Problem with Porn

[RIB2211 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close RIB2211]

Hey guys, I've got another maybe serious problem here.

I recently began to recall sexual experiences of the past few years and resurfaced some startling memories. I had a wonderful girlfriend for about two years; beautiful, very sexy, and the sweetest person I could possibly expect to meet. We never had intercourse due to her religion, but oral was very common. She would even do different things to spicen it up (i.e. strip tease). But looking back at it, sometimes during these acts, I would not find myself thinking about her. I wouldn't be thinking about other girls I knew, but of the girls I'd see on my computer. Some times I couldn't get an erection past 70% and could not get off without thinking about porn. I masturbated everyday to porn, and had amassed downloads that exceeded 3 GB worth.

In light of this, about 2 weeks ago I decided to cut my gigantic porn library out...but halfway through deleting my files, I found myself saving some from deletion. I've gotten it down to about 1 GB, but that's still a lot. I can't bring myself to delete it. When I jelq or do any PE, I watch porn in an attempt to keep a 40-60% erection. When I balloon, I watch porn...I tell myself it's so I can have a visual timer (the video length) so I know when I can finish, but I know that's not the case.

I know a porn addiction can cause serious problems later on in a long-term relationship, but I can't bring myself to stop watching it. Has anyone else been in this situation before and know how to deal with it? Please, I will take any advice...I've tried to take some steps but I just can't stop.

[Hairtrigger Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Hairtrigger]

Porn addiction will affect more than your erection quality, it will affect your social skills, relationships and even your mood. Do whatever is necessary to get rid of it, not entirely but to a level where you are not watchin it everyday. As I have mentioned before, my wife and I watch porn together but that is about the extent of it for me.

[scientificapproach Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close scientificapproach]

HT gives you good advice! Lots of Porn and over masturbation can be very addictive and lead to a great de-sensitization (and some people are probably more susceptible to it than others), which will Im sure have an effect on erection quality, thoughts, relationships and most importantly how you treat women! Sexuality is a great thing, but it can easily be abused and take control of you and take you to a bad place. Self control is important. I think your battle most probably will have to start deep within yourself, you must really think WHY you want to overcome this addiction and how it will (in the long run) be far better and healthier for yourself and your partner (albeit future partner)! Its no good deleteing your porn and hoping you won't look at it again, chances are you will just go and hunt for more soon enough, or like you say not be able to delete your favourite stuff, although that is a start. Unfortnately if your in the situation your in now it may be hard for you to limit porn and still watch some, perhaps you may need a complete break from it all! ...kinda of all or nothing cold turkey approach.

I think the fact you recognise this as a problem is good and is your first step to change if you want to change. Perhaps you may need some professional help/counselling if you really feel this is a big issue and could be very self destructive! Take it one step at a time and be aware of WHY you want to overcome this, focus on those reasons, they may help give you strength when you need to change your habits!

Good luck!

[RIB2211 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close RIB2211]

Thanks guys

[Todger Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Todger]

Hey RIB, as other fellows tell you, you must change something deep within yourself.

I was in a similar situation like yours, not with porn but with a religious girl. No sex other than oral for an year and a half.
I often found myself thinking of other girls during oral sex , not real life girls but imagined, because I was subconsciously aware that we won't go past that point.
And I wanted so badly to stick my todger in her and give her all my frustrations big time! I guess I tried to hide from myself the presence of dissatisfaction. By imagining I was having sex with some virtual girl I could believe the sex session would grow into a sexual ecstasy I longed for.

Before I get to the point, let me tell you that no girl can ever satisfy you the way you can yourself (masturbating). Same goes for women. Your hand always does the move you want and intensity and speed of strokes is just perfect. The grip is always just as tight as it should be.
The point is: Sex is more than a good feeling in your pants!
I want you (for your own good) to give yourself the goal of enjoying sex through your partner. I want you to want to bring your girl to the brink of sexual insanity. That is not easy, but hey, it's the thought that counts
Once you start to give yourself fully to your partner, you will realize it's much more fulfilling than smacking your monkey in vain.
If you don't have a girlfriend, get one. When you masturbate, try not to watch porn, but try to visualize a girl enjoying deeply your every move. Only then will you evolve into a better lover, and we all want that, right? And then the purpose of porn is meaningless.

Really, get rid of this addiction. Since you did the effort to come to this forum and ask for support I truly, sincerely believe you can do it!

