman.
Note 2: Your mind will fight you in all these affirmations, and look for reasons not to be true. Accept this, and tell your mind to fuck off because your taking control of yourself.
There are more tools that will help you. But I don't want to information overload you guys. Anyone want to start a topic where we will be acountability buddies?
Bjorn89
Hello all, since shortly i've been researching ways to improve my own mental attitude and self-image. Note I've been working on this for a long time but I belief I am able to share some most valuable tips and tricks that helped me and are still helping me. I'm not claiming I've found Buddha in any way, I merely have found tools you can use to improve yourself.
DO NOTE CHANGE DOES NOT HAPPEN OVERNIGHT
There are some conditions you need to have before you can change though.
1. You need to WANT it badly, you need to put time and effort in(just like p.e, just like everything)
2. You will not believe yourself in the first couple of times, especially if you have a very negative view. This is fine and perfectly normal
3. You need to be able to visualise what you actually want.
4. You need to become process orientated, improving yourself will never stop and is a life-time commitment.
I think that sums up the most important parts, if anyone wants to extend on them please be free to add.
Tool 1: 4 Kinds of self-affirmations
Written affirmations
Written affirmations are well, written affirmations. They don't have to be true at the moment, but they WILL be true if you keep repeating them and commit yourself to them. Your mind has magically the ability to bring what-ever you think about in your life and most of the shit we want, we can get purely by primal instincts. Too bad for us most of us are very smart guys and we think too much
How does this work?
Step 1. Write down 7 affirmations you want to have in your life, or mental attitude you want to change. For easy purposes I will write down my own, note these are solely focussed on woman currently and my own self-esteem you can replace them by anything.
- It's oke, to let go of the past.
- I love woman
- Woman love me
- I deserve to have beautifull woman in my life
- I am comfortable having woman in my life
- I am a sexually desirable
- Woman want to fuck me
Step 2: Re-write them down daily, FEEL how you feel when you actually start to believe them. The right attitude is like saying out loud DAMN, woman want to fuck me.
Step 3: Keep commited!
Knowledge and Gratitude
These are similar to written affirmations, you write these down aswell. How-ever these are focussed solely on stuff already present in your life. Things you are gratefull for and things you acknowledge you will have(they enforce the written affirmations).
Step 1: Take a sheet of paper, and write down I am gratefull for .... (fill in the blank).
Step 2: Write about half paper full with things your truly gratefull for
Step 3: The next half-page I want you to write down the following I know....(fill in) example : I know woman want to fuck me, I know I'm a fucking ten, I know i'm the price. I know woman want to statisfy me.
Step 4: Do this daily aswell.
Visualisation affirmations
These affirmations are not to be written down but are to be done once or twice daily(or more) upon awakening and upon sleeping(most useable times)
Time:15 minutes
Step 1: The first 5 minutes think about all the stuff that makes you feel good(this is why it's so good to do these upon awakening).
Step 2: The next 10 minutes think about what ideal self-image you have, what your ultimate goal is the perfect you your perfect life(want to have multiple woman? Want one woman who want to-do anything for you? Want to travel the world? What-ever your image is hold it, feel it, breath it. Act as if your already there in those 10 minutes.)
Step 3: Do these daily(these are easiest to keep up with)
Mirror affirmations
Personally I love these the most, they are fucking amazing and they will improve you on multiple levels. This will also increase the connection, eye-contact and stillness/being in the moment when you talk to woman or people in general
Time:20 minutes
And a alarm
Step 1: Go to a mirror, preferable a very big one where you can see yourself completely.
Step 2: Go about 3 inches apart from the mirror with your nose(about 7 cm).
Step 3: Put your alarm on a timer, that it goes off in 5-10 minutes.
Step 4: Look into your right eye, and be still don't move and try to be as still as possible for 5-10 minutes.
Step 5: After those 5-10 minutes start saying your affirmations, and feel them, believe them(your mind will fight with you if your just starting, just tell it to shut the fuck up and see it as a little whiny child).
Step 6: After 5 minutes step back and keep looking in your right-eye, don't break eyecontact. Keep saying the affirmations
Step 7: Walk back, and keep looking finnish the remaining time or if you want put in another extra 5 minutes.
Extra notes:
Note 1: Try to make sure all the affirmations are equally said; if you say 5x your ok with your past also say 5x I love woman.
Note 2: Your mind will fight you in all these affirmations, and look for reasons not to be true. Accept this, and tell your mind to fuck off because your taking control of yourself.
There are more tools that will help you. But I don't want to information overload you guys. Anyone want to start a topic where we will be acountability buddies?
Bjorn89
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