Chronic Insecurity

[secureman Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close secureman]

I've personally at different times suffered from male insecurity. Of course my biggest one has been my penis 6.5 bp x 5.3 meg for anyone curious. But it also comes into other areas of my life as well such as intelligence, looks, social skills ect. Lately it's been getting to a boiling point. How do you guys deal with this?

[maelsukr Retired ModeratorPEGym EditorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close maelsukr]

We all are prone to that .
My remedy is to look at myself in my mirror each morning .
Connect , and program myself that I'm happy , healthy , safe and free .
Since we're organic computers , we need to self program and not use others ideas of who we are .
Try this for a few weeks .
You'll be amazed at your change .
You know the saying , shit in , shit out ?
Who programing you ?

[secureman Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close secureman]

I get it. And yes I have been letting myself get programmed by a lot of negativity and I need to cut off certain information sources.

[Hockey_NY Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Hockey_NY]

I've personally at different times suffered from male insecurity. Of course my biggest one has been my penis 6.5 bp x 5.3 meg for anyone curious. But it also comes into other areas of my life as well such as intelligence, looks, social skills ect. Lately it's been getting to a boiling point. How do you guys deal with this?

Your penis is your largest insecurity? IMO, if you fix the other aspects you mention, your penis will be a non-issue. Your size is fine, BTW.

[amiok Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close amiok]

Well, your dick should be no where near an insecurity. 6.5x5.3 is above average, borderline big. But as for just plain ole insecurity I feel ya man.

[HotRod Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close HotRod]

I think it's something built into our socialization from a young age. No matter how good looking, smart, etc., most guys seem to deal with some level of uncertaintly or feelings of inadequacy in some area of life. The way I deal with it now, is that I'm so sick of it that I started confronting it directly when it starts. I basically call bullshit on it and try to consciously stop it. It has never helped me acheive anything, so I just make a conscious effort to step outside the reach of those feelings. Not easy. I don't really use affirmations because for me that just feeds into the same ego traps. I try to focus on what I want.

Owen Cook of Real Social Dynamics has an intensive DVD seminar called The Blueprint which attempts to help guys discover their own core confidence. The orientation there has to do with "success with women," but I think it touches on so many other aspects of our experience as men (looks, money, acheivement, sex, etc.) that it's applicable even to guys who just want to feel better.

[secureman Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close secureman]

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Well the insecurity with my penis stems from feeling like I have to be the biggest a woman has had. I never used to care about it but unfortunately I picked a few not so nice gfs in the past. But ultimately It's my responsibility to try and change my personal beliefs.

[pterodactyl Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close pterodactyl]

Its bigger than mine =)

[secureman Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close secureman]

No it isn't you're huge.

[pterodactyl Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close pterodactyl]

I bet your volume is considerably more than mine. You have a .5in girth "advantage" over me. You have a thick one man you should not be worried about it.

[actionbuddy Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close actionbuddy]

How do you guys deal with this?

Meditation... or a good bottle of red wine (medication!)...

[amiok Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close amiok]

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Well the insecurity with my penis stems from feeling like I have to be the biggest a woman has had. I never used to care about it but unfortunately I picked a few not so nice gfs in the past. But ultimately It's my responsibility to try and change my personal beliefs.

Listen hoss, even if they had bigger than you it wasn't by much. Stop thinking that 8x6 guys are all over the place. When girls talk big it is much closer to you than ya think. You have nothing to worry about.

Some of us have been the smallest a girl has had.seen, so count your blessings.

[actionbuddy Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close actionbuddy]

Or, you can do like many men do and marry a very petite virgin!

[TJM19 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close TJM19]

I am in a similar situation probably even worse. I am a good looking kid, athletic with an above average dick but suffer from stress, depression and performance anxiety. I have always been very hard on myself since an early age. Resisted taking my shirt off unless I was ripped with a 6 pack. Was always nervous the first time a girl went down my pants for the first time. Always thinking about things wayyyy too much. It is holding me back from succeeding in all aspects of life and is progressively getting worse as time goes on. My plan is too start taking vitamins, eating healthy, daily exercise, yoga and meditation. I need to reprogram how I think and how I react to specific thoughts. You should really consider therapy or learn to do it yourself with meditation.

[TJM19 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close TJM19]

Or, you can do like many men do and marry a very petite virgin!

Those don't exist these days.