[Banana Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Banana]

Okay this thread is a bit old but I think I have the same problem.
I've been masturbating daily for years now and I always do it while watching porn. I can't remember myself masturbating while not watching porn. I have a girlfriend and I have no problems satisfying her sexually, in fact I love to satisfy her. We have good sex. But I think porn and this routinely masturbation might be affecting my erection quality and my "mind".
My girlfriend has never given me oral sex and I haven't given any to her either. As a matter of fact I have never tried oral sex. I do want to try but my girlfriend doesn't like the idea she thinks it is gross (any tips on this would be appreciated). Anyway sometimes I do find myself subconsciously fantasizing about oral sex because that's something I really want to do and I feed that fantasy through porn.
I tried stopping masturbation and porn for a week. But even a small goal like a week is too much, it is too hard.
If I try to masturbate without porn I can't have a rock hard erection just a limp erection and I don't think that is healthy.
Any input would be appreciated.

Edit: I currently have 73GB of porn on my hard drive which is quite depressing.

[jayhawk11 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close jayhawk11]

Banana. Start your goal smaller than the one you had. Try watching porn every other day and masturbating every other day. Then when you feel ready, move on to 2 days then three....then four....and so on.

I used to have the same problem even worse. I would maturbate 4 times a day to porn. Iv'e gotten over it though and I only watch porn when I exercise and edge. Remember that it takes discipline, and that it casn be really hard to say no to yourself. Good luck.

Jayhawk

[Banana Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Banana]

But I really need to prove myself I can stay away from porn and masturbation for at least a week. I'm gonna try it once again, let's see how it goes.

[kingpole Retired ModeratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close kingpole]

Just remember you porn addicts I will be watching you, hehehehhehehehe!

[jayhawk11 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close jayhawk11]

Just remember you porn addicts I will be watching you, hehehehhehehehe!

Yeah....yeah...yeah. I'm not addicted anymore. I just lay back and enjoy it now!!!!

[kingpole Retired ModeratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close kingpole]

Yeah....yeah...yeah. I'm not addicted anymore. I just lay back and enjoy it now!!!!

I guess I get bored of it, I can watch a little bit now and then, then get really bored. I guess it is because porn is so fricken fake.

[IdealPenis Senior Member Member of the Month Feb 2019 Find all posts View Profile Close IdealPenis]

It is said that for a person to get rid of an old, bad habit He(she) must replace it with a new thing. Otherwise sooner or later he will go bach to his habit.
For example:
Replace masturbation with PE;
Replace smoking with gum;
Replace drogs with dead.... I am mean
.
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Sorry for my bad english. Hope you understand.

[jordan485 Member Find all posts View Profile Close jordan485]

Hey guys, I've got another maybe serious problem here.

I recently began to recall sexual experiences of the past few years and resurfaced some startling memories. I had a wonderful girlfriend for about two years; beautiful, very sexy, and the sweetest person I could possibly expect to meet. We never had intercourse due to her religion, but oral was very common. She would even do different things to spicen it up (i.e. strip tease). But looking back at it, sometimes during these acts, I would not find myself thinking about her. I wouldn't be thinking about other girls I knew, but of the girls I'd see on my computer. Some times I couldn't get an erection past 70% and could not get off without thinking about porn. I masturbated everyday to porn, and had amassed downloads that exceeded 3 GB worth.

In light of this, about 2 weeks ago I decided to cut my gigantic porn library out...but halfway through deleting my files, I found myself saving some from deletion. I've gotten it down to about 1 GB, but that's still a lot. I can't bring myself to delete it. When I jelq or do any PE, I watch porn in an attempt to keep a 40-60% erection. When I balloon, I watch porn...I tell myself it's so I can have a visual timer (the video length) so I know when I can finish, but I know that's not the case.

I know a porn addiction can cause serious problems later on in a long-term relationship, but I can't bring myself to stop watching it. Has anyone else been in this situation before and know how to deal with it? Please, I will take any advice...I've tried to take some steps but I just can't stop.

hey i know wat u mean bout the huge porn library, my friend kept loading his usb with porn n i ended up with 11GB of porn, altho i only watched about a 15-20 of the vids (there were about 100 vids)

so yer dont havta delete all of them just the ones that u dont like or seen too much

with ur girl just think of her, i can imagine its hard, a way u can help is to look into her eyes when your doing ..........., or if shes giving oral just look, n acknowledge her, n it should improve but give it time n dont ruin or end the relationship before this happens

[PunaniPunisher Member Find all posts View Profile Close PunaniPunisher]

As a matter of fact I have never tried oral sex. I do want to try but my girlfriend doesn't like the idea she thinks it is gross (any tips on this would be appreciated).

Use some edible flavored lube (i.e. strawberry), u can buy it at any porn store or online. and pour some on ur dick, she will now love sucking ur tasty popsicle.Pour some on her clit, and enjoy her strawberry pink taco (with or without sour cream).

[Larger Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Larger]

Some porn isn't fake mate. There are amateurs. The soft core stuff is definitely fake. I don't know how you fake a shot of a dick going into the va-jay-jay. You mean they don't enjoy it? Oh, well yeah.