time to admit that i need help

[leftfootpain Member Find all posts View Profile Close leftfootpain]

first of all, my goal in making this thread is not really to make it a hot topic or one of the "alive" threads out there. i dont really care about that.
i just made this thread because i need to talk about my addiction, and i cannot tell this to any of my friends or family, because, it is very embarassing.
i just feel that if i let this be heard by anyone, it will be some kind of help for me in quitting.

my addiction is posing as a hot/cute girl in the internet. i am not gay(i have nothing against gays, just pointing it out).
i just really enjoy it when very horny and sick men in the internet, feast on my fake photos, and comment very rude words to the hot/cute girl in the picture, in which im also attracted to.
i get a lot of pictures of a girl that i like and find very hot, make a facebook account of her, and make a fake name etc. post her pictures and attract horny teenagers, old men etc.
i just really love it when they kinda violate the girl that i like, with very sexual and dirty words.
i've been doing this for 5 years aprox, and this is the first year i've tried quitting seriously. so far i've tried 3 times to quit. but failed, i delete the facebook account, the saved photos of the girls, and everything, but i end up just restoring them back.
yesterday was my most recent try in quitting, i changed the password on my facebook so that i wont be able to reactivate it again(typed something like 1454251dsfds in notepad, copy pasted it in the "new password", then closed and never saved the notepad). so i wont have any way of knowing the password again. also did that to the email account, associated with the facebook account. i also deleted photos of the girl in the facebook.

but now, my first day, i already felt the urge to return to this addiction. i tried recovering my password in facebook, and they sent it to my email, but i dont know how to restore my email pass anymore since i dont know the answer to my secret question lol. in other words.. i hit a dead end... NOT.
it might be difficult and time consuming for me to do it again, but i might actually do it.. to make a new email, and facebook, get those thousands of friends again, save all those pictures again one by one.. i hate it and i love it.. i feel like im smeagol in lord of the rings addicted to the ring.

i want to quit for the reasons that even though i know im not gay, i feel gay after i masturbate to the girl's photos with those sexual commons from horny men.
i feel im losing the "man" in me.
it's very very time consuming, and all the time is wasted, which i could have done doing awesome and productive things for my life. im 21 now, i need to change, been doing this since i was 16. damnit.
also.. i worry that one day someday, i might get the urge to get the girl that i like most and love most(in real life) to the hands of dirty horny rude men, im afraid that someday i would want that, that she will be groped and be violated by those kind of men. damn.. so far i dont have that kind of urge for her right now. but i surely hope i wont get that in the future.. i need help.

[closeed258 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close closeed258]

Wow This sounds like some crazy addiction, I've never heard anything like this before.

Sorry I don't know how to help.

[schlittle Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close schlittle]

Hi Leftfootpain, what you describe is exactly what paedophiles do to lure in young boys or young girls: they open fake facebook accounts, post a picture of a hot looking female or boy, then horny teenagers (or paedophiles) make rude comments about the girl or boy, and the paedophile gets a sexual kick from this.

You need to quickly get psychological help because if the police ever found out what you are doing then i'm pretty sure they would mistake you as a paedophile. I'm sorry to say that (it's shocking) but that's the reality of what could happen. And if that did ever happen then you would be in serious serious trouble.

I am being nasty to you (it's true) but i'm just trying to shock you into getting help.

[leftfootpain Member Find all posts View Profile Close leftfootpain]

Hi Leftfootpain, what you describe is exactly what paedophiles do to lure in young boys or young girls: they open fake facebook accounts, post a picture of a hot looking female or boy, then horny teenagers (or paedophiles) make rude comments about the girl or boy, and the paedophile gets a sexual kick from this.

You need to quickly get psychological help because if the police ever found out what you are doing then i'm pretty sure they would mistake you as a paedophile. I'm sorry to say that (it's shocking) but that's the reality of what could happen. And if that did ever happen then you would be in serious serious trouble.

I am being nasty to you (it's true) but i'm just trying to shock you into getting help.

no, no worries man, sometimes a man needs some honest-to-the-bone suggestions.
and i really appreciate you giving me an advice.

but the thing is, im pretty sure i am not a pedophile(at least not for young boys) because i get the kick even with adult guys, like 30+ or so.
and i already removed the facebook account, all the photos and everything, i really want to change and just do awesome and productive things in my life instead of wasting my time with that.. the problem is how to completely stay out of it.. i guess i really should get psychological help.

[leftfootpain Member Find all posts View Profile Close leftfootpain]

Wow This sounds like some crazy addiction, I've never heard anything like this before.

yeah man.. everybody has his/her dark secret.
and this is mine.

all my friends/family think im just a nice guy living normally, making a decent living for himself. but this is me when im alone.

[IAmAMusicalGenius Member Find all posts View Profile Close IAmAMusicalGenius]

I think there are a lot of men who do this. If you go on facebook and look at those add me groups they are filled with hot girls that I suspect are just men.

It's a bit of a weird fetish. It does seem creepy but at the end of the day it's harmless and I don't think you are a bad person.

I think the problem with any addiction that revolves around sex is when you have just ejaculated you can see sense but when you start getting horny all that matters for a while is getting that sexual kick. It's gonna be very hard to for you to quit, but I think if you manage to go a month or so it will get easier because you will feel better about yourself and you will know that if you slip up you will feel like shit. Kind of like when someone gives up smoking. Next time you get the urge to set up a new facebook account go and masturbate first and see if you still want to set one up when you are done. If not then you can just masturbate everytime you get the urge until you've gone a few weeks.

I think the internet was the worst thing that could happen to people who are potential sex addicts.

Good luck.

[somebodyelse Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close somebodyelse]

Wow...

Honestly, From what i can gather in your first post, this is a projection fantasy. You don't feel as though you're gay, and that's understandable. You do, however, feel a little more inclined to want to be this young woman you post up. Not so much just a sexual way, but you want to know what it feels like to be inside of her body, mentally...

It almost seems like you want to know what it's like to be sought after in such a lurid and dirty way. Everybody has their kinky fetishes, but never act on them. As long as you're not luring men to sleep with you, it's fine.

This is only a bit disturbing as it's not really normal in the sense of your NEEDING this to get off. It is an addiction and you have made the right steps to reduce your exposure to it. However, you have to be strong and continue to fight against the actual, physical NEED to feel like this girl... Imagining her body being used by these guys. It's actually hard to stop an addiction, but if you stick close to your guns, you can wane down your needs...

What you have to do is start going into your head more... even if it's still images of the girl in your head, you can pull references from that. Eventually you'll replace the stuff you want to feel with stuff you like to feel. Maybe love from another person that turns you on. but you have to break the chain first.

[schlittle Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close schlittle]

no, no worries man, sometimes a man needs some honest-to-the-bone suggestions.
and i really appreciate you giving me an advice.

but the thing is, im pretty sure i am not a pedophile(at least not for young boys) because i get the kick even with adult guys, like 30+ or so.
and i already removed the facebook account, all the photos and everything, i really want to change and just do awesome and productive things in my life instead of wasting my time with that.. the problem is how to completely stay out of it.. i guess i really should get psychological help.

In no way do i think you're a paedophile but if others (police) ever found out what you are doing then they could mistake you for one. Here's why:

What a paedophile will do on the internet
(1) Set up a fake facebook account. (you do this)
(2) Impersonate a young attractive person so they attract lots of young people. (you do this)
(3) Encourage teenagers to talk rudely about those photos and get a sexual kick from it. (you do this)

You stop at step 3 but the paedophile will carry on to step 4 and 5.

(4) Befriend the young facebook users and arrange to meet them. (you don't do this)
(5) When they meet the young facebook user they will sexually abuse them. (you don't do this)

So if the girl who's photos you are using asked the police to investigate and then the police traced the fake facebook account to your computer then the police could easily jump to conclusions.

So if in normal life you are a nice young man then you really must stop this dark dirty activity for good because it's incredibly shameful.

Good luck and be strong.

[leftfootpain Member Find all posts View Profile Close leftfootpain]

@IAmAMusicalGenius
you're right haha, and that's a good advice, that's actually one of my plans, to just simply masturbate and ejaculate next time i get the urge to do this again. hopefully it will work.

@somebodyelse
wow man.. you hit my point 100%, you got it all right. that's what my addiction is all about. and i feel good that somebody understands it.
thank you. thank you. and hopefully im really making the right steps. not only is this addiction creepy and sick, it is also very time consuming, i spend like half a day sometimes doing this. forgetting my workout(both body and pe), and work. i really need to stop this. im trying to get a new hobby, like wall/rock climbing, or going back to amateur boxing.

and yes, i think i just really need to replace it with something i really love to do. i just noticed/remembered something. i started doing this when i was 16, when me and my first girlfriend broke up.. then just last year, i got into

[EndtheVC Member Find all posts View Profile Close EndtheVC]

I just came across this article last week and your thread reminded me of it:
The Brain on Trial - Magazine - The Atlantic

[dejaview Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close dejaview]

first of all, my goal in making this thread is not really to make it a hot topic or one of the "alive" threads out there. i dont really care about that.
i just made this thread because i need to talk about my addiction, and i cannot tell this to any of my friends or family, because, it is very embarassing.
i just feel that if i let this be heard by anyone, it will be some kind of help for me in quitting.

my addiction is posing as a hot/cute girl in the internet. i am not gay(i have nothing against gays, just pointing it out).
i just really enjoy it when very horny and sick men in the internet, feast on my fake photos, and comment very rude words to the hot/cute girl in the picture, in which im also attracted to.
i get a lot of pictures of a girl that i like and find very hot, make a facebook account of her, and make a fake name etc. post her pictures and attract horny teenagers, old men etc.
i just really love it when they kinda violate the girl that i like, with very sexual and dirty words.
i've been doing this for 5 years aprox, and this is the first year i've tried quitting seriously. so far i've tried 3 times to quit. but failed, i delete the facebook account, the saved photos of the girls, and everything, but i end up just restoring them back.
yesterday was my most recent try in quitting, i changed the password on my facebook so that i wont be able to reactivate it again(typed something like 1454251dsfds in notepad, copy pasted it in the "new password", then closed and never saved the notepad). so i wont have any way of knowing the password again. also did that to the email account, associated with the facebook account. i also deleted photos of the girl in the facebook.

but now, my first day, i already felt the urge to return to this addiction. i tried recovering my password in facebook, and they sent it to my email, but i dont know how to restore my email pass anymore since i dont know the answer to my secret question lol. in other words.. i hit a dead end... NOT.
it might be difficult and time consuming for me to do it again, but i might actually do it.. to make a new email, and facebook, get those thousands of friends again, save all those pictures again one by one.. i hate it and i love it.. i feel like im smeagol in lord of the rings addicted to the ring.

i want to quit for the reasons that even though i know im not gay, i feel gay after i masturbate to the girl's photos with those sexual commons from horny men.
i feel im losing the "man" in me.
it's very very time consuming, and all the time is wasted, which i could have done doing awesome and productive things for my life. im 21 now, i need to change, been doing this since i was 16. damnit.
also.. i worry that one day someday, i might get the urge to get the girl that i like most and love most(in real life) to the hands of dirty horny rude men, im afraid that someday i would want that, that she will be groped and be violated by those kind of men. damn.. so far i dont have that kind of urge for her right now. but i surely hope i wont get that in the future.. i need help.

Not at all uncommon in the age of social networking and the internet. First of all , let me ask you this, are you in a relationship right now or in the not so distant past?...If you have not really been sexually active in the past, and since you are relatively young, there is no need to panic as of yet.

But what may be happening is this, you objectify very attracive girls as only those you really want to be with. Then by putting their pictures in Facebook, you feel you take ownership by being in control of all their details that are presented there for all to see. As Facebook is a very public area, and will most certainly attract alot of sick and pervy types to a very lovely hottie, along with the lewd and suggestive comments, you feel a certain sense of power again. As she is your and only your creation, and illicits such sexually wanton responses, you feel proud and better than the rest.
Maybe you have always wanted that super hot chick that will have other guys lusting over and never could achieve that other than dreaming about it . This could be your only way to feel that sense of superiority and male dominance. And it feels so good to be admired though admittedly as a voyeur that you find it a turnon.
The problem for you right now is at a point where you may have difficulty in forming real relationships in the future. This is not a cut and dry issue to deal with and I am sure a qualified therapist will guide you on the best course of action that is best for you. Good luck in sorting through this mire you now find yourself and for your own sake, nip this problem in the bud before it spirals into something far worse.



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